2006-12-31 00:26:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There is unresolved anger between you and your sister.
I have a similar situation which has lasted for years - we can very easily push one another's buttons, we know each other so well!
I've learned to KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT and edit EVERYTHING I say and to not react or take offense at anything my sister says. I am not always successful but do my best. Keeping my mouth shut often saves me from allowing a situation from turning into a lousy sitation, holiday, reunion, etc. ... :-)
2006-12-31 00:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by americansneedtowakeup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sibling fighting is normally over issues of rivalry, parental preferences, inequal physical assets or intelligence. Its normal and healthy to a certain extent, but could become dangerous, painful and destructive as you grow.
You both must understand that a sister can be the best friend and support system one needs in this world. Sit down and talk about your differences. See how you can resolve or accept these differences. If you cannot change the way others affect your relationship---you can change your own attitudes.
Write down good points you see in each other and read them out so each feels appreciated and understood. Affirm your family bond and love for each other. Share each ones success and troubles. Extend concern and support.Back off when there is friction and give yourself time and space to cool down and then attempt to address issues. This is all better if it is done mutually. I am sure given time and the right intentions, you will learn to deal constructively with your differences and hurts. BOL
2006-12-31 00:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by itsmehuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop it. one of you will have to be the one to make peace and then not hold to their opinions so hard that it becomes a fight. One of you will have to be the one to give in more, to say sorry first, to be nicer than the other. Since you are the one asking the question it will have to be you. If you cannot do that then you will keep fighting. You should talk this over with your sister and see if you cant come to some agreements.
2006-12-31 00:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question #1. Why do you fight?
If you are living together and there is no option but to share things, since you are the wise one, schedule out a plan and don't try to implement it on her but quitely do it for yourself. Try to avoid situation where you have to compete with each other. Move on to the other side of the room. Space out.
Since you seem to be the one understanding how disgusting a fight can be and how it irritates a human from within, you better have a quite and simple talk with her. I am not saying what Mahatma said, "if anybody slaps on one cheek, show them the other'. Those days are gone by. Sometimes, healthy competition is also good for personality development.
Compete if you have to but don't fight. Talking out things is the best you can do.
2006-12-31 00:32:11 · answer #4 · answered by Josephene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are both in a good, non-fighting mood, sit down and make up a list of rules for yourselves about fighting.
If you make it a bit of fun it may divert your attention away from getting annoyed. Also - ask your parents to help, by giving you two a reward for not fighting... for example:
List the things that you usually fight about -- and next to it, write an action that you will take, in stead of fighting: for example:
1. "She Took Something That Belongs To Me" ---
Make a RED CARDBOARD BOX called 'Neutral Territory'. If someone has taken something that belongs to you - instead of getting angry and starting a fight - take the box to the person and ask them to place the item in the box....
Ofcourse - you have to BOTH want to try and follow the rules. Ask your parents to help you enforce the rules.
If it helps you feel better: ALL sisters fight a lot. Its part of growing up. You will, when you are older really get over it.
2006-12-31 00:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Biker B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing what types of things you fight about makes it harder.But it is normal for different personalities to clash.Have both of you tried to see what things you have in common,and or things you both agree on??That might be a start.Just remember you are family,and try to work things out.Your fighting effects the family,so maybe they have some ideas too! Good Luck.
2006-12-31 00:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by stressed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sisters and brothers fight...........and siblings of diff sexes do too..I have a son and daughter........they fight........LOL. Just try to find what "sets off" the other one......and try not doing it.......or sitting down talking it out to see if both of you........and not just one.......wish to stop the fighting.
2006-12-31 00:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by purefire41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop. Why fight? It only makes both of you feel bad.
If i had more details i could answer this question better.
2006-12-31 00:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont stop when you grow up you will miss that fights when you were alone or you were married :)
2006-12-31 00:31:50 · answer #9 · answered by Rose Dew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to each other
share secrets with each other.
go shopping together
or go to a park and sit on the swings....
2006-12-31 00:32:58 · answer #10 · answered by praavita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋