what do I do now?

Question

Hes gone out of the picture for good now since we broke up!how do I move on with my life?were do I go fromhere?what do I have to do in order to move on with my life as quickas he did!I really need some healing but how do I go about i?

Answer 1

You have not mentioned if you are his wife or gf, and how long your relationship with him as been on, but It is really a positive thought on your part, that you really werent whining, and begging for any self pity...instead you chose to move on with you life. Thats good. And how do you move on ? Obviously the relationship broke up due to some bad of yours, and some bad of his, and in case if it is not your fault anyway, this would be a good time to do things you were unable to do while in a relationship. Like explore yourself, doing things a different way, following a whole new routine, and you should take the most of this time to heal and to love yourself. Think also of this, that instead of making you feel horrible on the fact that his lifes moves on quickly (which is normal), you ought to sum up your courage and move on yourslef, cos' this guy was quick at getting over you. Dont you think that is sending you a message that he really wasnt' in 'love' with you ? It will not be quick for you, cos' you were very much in love with him, but thats over, gone, put a full stop there, and dont blame yourself, or rewind the past again and agian.

Look forward to tomorrow, and the coming days ahead...with the New Year, cheer urself by doing some special shopping for yourself. Go join some classes/groups, some activities, Involve yourself so much with people that everything looks much better than the heart ache you have. It would seem like forever. Like it is so impossible to forget anything, but this is what you must try, cos' you do have a ''will'' to move on. Healing comes over a period of time. And this is in your hands. Talk to a counsellor/best friend/sister/brother, someone very close to you, and someone to whom you can cry your heart out. It feels really really good after you cry a lot, and let it all out of you. Take everything a step at a time. And relax.

You are now so free, although you may be missing and feeling awful, from my side of view, I feel this is a time for you to heal, and heal positively.

Answer 2

Everything can be started over again. The slates can be wiped clean. All of you in here can finally say on this night that your ex is no longer a part of your life. And why should he be? There has to be some point in time where you just throw up your hands and say, "ENOUGH! I will NOT let you drag down my life anymore!! It is a new year, and YOU are not a part of it! BEGONE!!!"

Symbolisms come in well right here, for those of you who need help with closure through alliteration. I picked up this nifty little trick back when my husband left me for a crackhead ten years ago.

You'll need 4 candles (votives or tealights, don't matter), an empty coffeecan or other fireproof vessel that can stop the candles from blowing out, a pen and a piece of paper.

Sit down somewhere and write out a goodbye letter to him. Make it as vile or as positive as you want...don't matter, as long as it's honest and coming from the heart. Try to include any memories of him that really make you sad.

When you're done, go outside, put the candles into the coffeecan (or something else) and light them. Now say goodbye to him as if he was standing right in front of you...as you do this, tear up the paper you have written your letter on. Piece by piece, place the papers into the coffeecan as you repeat the following:

"The lesson you taught me has been learned, you are now dismissed so I may move on. I am laying your memory and your ghost to rest, your presence is no longer necessary or wanted in my life. Begone!"

Feel his negativity that has been haunting you drain from your head, flow past your heart, through the soles of your feet and into the ground, where it belongs. Breathe in the fresh air around you, and visualize the new positivity coming from the New Year's air around you. Take the ashes from the coffeecan and stomp them into the ground..once again, where it belongs.

Try this, seriously...you'll feel better.

Answer 3

I've always heard the best way is to go out and get laid. Not sure this really works as fast as other's say it does. But, I'd take some time to enjoy the peace and serenity of being free.

enjoy the freedom, explore your feelings, re-discover who you are and what your desires really are.

Answer 4

Get out of the house , meet people, take a class at the community college, go to parties.....this is a party night! Go out and have some fun. There's a good guy just waiting to meet you. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Don't think about him anymore. Continue your life with somebody who close to you now. Imagine that he's a bird that you always keep in the cage. Now the bird has already gone, even though you can see it but it's not yours anymore.

If it's happened because of your false, it's your responsibility to forget him. You make him leave, now you have to responsible for living without him. Sometimes, we let big fish in our hands gone to catch a little fish, now we have to satisfy with that one because we will never find the big fish anymore.

Leave him and do what you think it's right. I hope.....................

Answer 6

hang out w/ really good friends and start having a good time. Get rid of anything that reminds you of him. Life to to short to be sad over someone that doesn't want you back

Answer 7

Do what feels right.Did u get closure on the relationship?

Answer 8

relax, take a breather and enjoy some time with yourself. rediscover yourself and it will make you that much more attractive to future mates.

Answer 9

hey it probly bothers him a lot more than u think just try to find someone else oh and thanks for the idea