I told my close female friend that I needed time away from her to clear my head after she kept giving me undecisive answers if we'll go further than friends.She said if that's how I feel then she respects that and that maybe I do need time to sort my head out.
The conversation ended on this note, with her saying:
She then said there are too many ppl in the world who are 2 faced and selfish,who don't value individuals like she does.Is hurt that OTHER ppl don't value ppl the way she does.Anyhow.enough.MEANING???
Not spoken for 3 weeks now(the longest ever!)Have I hurt her?Would she still be thinking about me?The friendship over?
I've tried to call her 3 times-no answer and have txt her-no reply.Will she get in touch with me or has she decided she wants nothing to do with me anymore?
I really want to be friends-have accepted thats all we'll be.Is there anything else I can do?
I regret everything I've done...she's really special.
2006-12-30 23:15:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
For xmas I sent her a xmas card and a small teddy(saying special friend)-just saying merry xmas and happy new year. I wrote a short message how special and unique she is+ how important the friendship is to me.
Am not sure if she has received it yet.Would she get in touch after receiving it?
How long should I wait for her to get back in touch before calling again?
p.s. the txt didn't mention any of this-just kept it simple e.g. hey,how are you? etc
2006-12-30 23:16:37 · update #1
Hi in ur quest you mentioned,
"She then said there are too many ppl in the world who are 2 faced and selfish,who don't value individuals like she does.Is hurt that OTHER ppl don't value ppl the way she does.Anyhow.enough.MEANING??? "
Im thinking maybe she felt pressured and or on the spot persay for an answer and you basically showed her a lil bit of aggressivness and impatience (2 faced like u showed her one beautiful man and bammm out came this kinda ugly or controlling man by not allowing her time to make a choice so she said that remark as a hint maybe i think. So it looks like in the long run she respected your wishes by leaving u be and left the rest up to you.
What exactly did u want meaning more than friends or further was it sexually?? maybe pressured she felt. Why or what do u miss? Let her know if u can.
try emailing her saying ur a guy and guys sometimes too can make bad choices
"not intentionally just not knowing how to handle ur feelings cuz maybe these feeling u never felt before and they were new to you", an that was this one time by losing her as a friend and u learned this by the break apart an miss the friendship u had and would be grateful if u can just take things back from there no strings nice and slow and what will be will be.
be honest she sounds like a smart female that not only knows how to let go when asked by someone to do so even if it may hurt her but also teach someone the true term,
"Dont know what u got till its gone"
good luck to ya ....wish u both the best.
2006-12-31 00:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by NatureOrNurture 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from what I have read here, it seems to me that you hurt her when you told her that you needed time to clear your mind. Honestly the majority of the time when me or my girlfriend tells the other that we need time to ourselves, the relationship usually does not go any farther. This is not true for everyone, however this might be what is wrong with your friend. She is probably embarrassed because she obviously thought that you wanted the same thing she does, when in all actuality you do not. I do not really know what to tell you on how to get in touch with her is she is not answering your calls or texts. Write her a note and drop it off by her house, make sure that it explains how you feel and that you do not want to lose her as a friend. If you think that you might could have a relationship with her, then tell her that, I am sure that would make her happy.
Good Luck
2006-12-31 07:26:37 · answer #2 · answered by Chris H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was one of those female this situation happened to. Read what happened to me in my question what would make a man want to enquire about his ex. All men arn't like this but when a man says he needs time to think Id leave him and say 'have all the time in the world'.
Look at the end of the day if you like her, its upto you to do everything you can to try to show her. Send her a sorry card, tell her you only think of her I dont know tell her whatever you figure it out. You gave her uncertantiy, which takes away contol and makes a person feel lost.
If youare meant to be togeather it will happen if not it wasnt meant to be. A very harsh reality and it hurts I know.
I wish my ex really wanted me back but I know he's user.
2006-12-31 10:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by Hybrid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wear joop when you next see her cos apparently it smells like Harpic. If she is as special as you think why doesn't she respond to you in the way that you want. Perhaps it would be better to seek someone out that responds to your passion without the need for teddy bears and endless questions in your heart.
2006-12-31 07:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry pal but you blew it big time. She is hurt and she is done with you. What did you think was going to happen when you did what you did? You should regret what you have done, it was all totally stupid. Now you learn from your mistakes and move on with your life. Don't add to the problem by becoming a stalker.
You lost, now learn a lesson and move on. You blew this one.
2006-12-31 07:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I regret everything I've done...she's really special.
^^^^^ tell her that. even though she isnt responding to you, theres a pretty good chance that shes listening to your voice mails or reading your text messages. after you tell her that, let her be. dont call, dont text, dont email, dont stalk. give her some more time to think and if she comes around, great. but if she doesnt, im afraid your friendship isnt meant to be.
2006-12-31 07:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by miss_renaenae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, i think that u hav tried ur best to persuade her . just try to talk to her face to face. n all also try to remove the misunderstanding that she is going through. u r a nice person n she is really lucky to have a guy like u. ALL THE BEST!
2006-12-31 07:21:58 · answer #7 · answered by rachita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off totally...... it usually works. She will soon wonder why you are not calling or texting her. If you were really good friends she will come back to you. If she does not come back to you accept gracefully it is over.
2006-12-31 07:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you tried to push her into something she didn't want by threatening to withdraw your friendship. She called your bluff.
xxB
2006-12-31 07:17:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your history.
2006-12-31 07:25:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋