We broke up 5months ago and I still have feelings for him.I spoke to him on xmas day for the first time since we broke up. We spent 1.5h on the phone just talking about our issues and I think we've finally got rid of all the negative emotions we had after the breakup.
I want him back though, and he keeps saying we want different things and he cannot make me happy, there is some truth in this,but there is also another side to it.
He has been hurt really bad a couple of years ago and he still has not gotten over it. I feel that he wants to deal with this,move on and have a normal relationship.I also feel that he might be reaching out for help to me, but he's too proud to just say it. It almost feels like he wants me to convince him to take me back, because that way he would not have made the first step.
Basically, he's really messed up!
I really love him,though and desperately want to help, but it does get too much sometimes. Should I just give up on him?Seems so inhumane,but....
2006-12-30 23:07:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
First off, who called whom? Did he call you?
For the most part, if men say no. they mean it. We women, on the other hand, frequently have more complicated meanings in our yes and no.
I've always interpreted, "it's not you, it's me" as just an attempt to ease the breakup. Much nicer than a "f**k off, it's over."
If you continue to be convinced you were meant to be together, see if he'd be receptive to couples' counseling.
Good luck and I hope things turn out well for you both.
2006-12-30 23:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by Patricia S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both of you are serious, not one of you, both, don't just re lie on yourselves to fix this. Remember, that is why both of you are in this position now.. Seek professional guidance on marriage and family..Check local medical insurance, some of them cover some costs.
2006-12-31 07:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by Spencer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well babe , this is up to you to decide that , but i see he is an undecided guy , if you really love him from the deep of your soul give a second chance for this love , if you feel he loves you as well , it's worth ..... pray and talk to God , he`s gonna show you the best decision to take ...... good luck
2006-12-31 07:16:33 · answer #3 · answered by wbaiers_sch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love each other, continue to try and work things out. Good luck.
2006-12-31 07:13:06 · answer #4 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-31 07:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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how to handle this
dont worry u will do it
2006-12-31 07:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by Spicy Ketchup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋