hello everyone, my fiance has just left me, reson being he cannot take anymore. Last night we were sat with his dad and brother hen his brother randomly said that my fiance must need glasses as he is with me, and when i replied with a "thanks" in a sarcastic way he said its true look at you!
this really hurt me and i just went very quiet. Then my fiance announced that i had the hump and demanded to know who it was with.....so i became really angry that he would do this to me.
aside from this we took his parents on holiday for 3 days which we really couldnt afford but wanted to do something nice, his mum did not stop moaning about everythingm it was cold, or she was tired, nothing was good enough. Then she proceeded to tell me that i should change!!!! i have never had so many comments from people about the way i look, and its usually positive ones if any.....now because my fionce wont stick up for me he has said he cant cope and is leaving me. i am so upset...any advice?
2006-12-30 23:04:32 · 13 answers · asked by princesskel82 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hi guys thanks for the advice, he reckons he brother was joking and that im too sensitive, its crap why would anybody say that joking or not.......i hate new year!!! what a joke, supposed to be getting married in august got my dress and evrything! how can he be so cruel
2006-12-31 01:13:37 · update #1
sorry to keep adding bits but im so low at the moment, all of your answers make sense! yet why am i still feeling like i want him, i know i cant be with a guy who doesnt put me first and we have had this row before and he says that he will try and that he didnt realise he wasnt....i think i just need some courage to say enough is enough, maybe if i go along with the breakup he will realise what he has lost?? as for his brother, any normal person joke or no joke would not come out with such a personal statement.....oh i forgot to mention his brother still lives at home, single and 33! could be an element of jelousy there i think!! grrrrrr how dare he!
2006-12-31 02:31:39 · update #2
I think your fiance's brother was incredibly rude, and as your fiance didnt stick up for you then he is weak and not worthy of your love. This whole family dont sound very nice. He cant cope and he is leaving you....... best thing! I know you may not think so now, but believe me, having been married to a weak man, you really dont want to go there! Take my advice, be glad this relationship is over, and dont marry a man who doesnt defend his woman, and put her FIRST!
Good luck for the new year.
2006-12-31 00:33:22 · answer #1 · answered by Caroline 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello Princess,
Aisscchhh that brother of his needs a slap across the ear. So does your fiance. How rude can people be , so insensitive. I don't think i would have been able to sit there while people were so insulting. Your fiance has no guts, really, he should have told his brother to apologise and as for the parents they are just ungrateful.
If this continues and he lets people abuse you and does nothing about it imagine what it will be like once you are married. Mom, moaning , brother being mean. I think to blame you and ask you why you had the hump was pretty unreasonable, explain to him what happened, tell him that it hurt you and that you would appreciate him standing up for you.
In spite of all this i wish you a Happy New Year and wish you well.
Ps remember you can only get upset when you allow people to do so and that is going to happen often in your life. Take things with a pinch of salt in future and i hope your fiance catches a wake-up.:))
2006-12-31 08:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Princess
Him, nor his family, sound the nicest people on earth. You can do so much better. It doesnt sound like he should put up with you anymore, should be the other way round. His brother sounds like a complete wanka. I suggest yoy leave them well alone. They are trash, the whole family. Ungrateful tossas.
I hope this does not spoil your new year. Go out with your mates, have fun with them. Im sure they'll take your mind off it. Put these people in your past and make sure you dont go back! They are not worth it. Remember Princess, you are better than them. You dont need or deserve that. Have a great night tonight. Dont let a few immature tw@ts spoil your night, or your life. There is someone so much better out there!
Good Luck and have a Happy New Year!
2006-12-31 12:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, he did you a favour even if it doesn't feel like it right now.
What type of guy is that? He doesn't stick up for you now in front of his family. Let them get away with being openly nasty to you? So say the brother was joking, surely HE should have said something to make you feel good, like a compliment. He didn't have to pick up a fight.
Honestly reading your story, my heart goes to you because I can only start to imagine how hurt and humiliated you must be feeling, but also I think this guy did you a real favour; And you know what, wait till you meet your true Mr Right, this one will be crawling after you.x
Happy new year and look after yourself; It's a frest start; Rebuild your self confidence and you are bound to do MUCH better than that sorry excuse for a man.x
2006-12-31 09:45:59 · answer #4 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not a nice situation to be in, but I personally feel that you did exactly the right thing to stick up for yourself, ok so maybe you shouldn't have said it in a sarcstic way, but on the spur of the moment it is hard. If you hadn't stuck up for yourself then all of this could get worse and worse because he would know that he could walk all over you even if he was joking. About his Mum moaning, well from my experience thats all that Mums do, but we still love them, so accept that...and don't talk to him about your feelings in that field as that will push him away more. I think the next best move (as it seems that you are upset he is going to leave) is to keep the strength and say ok, if he wants to leave then that whats he must do....because by the sounds of this, this guy wouldn't want to be without you anyway and is only threatening it (he seems a bit like he feels the need to push his weight with you) and if he really does leave....well babe then sad to say but it is for the best...you really don't want to get married to someone and be a divorce statistic in a year or so's time because he is not treating you right. Give him the space to leave and beleive you me if he thinks he may have lost you and doesn't want to lose you he will soon buck his ideas up and treat you in the way you deserve to be treated.....loads of luck and love....and happy new year.....
2006-12-31 09:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by happyballerinagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man sound like a toad and you are best of without him and of been right , if this man chose you to be his wife and is not willing to defend you against his bully of a family he is just not worth it his very rude and well in this situation nothing you every did would ou should be the most important person in the world to him he obviously cant cut the apron strings and you should not have to put up with this
midnight tonight is the start of a whole new year put it all down to experience and find someone who will put you first and treat you like there most prised possession
i know that you are hurting now but in time your pain will stop and your heart will mend and you can move on
a wise old lady once told me " you have kissed enough frogs now you have found your prince" and every princess needs a prince xxxxx
GOOD LUCK AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR XXXXXXXXXX
2006-12-31 09:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by justme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is weak and his family is codependent. In either case it sounds as if you would be better off without them. I am sorry you are dealing with break up over the holidays. Hang out with your mates and be yourself. Some one will come along who deserves you.
2006-12-31 08:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by Beth P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin' I am soooo sorry...what a jerk and his family sound so insensitive and arrogant...forget him and them...move on Hun and find a real man...one they'll love and respect you...what a load of feckers! and I am sorry again...I'm sure you are beautiful and that they are just being snobbish or maybe they are just scared they'll loose him...they obviously have issues what ever the case.....Good luck Hun and happy new year...
2006-12-31 08:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by JackLove 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously a bunch of gits. You're better off away from them.
Find someone you deserve and fall in love.
2006-12-31 08:24:37 · answer #9 · answered by ferret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too be honest you are better off without him.Know it will be hard to do,but believe me,it will get easier.
Good luck in 2007.x
2006-12-31 08:12:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋