if you lost someone trust how you can gain it back?

Answer 1

Think of it this way.....TRUST is like virginity. Once you lose 'it', you don't get it back.

Answer 2

It has been proven that for every 1 thing you do wrong, people will not consider it equall until you do 8 things right. So you not only have to prove to someone once that you are trust worthy but another 7 times after. So this could be a long and very strenuous process.

So the 1st question should be
Is it worth it?

And the 2nd
What does this person value most and how do i use this to make them see i'm a good person.

Answer 3

Trust is a very fragile thing. It takes years to build and seconds to destroy. The only thing you can do to gain it back is to earn it. You will start earning trust again by being honest and open in all that you do and by showing that you can keep the promises that you make. It will probably be a long, slow road to build the trust that you once had, but as you develop and show your integrity you will begin to earn that trust.

Answer 4

Trust is often used as weapon. A punishment tool perceived as such. The truth is someones word was broken between an agreed upon commitment. What you have done is acted on your weakness to do a specific act or thing. When it involves a committed relationship it means the whole world(women in particular). The only thing is to really put yourself in that situation of betrayal and relive it over and over again until you can express it in a way that the person that felt the most pain from the let down gets that you got it. Only when that person gets you got it there is a chance of rebuilding that commitment to keeping and owning your word(which interprets to the word trust) The key is doing instead of saying. Action will only reverse,but the memory of broken trust will remain forward until the person's betrayed commitment acknowledges it. THEN "Forgiveness" is realized.

Answer 5

Trust is the hardest thing to ever gain back. It will take a lot of time and a lot of patience to really ever gain it back. You will have to show that you are willing to do almost anything there is to gain their trust back. Its going to be hard, but it is not impossible.

Answer 6

I think you need love and respect. Respect for another person is something that is essential in a relationship. All men want respect and all women want to be loved. IF one operates in that arena anything is possible. Biblically, love covers a multitude of sins. Love from a man to a wife is a commandment and respect is something God commands women to have for their men. If a relationship can be built on those two ingredients, then I think a partnership will be successful. THe other ingredients essentially are integrity and dignity as well as maturity and a willingness to apologise and never to do the same thing again.

I think that when a man has taken another woman while being married, is the most soul destroying thing he can ever do to his wife. Sometimes he does it without thinking, sometimes it is because he selfishly desires greener pastures and thinks with the wrong brain. 99% go home but few are recieved unconditionally. Forgiveness is another tool and also God's command.

People wipe their feet on the Bible but in actual fact if we were obedient to the things God has set in order for us to live by, we really would have peaceful lives. If all he wants from us is to drop all the ugly things in our lives and each one of us did it, wouldnt earth be a nicer place to be. We would share our wealth and care for one another. We would love one another . There would be no greed shame, crying, unhappiness, smut and dirty behaviour. The problem is the choices we make.

My advise to you is to go and apologise and admit your guilt and then to simply begin treating your partner with respect and love even if for a while you are resisted at first and more than likely that is going to happen. Time is a great healer. If you repent of what you did to break trust, then never step over the line again,.

Buy the book LOVE AND RESPECT by Dr Emerson Eggerichs and read it and then give a copy to your partner. Be positive and do not entertain negative thoughts and that is done by taking your thoughts captive. As soon as a negative thought comes your way immediately delete it and replace it with a positive thought. Become confident again. We all make mistakes. No one doesnt.
No one is perfect, but if your error has brought you to this point where you realize that what you did was wrong, change your heart today and never ever make the same mistake again, NO MATTER WHAT!

I really hope you might consider God in your life. Without him life sucks. With him life is awesome, hard but worth everything you learn. You can continue swimming downstream if you wish but like ther rest of the fish goingdownstream, you will go over the edge of the waterfall. If you swim upstream it shows you have guts and are accountable afterall! You choose, its all up to you. I can merely encourage you.

Good luck to you and may God richly bless you.

Answer 7

The best way to rebuild trust is to show via action that you can be trusted. An apology and explanation may be suitable but if the situation is one that will bring upon more anger, it may be best to apologize and leave it alone. Over time, trust can be restored but a violation of trust is hard to forget even if forgiven.

Answer 8

It's gonna be tricky. The same thing happened with me and my boyfriend, and he actually smoked and hid it from me for six whole months... by the time I found out, I was much angrier that he had lied for so long than I was about the smoking. I was angry for quite awhile but finally we had a long talk and he explained that he had started again (he had quit before we started dating) during a really stressful time, then he got re-addicted and was having a hard time quitting again. He didn't tell me because he was afraid I would break up with him. Anyway... what I'm trying to say is, sit your girlfriend down and be totally honest with her about your reasons for smoking and explain that you really don't want to smoke (if that's true of course) and that you want her help in quitting. Then, actually accept her help and don't make that mistake again!

Answer 9

I think you will never get it back .Personally when someone betrays my trust there is no turning back .Think about it ,even if someone wants really to trust again there will be always this inside voice doubting even if it just like for 15 seconds its remains a doubt .!

Answer 10

HA i am right here with you man...I broke up with my girl and regretted it about 3 weeks later, its now 3 months since we broke up and we are really only now beggining to be close friends again, and she still doesnt trust me enough for us to date again, besides the fact that shes got a rebound guy....if this is a romantic issue my suggestions would be to be their friend, dont be overbearing, when they ask for space give it to them, tell them you understand whatever you did to lose their trust was wrong and you are deeply sorry for it...after that all you can do is wait, if you are there for them everytime they need somebody and you dont waver in your stance, they will begin to trust you again...its been 3 months for me and I got several more to go but its working...if its just a general friend.family issue then the only thing that will cure it is time...make sure you apologize for whatever went wrong, take em out for drinks every once in awhile or dinner or something and other than that just wait, its gonna suck and its gonna be hard but its the only choice you have if you want their trust back

Answer 11

It depends on each person's character. There are people who can forgive and forget easily and some other who find it difficult to trust again if they are hurt... Unfortunately I belong to the second kind of people, but i think that if someone asks for forgiveness with real regret, we need to make some effort to forgive. Beside this is what God taught us!