My husband is always sleeping!!
He stays awake all night playing 'Warcraft' online, gets to bed about 4am then sleeps all morning. I honestly wouldn't mind but the kids keep asking for him and every time I try to wake him up (after I make sure he's had his 8 hrs sleep) he refuses to get up.
When he does eventually get up he goes back onto Warcraft again (after playing with the kids for about 10 minutes).
I've tried talking to him (without nagging) about the neglection of the kids but it doesn't seem to do anything...
2006-12-30 22:49:49 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Gee...I wonder how you are living off of warcraft...
If this is the sum total of your married life then you might want to try divorce, and next time marry a mature man instead of a immature little boy.
2006-12-30 22:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I would try to talk to him in a caring and concerned way (which it sounds like you may have done already), and then if he doesn't respond in any acceptable fashion... then I would get to the point where I would be giving him a ultimatum. I know that can sound harsh, but... He needs to know that he can either take a part in your family and you and your kid's life (AND possibly give up the warcraft) or... he can leave, and be done with the marriage. I know it is hard, but seek counseling. If he won't go, then you should at least! In time, a counselor will help you to be able to confront him in a healthy way... and even possibly make the tough decision to end your marriage. I am sorry it all sounds so painful. I hope that you and your husband can work it out, and that he comes around to realize how he is behaving is wrong.
2006-12-30 23:28:12 · answer #2 · answered by KSmom24 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Warcraft??? I'd give him Warcraft alright! Here's what to do - rip the computer out of the wall and sell it to a pawn shop. Cancel your internet subscription too, as it sounds like you're the one paying for it - he doesn't have a job right? Tell him to get out of his lazy bed, get a grip and get a job or you and the kids will throw him out. He has no right to treat you like this. He needs to grow up and start realising what is important in his life.
2006-12-31 03:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you have enough kids in the house time to be a dad the game will always be there your kids are only young onces! 8hrs sleep [sissy la la] cant remember the last time i had 8hrs sleep. hay son take off the high heals put down the controller and put your kids first instead of your self they should always come first!!! people like you are the reason we have disrespectful little hellions running around! keep on nagging if it don't work leave him!!!!
2006-12-30 23:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by csfretripper 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well what you gotta do is get rid of that warcraft game and start laying down some ground rules, the kids need him and all he's doing is wasting his life away for the sake of some stupid game (he's hooked)...he's trapped in his own little world and cant see whats on the outside...you need to kick him up his **** and tell him to buck his ideas up or you'll leave him....try nagging next time, he's obviously NOT taking you serious enough
2006-12-30 23:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Holy crap! my father does the same thing! Although I dont live with my parents. it really ruined my moms life with him. He gets up at 4am to play the game and wont finish until 12pm. My mom is taking care of his 96 yr old mother, because my dad refuses to or is too busy with that game. If you can successfully stop him from playing i wish you luck, that game is a horrible addiction and i know people who lost their jobs over it.
2006-12-31 02:18:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jene 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your husband is trying to hide away from something by escaping into this game.he sounds depressed to me and uses the game to ignore his feelings then when he gets bored of that/becomes so tired he sleeps(which is another way of ignoring things).firstly you need to make him realise his situation and with men nagging at them doesnt work you have to be obvious.i think the best bet is to firstly sabotage the computor or internet(try and delete a program,or with the internet cut a wire/take out a fuse)this will then make him get to a desperation point where he will have to face his demons this is when he will need you most.you ned to try and get to the bottom of the problem and i expect he will need medicine to get him out of his depression-a talk with a doctor (or nhs direct 08454647)is a definate either just you or ideally both of you.you need to put a stop to this as its not healthy for you/your family or husband!BE STRONG HE NEEDS YOU.
2006-12-31 02:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by sammy06 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't consider divorce or separating. Mar rage isn't seen as the sacred bond it used to be. Fight for your husband!
He's that man you fell in love with, He has just wondered off a little. Take drastic measures. Show him that you and and your children care enough about him to go to the extreme to get him back. Whatever you do, don't forget you are doing it from LOVE, so don't do hateful things. Anything done driven by love is hard to ignore. Don't be afraid, the worst that could happen is already happening.
2006-12-31 00:10:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Nagging isnt the answer. Just respect him regardless and let him play. All boys need to play. IF you leave him alone he will soon tire of the game. THis might just be his way of letting off a little steam. Give the man space and dont nitpick!
Good luck with your decision.
2006-12-31 00:26:43 · answer #9 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Addicted to online gaming, not working, neglecting you and the kids - and you're still with him... why?
Sabotage the computer or the Internet connection (ask someone who can tell you how) and see what happens when he's off it for a few days.
2006-12-30 23:05:47 · answer #10 · answered by Autumn Breeze 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋