..but what I really need is a husband. I'm already disabled with a spinal disease and just found out I probably have MS. I am treated with the utmost respect and tender loving care but the problem is that my husband treats me like a child. I'm more like his patient than his wife. He takes good care of me but doesn't treat me like a woman any more. I've tried talking, going to counseling and all I want is for him not to worry so much about my health and for us to have the same wonderful mind blowing sex we used to have. Any suggestions as to how I can convince him that I am not made of glass, that I won't break, and that I still have the same needs I always had? Please be serious guys. My marriage is really on the line here.
2006-12-30 21:40:00 · 8 answers · asked by outdone 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Scenario.
Your in your favorite chair,
You say ''Darling can I speak to you for a moment''
as he comes near pull him closer, gently pull him towards you and kiss him gently on the lips. Move away slowly holding a long and meaningful stare. Go to his zip gently pull it down and you know what to do from there.
But don't let it end there, ask him to lay you down and move on to a normal married life.
ATB Red
2006-12-30 21:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by Redmonk 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Several years ago I was in a very serious car accident, and suffered spinal injuries as well as a few broken bones. I was in a wheelchair for about 10 months before I could even walk, and those were the hardest on our marriage. The first couple were easy because all I did was sleep due to the pain meds, but after that I wanted my life back. I sat in my wheelchair and refused help from my husband and everyone whenever I could whatever needed to be done (which wasnt much more than change the channel on the remote). I finally convinced my husband that he needed a break and allow someone else to take care of me (helping with dishes, laundry, showers, general cleaning, and childcare). Then one day while he was at work, I had my caregiver help me our daughter off to my mother's and me into bed (I had been sleeping on the couch). My caregiver then lit the candles and turned off all the lights at the house and left just minutes before hubby came home. When he got there the music was playing and I was laying there in something of his favorite wear with my favorite toy in hand. I told him that he needed to surrender or the toy was gonna need extra batteries that night, LOL. Needless to say, it worked. Very well, we have an almost 3 year old to prove it!
2006-12-30 22:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by Someonesmommy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't let big fish in your hands gone while you try to catch a little fish.
Don't think too much about any silly things. You are lucky having lovely husband and please concern about your spinal disease. He knows the best for you. Don't force your mind with anything that will make you regret later on.
Continue your life with gratefulness, love and happiness.
2006-12-31 01:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by eddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can think of is to be forceful with him. Don't let him do things for you unless you ask him directly. Show him you aren't helpless. You may be disabled, but you are still a women that deserves a loving husband that respects you and your wishes of mind-blowing sex.
Good Luck!
2006-12-30 21:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by eboneigh@sbcglobal.net 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i want to know the same thing too because i am disabled with cancer. hey, i can't even get a boyfriend because no guy wants what's not perfect. i can completely see it from your view, when i had a boyfriend, i actually had the same view. but, when you really think about it, it is TRUE love. he loves you so much to help you when you have the need and just wants to make you happy and be there for you. please, don't be so hard on him. he just wants to love you and help you. i think it would be a good idea though to see a counselor together and get some feelings out. but, don't be so hard on some one that is just trying to love you unconditionally, through sickness and in health (remember your marriage vows)
2006-12-30 21:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
ATTACK HIM !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
While the 2 of you are laying in bed, reach over and garb him and do everything to him that you want him to do to you.
Once you've turned him on, nothing should stop the inevitable.
Do this every night until he just can't resist.
If you don't take action, right away, he may end up resenting you, and go somewhere else for sexual satisfaction.
Men have needs too.
Stop talking, and start acting.
Good luck.
2006-12-30 22:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by freakyforjesus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey seduce him, remember U R WOMAN. don't tell us u never seduced ur husband before, and if not then do it. go hog wild get em girl.
2006-12-30 22:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by jesse james 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
come visit jac the doctor of love
2006-12-30 22:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋