How can I convince my 21, almost 22 year old friend to move out of his parent's house?

Question

He's a momma's boy in short... He says, " I grew up here" and I tell him he needs to grow up. He gets mad and nothing is resolved... please help

He's a momma's boy in short... He says, " I grew up here" and I tell him he needs to grow up. He gets mad and nothing is resolved... please help.

Edit* You're not answering the questions. He has a goal that cannot be reached without moving out. He knows it but is stubborn. Telling me it's not my business really doesn't answer the question... There are many more circumstances but that's not needed... my question is "How can I convince my 21, almost 22 year old friend to move out of his parent's house?"

Answer 1

ask him how he gets some action livin at his mums house.

Answer 2

Well, you didn't give us enough details. It's not OUTRAGEOUS for a 21/22 year old to be at home and especially if he's going to college. If he's working, it's time to move out however. With free living, and not going to college he should have had enough to time to put together a safety net financially. I can't imagine why anyone would WANT to do this, live at home that is. But it sounds like these things might not be the issue. Of course he gets mad, when you say "Grow up" to him. But there's nothing you can do I'm afraid, it sounds like he's far more influenced by his parents than his friends or the world around him. It's unfortunate because it's a tough world out there and he's hanging on to childhood if some of the above is not an issue.

Answer 3

There is nothing you can do. He is an adult as you point out, and the only way he is ever going to be rid of someone telling him what to do is when he listens to what his heart tells him to do. Does it affect you if he doesnt move out? Other than having to hear about it? If not, I suggest you tell him to shut up or move out. My boyfriend lived with his mom till he was 25, and he's still a momma's boy. Even after we have a baby together. So, deal with the fact that he's that way or forget about him

Answer 4

Lol, you're thoroughly neglecting the actual incontrovertible truth that you DONT favor to cajole HER. What, merely because your relatives "would not approve" potential you wouldn't have a relationship with someone you obviously have an interest in? Idiocy, such thoughts really carry you lower back. end residing your lifelike a baby, who the hell is your mom to allow you to already know no? you're ******* 18, get your *** in equipment. Pathetic. And dont be hating on human beings because they did not come out of your great little center type suburban historic past, i did not, and that i'm a perfectly wonderful human being.

Answer 5

You've first got to put yourself in his situation. Maybe he isn't moving out because of school costs, or something like that. You can also compare the difference between living at home, and living independently. Pro vs. Cons-type stuff. And besides all this, does he make enough money to move out and still be okay financially?

Answer 6

What is it to you? People are moving out of home later thesedays, some are still there up to their late 20's, your friend will go when the time is right. Man your friend is still growing up at 21 so what is the rush?

Answer 7

unless you are dating him, i dont see its any of your business, frankly.

not intending to be harsh, we dont always know 'circumstances' in others lives.

for example, i have a male friend who lived with his mom for

years. he worked little, but only years later did i learn why.

his working or not working wasnt my business. fact is, his

mom ( now deceased), he took care of for MANY years. he

needed no job, because he invested wisely for him and his

mother. i hope you see i learned a lesson....not to judge.

sometimes we call the cards unfairly....

Answer 8

What is in it for you?

He's got a good deal. A roof over his head, utilities, meals and a laundry.

Why be in a hurry to be over your head in debt with tons of worries?

Answer 9

sounds like my boyfriend. his excuse is because he is still in school.. and thats fine. is your friend still in school or is he just wasting time like hes still in high school? if so.. i dont think there's much you can do about it except drop hints. its really up to his parents to kick him out when the time is right.

Answer 10

Its normal that alot of older guys are still living with they mom