I am 20 lack real job experience, no H.S diploma ...what to you recommend i do?

Question

I droped out of high school when i was 17 because of my friend...well at least i thought he was....he found out i was gay and ended up making up all these stories...that i would hit on him or i would try and touch him and so on....but it just got to a point where i just couldt handle it so i dropped out ....now live with parents, no job , low selfesteem / lack self confidence, and am constantly thinking about what other people are saying or think of me ....I'm just a mess...i need help........ I cant live with parents forever. Need to gain some kind of financial stability.....i need help....what do i do.......I'm scared........: (


Please no negative comments..... : (

Answer 1

Don't be scared. There is nothing wrong with you being homosexual. If you want to gain some work experience, try doing some volunteer work. Aside from helping the organisation and the community, you are also helping yourself by gaining valuable experience and you will also feel better about yourself.

Be proud of who you are.

If you can show others that you accept yourself, you will find that othes will accept you as well. Most of the time you will find that people do not really care what your sexual orientation is.

I believe the reason your "friend" acted as he did was because he felt threatened. Not necessairly from anything you did, more so from the fact that when he found out you were gay, he started worryiny that maybe you were having sexual fantasies about him.

I am female and straight, but even i will admit to distancing myself from other females whom I thought were having fantasies about me.

Another thing that you can do that will prove to be very helpful to you, is getting to know yourself better. Learn what you are good at and what you are not good at. Once you discover what it is you are good at, let others see.

To give you an example; if you have a great personality, then let other people see that.

Answer 2

You do need to get your H.S diploma or GED. Otherwise you'll be doing the kind of jobs the illegal immigrants are doing. I am 22 and I started college when I was 21 and i'm doing fine. So it's not too late for you either. How long should a GED take to get? A year at most maybe. But yea, that GED or diploma is the first step for sure. And about that gay thing, don't tell someone unless they are REALLY close to you and are you're sure they are your friend. People get beaten up for that kinda stuff ya know.

Answer 3

1. Get a GED or high school diploma.
2. Figure out your interests and at the same time...
Sign up at a community college (2 year program).
3. Network with local people in your 'ideal' field.
4. Get a basic job to begin building out your resume.

With this 36 month plan, you'll be able to get some basic skills and experience culminating in a real job by 2010. Not an overnight solution, admittedly, but in the whole scheme of things it will put you on track by your mid-20s. You didn't get into this situation overnight, you're not going to get out of it overnight.

Now get going.

Answer 4

Because of your financial situation, I would highly encourage you to seek counseling. Check with the United Way and/or any gay community center in your area for free or sliding scale counseling. The fears and low self esteem that you are expressing need to be addressed before you can continue with your education and/or employment. Your financial situation should also qualify you for not only getting your GED but could put you into a direction for college. You will find that college students are more liberal towards homosexuality than high school kids. Some colleges have their own gay studies programs and GBLF student unions. There's hope and a really terrific future out there for you but YOU have to be the one to go for it. Set your goals by priority and concentrate on each one in order ... get the little things out of the way to show your accomplishments before moving to the bigger goals. Get on the phone for counseling. Make an appointment for a GED review class. Get a GED workbook from the library. See if there is a gay community center and/or newspaper in your community. Talk to a college advisor about classes, financing and aptitude testing. You don't have to do it all in one day and don't expect overnight answers to your fears and concerns but do something. Others will believe in you if you believe in yourself.

Answer 5

If you were 17 when you dropped out, you were probably close to graduating. Get your GED or high school diploma. Completing your education will not only help make you more marketable for better paying jobs, it may also help with your self esteem. Maybe a support group could help with that. Also, while college is not for everyone, it's a good investment for the future and something to consider.

Answer 6

go back to school and get your high school diploma, it's not too late and at 20 you are just starting out in life anyways. it's good that you live with you parents because it'll help you financially while you finish school. also in the meantime decide what career you want to pursue, talk to a career counsellor to help point you in a direction. as to worrying about what other people think - people will always talk so let them but for you concentrate on yourself and you'll find that the things will be a lot more clearer
good luck!

Answer 7

don't be discouraged first get your GED, places like the unemployment office have programs that can help you pay for this, and pay for the classes if you have to take them and after you have taken them they will even pay for you to go to school if that's what you want to do, don't worry you have time 20 is still young and we all make mistakes you have time just start now right after everything opens back up from the holidays good luck to you and our future, keep your head up, also this takes time just be patient in the mean time find a job at a restaurant you may be ashamed but in the long run it will pay off any income is better than none, don't try any of those get rich quick schemes you will waste money that you don't have and valuable time that you will need apply at one of the technical schools in your area and they will help you with everything you need to get started

Answer 8

Go back to school, work hard, get a good job and kick his butt.
Counselling can give you great resources to get back on your feet and use this horrible experience to motivate you. Is there a gay support group that you can contact? They will know how to help. You are a worthwhile person who deserves respect and love and don't let others make you believe differently. What are you passionate about? Find your passion and you will find your purpose, realising your purpose will set you free. You can be whatever you want to be.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

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