I have been talking to a guy that i have really started liking, and he claims to like me alot as well. There are only 3 things... he is going through a divorce because his soon-to-be ex wife cheated on him with his best friend, he has 2 daughters on is 12 & 10.. and he is 12 years older than me. Is that wrong?
2006-12-30 21:00:31 · 25 answers · asked by sc_rw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I give it only a 10% chance of working out in the long run.
Make that 2%.
2006-12-30 21:07:23 · answer #1 · answered by MK6 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Those are 3 big things you mention!
Normally age is not a problem....if you are an adult .
Could this be another internet infatuation?
Alot of guys out there SAY they are getting a divorce.... but aren't always.
Are you ready to be a weekend mom, or who the kids might think broke up a marriage?
A mature woman with all the facts wouldn't be troubled with this kind of challenge.
Something like this is not wrong....it just sure sounds like it could get more complicated for you than it already is!
2006-12-30 21:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by Crispy_Frog 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally don't see any thing wrong with the age difference. My Dad was 14 yrs. older then my Mom. My husb. Dad was 20 yrs. older then his mom.
However, I would think about whether you are ready to be a Mom to his kids that are approaching their teen years! And whether there is going to be any resentment from them, down the road somewhere, and to be prepared for them if there is.
I would also be careful about him just going through a divorce. His own feelings aren't settled down yet, and he is still stinging from the pain of a divorce, doesn't matter why. A divorce is difficult even for all the "right" reasons.
But there are bigger issues, other than the age thing, that you and he need to sit down and talk about before you decide any thing.
2006-12-30 21:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As far as the age difference, as long as you're over 18 it doesn't really matter (to the law, at least).
Be careful: Some married men who are "going to get divorced" never actually do and just cheat on their wives. These men use the fake divorce as a way to keep their girlfriends as just a kind of "girl on the side". They also cite concern for their kids as another way to avoid any kind of commitment with their girlfriends.
Don't commit to him until the papers are signed and the deal is done. Or at least ask for proof that he really is going through a divorce. There are LOTS of legal documents that can prove this.
2006-12-30 21:17:17 · answer #4 · answered by lupin_1375 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This really depends on how old you are.And whether or not you're having issues with it...you are the one posting the question.I would worry about the ex wife thing(they always cheat with the best friend)---don't be some ones rebound play thing.As far as the kids go that could cause issues---they may see you as a joke especially if you are close in age.plus they are girls and girls are "catty,"do what feels good to you.
2006-12-30 21:20:00 · answer #5 · answered by gia031582 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Age is not a big deal as long as your of legal age! However, sometimes the older person will take advantage of the younger person. A younger person has less experience with the world and different situations! Just be careful and realize that this man has 2 kids with a x-wife! He has what they call "lots of baggage"! So if your prepare to handle and deal with his "baggage" well then go ahead!!!
2006-12-30 21:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a huge age distinction isn't a foul element in case you're the two completely MATURE adults. in case you're 20 and he's 40 4, the age hollow is possibly too super to maintain a healthful relationship - it truly is possibly no longer a healthful relationship first of all. (he's a father discern, you improve his ego..) At 20, you're nevertheless turning out to be the grownup you're meant to be.. in case you're 35 and he's fifty 9, you're the two mature adequate to appreciate what's considerable in existence and if the relationship relies on the suited suited issues.
2016-10-28 19:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by bason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number..you should not worry. As long as you both have feelings for eachother you can work it out. There is nothing wrong with having feelings for an older man.
2006-12-30 21:09:13 · answer #8 · answered by beautylover 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe there is no right or wrong when it comes to love. It is a feeling which comes naturally. It could and should not be forced. However, be forewarn that you and you alone has to bear the consequences of it, your decision, "for better or worse" though. I wish you all the very best!
2006-12-30 21:20:52 · answer #9 · answered by Alfretz T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your major concern seems to be age and let me tell you that if you like each other age factor is discounted.. But consider the other factors like children, their age, whether they accept you, etc.. Not writing it to discourage but just to throw some light on it...
Wish you all the best... Go ahead...
2006-12-30 21:45:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends, are you 12 or 24?
2006-12-30 21:02:37 · answer #11 · answered by Twisted tree 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋