I cheated on him and I regret that more than anything in my life, but now that it is done and over with I wanna know what I can do to prove to him how sorry I am. I have done everything that he has asked me to. I love him with all of my heart.
2006-12-30 21:00:22 · 12 answers · asked by j_kuemmel02 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First off, you need to figure out why you cheated. There has to be a reason. Maybe it was a subconscious thing, but you need to figure it out.
Second, maybe you need to step back and give him some space to come to grips with the whole situation. His life just got turned upside down. He's probably not thinking about the future right now. He's probably thinking "What did I do to make her do this"? Or if he's the vindictive type, then he's thinking of ways to make you pay.
Your job now is to wait and see what he wants to do. He's the one that has to decide if he wants to take another chance on you. I suggest you take the time to take a look at yourself, you might be surprised at what you see. Good Luck.
2006-12-30 21:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by Thursdays 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-28 19:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by bason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you did mess up, there's nothing you can do to fix it, whats done is done, and there is no turning back. What I don't understand is if you really do love him with all of your heart like you say you do, why cheat on him in the first place, I'll give you a bit of insight. Because the opportunity was there, some people are weaker then others with temptation.
Sorry to be so blunt but you needed to hear it like it is.
2006-12-30 21:13:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your just going to have to deal with the consequences and that means let it go and stop letting him hang it over your head or move on without him. I've learned that when people do stuff like this that the spouse that was cheated on uses it to cause guilty feels and remorse for as long as they can. They want to hurt you as much as possible and if you let them keep it over your head you soon will begin to resent them. If you apologized and have proven you regret what you did, then he should forgiven and start helping to repair the relationship. If you keep trying to prove to him you love him and only him and your never going to do it again he will make you prove it for the rest of your life. You need to tell him that you have done all you are to repair the damage but if he wants to keep it over your head then there isn't any reason to keep trying.
2006-12-30 21:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by Countrygirl 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I've been there, done that! I talked to him about how I could make it to him, and his answer was nothing, just over time I could prove to him that I really do love him by not doing it again! But don't let him "beat you over the head" with your guilty feelings. Yes you was wrong, but you was right in telling him, and he forgave you. If he continues to bring it up to you and makes you like a "mouse" that he can black mail, then I'd leave, no matter how much I loved him or felt regret for what I had done. In the bible adultery is the only thing that constitutes divorce. In the bible an adulterous was stoned to death, if you and I had lived in biblcal times we could of been stoned to death, if our husbands didn't forgive us; if they did, then it was all forgotten. But since we don't, and since we are sincerely sorry for what we have done, then they need to move on. If they can't then we need to move our selves.
Also go to the bible and read about King David, and how he felt after his adulterous behavior with Queen Bathsheba, and how he poured out his heart to God! He begged God to forgive him, and God did forgive him. Sometimes confessing our sins to God, and not a man, then some how God is able to give us a sense of peace that we never had before. You didn't scheme to murder someone to get their husband, did you? That is what King David did when he got Bathsheba, he had her husband killed in battle so he could claim her. He remained in favor with God because of his repentance, and begging God to forgive him. The Bible gives the answers to our problems if we look in the right places.
2006-12-30 21:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, the ball is in your husband's court now! You may regret what you did but at the same time it was very stupid! Just keep apologizing to him even when things seem back to normal! Give him time to think and allow him to whatever it takes to resolve this matter! Learn from your mistakes and do not do it again!!!
2006-12-30 21:20:21 · answer #6 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont think there is anything you can do. Even if you do prove how sorry you are, it doesn't take back what you did. You just have to be patient and see if/when he feels comfortable with your relationship again. Its one of those time will tell kind of things.
2006-12-30 21:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by Clown 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i dont know how i can help u, why in the first place u cheated on him when u truly love him?
what i can say is, cheating on someone in a relationship is the most hurting course
im sorry i hadnt been a good help
2006-12-30 21:06:05 · answer #8 · answered by starapproximate 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Forget it, it's over. If he has any pride, he'll cut you loose, with the hurryupness.
Sorry, I know thats not what you wanted to hear, but reality is reality.
2006-12-30 21:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have to give him a freebie with one of your friends (you can ask them to see who's game). That will make you even.
2006-12-30 21:02:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋