Any one has any idea how to start eveything afresh again and get a new group of friends. Next year i will be going into the military.
My current group of friends just cannot be trusted. Some of them only look for you when they are in trouble.
2006-12-30 20:44:04 · 20 answers · asked by Danzzz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
By the way the current group of friends i have is from my church and we belong to the same cell
2006-12-30 21:01:45 · update #1
You will find a lot of new friends in the military. Comradeship is very intense there and you are naturally in an organization with plenty of people your own age. You will be shocked at how many friends you acquire very quickly no matter where you are stationed.
Good luck to you.
2006-12-30 23:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. It's always difficult to break off any kind of relationship for fear of hurting the other person. I would ask yourself why you are friends with that person (or group) to begin with. Determine whether or not there is a mutual benefit in the friendship and if there is anything that you can do to improve things. If not, it's always best to be honest in the end I suppose. However, if you don't think you can face it or if your "friends" really are just taking advantage of your kindness then you can always cut off contact with them, either gradually or suddenly. I am sure you will make some friends in the military or anywhere else you end up. In any case, trust should be earned and not blindly given so be mindful of this but don't be too suspicious about everyone because ultimately all friendships/relationships involve some degree of personal risk. Best of luck and happiness to you.
2006-12-30 20:53:03 · answer #2 · answered by narcissisticguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It appears they were trying to get to the bottom of " what is wrong with you " but I think you took it the wrong way . Maybe you should open up to 1 or 2 of them and explain how you're feeling ...it's very possible they just don't know how to handle things because you may have changed . Try talking to them ..if they are your friends I'm sure they will want to help ...if however they don't care about you , then it's time to get new friends . Sometimes when we are a bit down ..we can misinterpret people actions ....we can see everything in a very negative way .
2016-03-29 01:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by Edeltraud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can simply start making friends "on the side". And no, this whole thing is really not going to be totally EASY.
Another point I'd like to make though is that you can start practicing for the relationships you WANT to have right now, with your current friends.
Act the way you think you should act, and don't give into their BS. You are not there to save them from trouble, and you are more than just a sounding board for their troubles. Ignore them if they do things you don't like. Tell them what you don't like from them, etc. If nothing else, it is very good practice.
2006-12-30 20:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by jamisojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, loss is always hard...some 'friends', however, such as
yours, may be persons who only use you. if your friends cant
be trusted, feel blessed to move on, and find new ones.
granted, it is scary.
knowing nothing about you, i dont know where you are meetiing
your friends. there may not be a perfect place, but the bar or
the pool hall might not be the best. you get the idea.
start afresh by being friendly, and taking an interest in others.
you sound kind, and will find friends, but never be too ready to
call someone a friend. it takes time. hope this helps.
2006-12-30 21:22:10 · answer #5 · answered by Mark J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother was in the same boat as you a couple of years ago. He joined the Army and even though he is in Iraq, or maybe because of it, the guys over there are the best thing thats happened to him. They are more like a family unit. They don't leave one guy with his thumb in the damn. I miss him a lot but maybe the best thing for you to do is make a clean break, start a new life and when you come back home to visit in a few years you can look back and thank God that you are not like those friends you left behind.
2006-12-30 20:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by kellie_new_mom25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my advice is to not tell your current "friends" off... unless you really feel they deserve it, would actually hear you, would really make you feel good, etc. ...for later you may need a "friend"... or they could be even worse people now that you are officially enemies. after all, now they know your secrets, vulnerable points, etc... they may not act on such things... but... you never know... let's hope they're not that childish and even if you do have weaknesses... or embarassing past... everyone has these and that only shows you're human.
perhaps you could join some new clubs... groups... charity places... the best place to meet new people is in a place where it doesn't look like you're trying too hard.
but if you are adventurous, forward, charismatic, etc... well, you know better than me how to just go up to people and say "be my friend" without saying "be my friend". in which case why would you be asking this? join some clubs? or have good friends introduce you to their friends... and then hang out with those friends without your old "friends".
you could say "hey... i was gonna check out this movie later... wanna come?" or... i need to go to Best Buy to find ___, do you need to go?"... or... "I'm hungry... I know this great place..."
:-D
2006-12-30 20:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by justwannaknow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...I've too had to break away once. Sure it was hard, BUT, I'd rather have myself, peace of mind and 1 good friend than 20 friends that are constantly bringing me down.
There's a lot of things that can happen between now and the day you ship out, and trouble is SO easy to find; don't play yourself by allowing a bunch of no-where mo-fo's to take you down and jeopardize your plans. You know how haters do...
2006-12-30 20:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, Congradulations ! on your choice to joining the military!
shows ambition and the "want" to grow!! thumbs up kid!!
second, those people you call "friends that cant be trusted", "only call you when they are in trouble". I really dont think they are your "friends" but mere people you know.
Dont worry about "them". Focus more on the true "friends" you have, even if just a few. Life will be less complicated, more relaxing, more fullfilling.
Good luck !
2006-12-30 21:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by k.c. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they are going against your values as a person then they are not your true friends they are just using you as a scapegoat when they are in trouble you will meet new people when you go into the military sometimes it is beater to be a loner you have to think about yourself you know what is real and what is not if you are asking yourself this question then you need to go with what your heart is telling you
2006-12-31 03:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋