My husband came home from work today and as usual, the house was spotless, I had dinner prepared, and I had lowered the temperature in the house since he likes it a bit cooler. He still seemed grumpy. Any suggestions?
2006-12-30 19:17:18 · 39 answers · asked by Lo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Communicate with him after you give him the chance to unwind. Most guys like to unwind abit before dwelling into the day's happenings at home. Just let him take a shower and relax. You'll be happier for it.
2006-12-30 19:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by DanandAnnie K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be number of reasons why he could be grumpy. Number one is work related stress or fatigue. He may be stressing at work or gets extremely tired. Is he usually like this when he's not working? You have to get to the bottom of it by asking questions.
Number two could be something between you two. Do you guys have a good relationship is the question.
You should totally change his mood by changing into a more provacative attire before he comes home, that'll cheer him up. Do a lap or pole dance, lol.
Or, rent his favorite movies once in a while to get him into a better mood.
If you have children, tell him about the new and good things your child has done that day.
You can talk about his favorite subjects when he comes home.
Or better yet, invite some of his favorite people (friends) over for dinner with you guys, that way he can't act grumpy.
I don't know, but I hope I gave you some ideas.
Good luck.
2006-12-30 19:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by Eliza K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's sounds depressed. Atleast he's simply not happy.
Tell him that you love him and have a hard time seeing him like this. Also tell him that you cannot continue like this with him so you need to know what you can do for him, or how you can help him get help (counseling, doctor, whatever he needs).
Be kind and supportive, but make sure that if you don't want to go through the rest of your life like this, you tell him so, and that you and he both understand what the consequences will be if you can't try to attack this problem.
You can only help people so much, they must choose to help themselves at some point and if he is unwilling, you should let him sink or swim on his own. You are not 100% responsible for him and do not need to make yourself excuses for his behavior.
2006-12-30 19:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by jamisojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The routine is probably making him grumpy! maybe u should try something different..like give him a nice massage before he goes to sleep..or put ur favorite CD and start dancing for him hahaha..or maybe he's just fed up with seeing u doing the same things all the time when he comes home..or maybe try not to be there! heh
2006-12-30 19:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he needs space, a room, kind of like his cave where he can retreat to. It's not you. He is grateful for what you do, but his job is tough and he needs to tend to himself.
However, you should talk with him and hopefully he will open up a little and assure you that you are as sweet and loving as you seem to be. Tell him that if he wants to talk about anything that you are willing to listen. Also ask him if there is anything else he would like from you when he comes home. Respect his space and his needs, If he is a god guy, he will love you for it.
2006-12-30 20:06:07 · answer #5 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make Him A Nice Meal! If He Just Got Back From Work He's Probably Tired And Need's Some Rest!
2006-12-30 19:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by † Dark Prince † 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to lighten up!! ...... and be happy. He should be grateful that he has a lovely wife that cooks, cleans and maintains the household and always goes out of her way to make him feel comfortable. Perhaps your husband could do something nice for you, that my put him in a better mood as he is doing a good deed for someone else. Just a thought.
2006-12-30 19:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is what i do. when i know my husband is on his way home cus he calls i plan to have dinner ready and on the table when he gets home. sometimes i know it was a hard day so after dinner i will sit with him on the couch and rub his back and feet. he enjoys that. i tell him i love him. if it is a special occasion i would put candles and flowers all over the place and we will go to are room and do. well you know. just talk to him. ask him how his day was they want to feel as if they are appreciated. it works. blessed be.
2006-12-30 19:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by shy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a fact that when you or your spouse comes home from work, you should sit and just relax for at least 15 min. Do not talk to him just let him get over being at work and being the person who is at home. He must be able to leave one and go to the other place. Remember, at least 15 min. to rest and not problems or thinking should he do.
2006-12-30 19:21:04 · answer #9 · answered by grannywinkie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Greet him with a kiss, tell him how much you appreciate his hard work, and give him time to unwind without diving into discussions of how your day went, what the kids did today, etc. Is he getting 'cave time'? Time where he can just breathe and listen to silence? All men need it.
2006-12-30 19:20:14 · answer #10 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋