I rarely get asked out and I noticed that men might think that im taken when im not. I dont go looking around for men, I just do my own thing. I hang out with my friends, focus on school, play sports and prepare for a good career after school.
A male friend of mine thought that i was constanly going on dates and was constantly beings asked out by men that where "up scale" i.e lots of money, fancy car,well educated, high level job, good looking etc.. He mentioned again that these men must look super good looking...meaning the works. Reality is I have never been asked out. He also thought that men constantly compliment me. The odd thing is alot of girls i go to school with think the same. In fact, many claim that i get all "the calls" i.e all men are asking me out. Which is the opposite, no one asks me out.
Many at school school claim that im a good girl. That i respect myself and have a good head my shoulders.
What is going on? why no one asks me out?
2006-12-30 19:09:02 · 23 answers · asked by Gina L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have had some guys ask for my phone number but they never call me.
Other sort ask my opinion if i would date them but they never ask me out.
Im very friendly and talktive. People always say im fun to talk to.
I dont understand what is going on. Men please explain!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-30 19:10:14 · update #1
Usually i just joke around with my answers but this one touches me. First off you obviously have a very good reputation with your peers as not only beautiful but as being a very "together " girl. & honestly, young men are shy to approach young women like yourself. Not anything you have done or should try to change for. In fact just the opposite. Use your peers perceptions to your advantage & do not settle for just anyone asking you out at this point. You obviously have their respect for you do not say they pick on you , so don't settle. Wait for a boy who approaches you with confidence & who will look you directly in your eyes. & may i also suggest that you not get flustered with these friends who think you are always getting hit on but to let them think what they want & don't correct them. Why you may ask? Well there opinion is always a good one of you so let them think about whatever , although you know the truth & it may hurt your feelings a bit. For soon the true boy will reveal himself to you & you will know it is him for he will not look at his shoe tops or your boobs when he talks to you & he will not talk down to you. Kids are shy in general & most would kill to hve as good a reputation as you have. So remain confidant in yourself as a good person & value what others have given you , although it may not be a date , you will not end up with the guy who works at McDonalds for life but will find a true friend in a man who will have goals & purpose & respect you for being a true young lady. Your question is very open & honest & i can feel the true quality of your nature as a young woman. Please don't spoil that by being depressed rather , please look at all these true quaities i have been able to pont out for you & be patient. That is the truest quality to have. For patience will win out everytime. Good luck to you & i hope i have been able to help you not feel so bad .
2006-12-30 19:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by RickeTy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For a 25 yr old, I am a very old fashioned guy. Meaning, I hold doors open for women, I think the guys should do the asking and the calling, I think the men should be the one to pay for the date. But, sometimes the traditional does not work. Sometimes the girl should take the initiative to take the first step. Don't be scared, ask someone you like out. Who knows what will happen?
2006-12-30 19:19:08 · answer #2 · answered by Billy A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a change underway in the societal norm of socially acceptable flirting and dating, and I am a forerunner in this revolution. I don't really want to reveal exactly what my situation is socially (too personal), but some people think I have Asperger's Syndrome from lack of skills and experience socially.
This massive global change is creating a massive depression in births and proper parenting units, kinda the opposite of the Baby Boomers period after WW2.
This is partly attributed to the noticably gradual increase in fear and anxiety levels in the general population, including terrorism, global warming, etc, of which I am acutely aware. My fears spill over into other other areas of normal life, like finance, family, and ofcourse procreation, enhancing and enlarging the things to be fearful of in those areas.
eg. STDs; rejection and heckling; needy, possessive and jealous dates; addicts to drugs, sex, or anything else for that matter; monogamy/cheaters; etc.
As many others have said, if you want something, go out and get it. Make your future happen the way you want.
2006-12-30 20:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by Bawn Nyntyn Aytetu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have the right attitude. I wish I had focussed on school and friends more. because I just had a crap year going out with losers and wasting my time. I regret every minute I wasn't with my friends.
If you really want someone to ask you out thought then you have to act interested in them. If the guy thinks he doesn't really have a chance then he won't bother.
I think it's great that you have such a good name that guys think up-scale people go for you... thats so cool!
2006-12-30 19:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by l04i16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you've described, my first guess is that people may find you unapproachable. (good girl, respect yourself, good head, etc....) This kind of sounds like "you don't drink, you are very responsible, etc"
If you really want to date, pick out a guy and ask him out. Sitting back and waiting for the world to come to you is surely and excercise in frustration. In life, you don't get what you deserve, you get what you go out and make happen.
2006-12-30 19:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by jamisojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are too serious.
Did you realize courtship is a game ?
Although you are obviously intelligent, it doesn't sound as though you've learned how to flirt.
The first step to starting a relationship is to show some vulnerability. For example, you may ask a guy for help on something, even if you don't actually need help.
2006-12-30 19:17:37 · answer #6 · answered by draft_board_volunteer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe men are indimated by you, they may feel like you wouldnt date them if they asked. Next time ask for his phone number or ask a guy out on date. Dont just sit around and wait for them, men are pretty clueless.
2006-12-30 19:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know you sound like a catch to me all those guys at your school are missing out. Just keep doing your own thing and the right guy will come along.
2006-12-30 19:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by BluLizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like what some call "untouchable" The girl everyone wants but they are afraid to get close due in fear of rejection or fear that they won't be as good as the last. Relax, Mr. Right will come calling!
2006-12-30 19:14:15 · answer #9 · answered by Silver Surfer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be scary beautiful.
Like you appear out of there league so they dare not ask.
Try to dress down a bit more go for the girl next door look and see if it drops the prom queen barrier.
2006-12-30 19:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋