2006-12-30 19:07:46 · 9 answers · asked by Circlometry™ 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Hmmm... a hostage to kindness.
I feel indebted to those that are kind to me, like they have "bought" a piece of me. And even though i may not want what they have to give, i still have an obligation to them.
I'm not the type of person that can disregard the actions others have done on my behalf.
Seems cruel.
So yes, i remain hostage until i return the favor...
Once you repay someone in kind, it kind of lessens the hold they have.
2006-12-30 19:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. I never want to hurt anyone. Heck..... I even stayed with men MUCH longer after the relationship was over just because they were so good and kind I couldn't possibly hurt them.
But..... there was this one woman at work. She would do things for me constantly. CONSTANTLY. Now it wasn't as though I ever ever asked for her to do for me. She seemed to just want to do it. I thought she was a queen! She was so dear and kind to me. But then....... I caught on. She would them slip in a request of her own. At first I was more than happy to help her out. But then her requests became larger.... and more frequent. I found there were times I had to say no because of time conflicts. Inevitably she would then say, "Oh yes, I understand about finding time. While I was cooking supper to bring to you the other night I thought...... now how am I going to get my laundry done too?"
I would always end up feeling guilty. When I hadn't done anything to feel guilty about. Eventually..... I distanced myself from her..... but it took years....... literally YEARS for this to finally happen. Meanwhile..... I was her hostage for eons!!!
2007-01-01 16:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by Marianne not Ginger™ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just A Little Bit
2006-12-31 03:10:09 · answer #3 · answered by Brian 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
one time I had to sit next to richard simmons on a plane for 6 hours.
2006-12-31 03:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by I hate carrots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, those nice old ladies, that are sweet and all, but when they are talking to you for 5 min about their bowel movements it gets a little frustrating
2006-12-31 03:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by jennypjd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, with the ladies at work on occasion. They mean well, but....I'd rather not be bothered by them to be honest.
2006-12-31 03:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anashuya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup
2006-12-31 03:13:59 · answer #7 · answered by spork_212 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All too often. . .
2006-12-31 03:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by YuckItUp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-12-31 03:10:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋