All an erection is, is your blood vessels in your penis dialating, getting wider, thats how viagra works, its a vasodialater-meaning it dialates your blood vessels. So if you really wanted to you could take a vasoconstricter, but I wouldnt advise you to do so, bc it could overwork your heart causing heart attack. Best thing would be to try some meditation excercises, or just masterbate before your see her. BTW, it's not that big of a problem, Id be flatered.
2006-12-31 02:47:38
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answer #3
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answered by r1 ryder 3
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It happened because you were nervous, plain and simple... sorry to tell you this but it might happen again, and until you can relax, be yourself, and just enjoy yourself and be comfortable around her, it might continue to bother you.
Just try and be as comfortable with her as you are with yourself when you're masturbating. Do the same things to get yourself hard. DON'T BE SHY, girls like it when you are natural.
It's a guy thing. It's called performance anxiety. Once you've been with a girl a few times, you're not worried anymore and you can just relax and enjoy yourself... but when you're with a girl you've never been with before you want to impress her, you're worried that you won't be good enough for her, and you know if you don't get hard NOW that might be your only chance of ******** this girl out the window...
Well guess what... if you think like that, you're not going to get the job done. You have to stop worrying and start enjoying yourself. Stop being so self-conscious and just look at her sexy body and rub your ******** ***** in your hand or against her or something... instead of having her go down on you, which will just make you more nervous, go down on her and finger her and make her cumm so by the time you have to get it up and put it in, she's already had orgasms and you feel less responsibility and pressure and can just let loose and let it happen.
I don't recommend medication. I never do: I hate pills. There are lots of pills that your doctor can give you that will keep you hard for a long time, but they can reduce pleasure, and they can have side effects. I know you can get over this problem without pills, but if time passes by and none of the things I advise work... then maybe you will turn to pills. I hope it doesn't come to that.
First of all, let me say that what happened is normal. You were nervous and you were under pressure, and both of those are a hindrance to achieving an erection.
The only non-medical way this is going to get better is if you relax. You have to relax completely. Breathe slowly, calmly, and tell yourself that you can do it. If you re relaxed, and not worried about it, not concerned about getting hard, you re a hundred times more likely to get hard. If you re just having fun, enjoying yourself, it will happen. If you re worried, it might not.
Also, find something about women (or about her) that you like. It could be the pusssy, the as, the legs, the feet, the breasts, the hands, the back, the tummy, the lips, the eyes, the neck, the hair, the way she talks, anything masturbate thinking about it when youre by yourself. Look at pictures if you want. Then when youre there, and she wants you, look at that part of her, or kiss or lick that part of her focus on it, and it will get you excited.
Another thing to do is to have her suck your ***** or go down and lick her pusssy and as. That gets me going, the oral gets most men going; maybe it will work for you too.
And finally, if you just want to put it in and it's not hard, this is what you do: even if it's completely limp, have her get on her hands and knees, and press the head of your ***** against her pusy hole. Once you press it and start trying to push it in, it should get you hard, and you should slide right in. Rub it against her hole. Look at her sexy *** and her naked body, imagine how it will feel to slide the ***** in there. Don't WORRY about it, just start forcing it in there. Before you know it, it will get semi-hard, pop right in her hole, and then the feeling will hopefully get you properly hard.
THIS HAPPENS TO LOTS OF MEN - it is not a big deal.
If you masturbate and look at porn or think about sex before you have sex - BUT WITHOUT CUMMING - then you will be more likely to get hard once sex time comes. Also, DON'T ***' for about 24 hours (or more) before you have sex with her. That way, you'll be more likely to be horny and ready to go.
But it's mostly a psychological thing, believe me... and you can get over it.
Remember, letting her do things to you is not going to get you hard if you're nervous and will just make her feel bad that you don't respond. And the key is not to try and be a certain way in her eyes, but just to enjoy yourself, to make her feel physically good, make it all about her so she's not even paying attention to your *****...
And (gulp...) TELL HER... tell her that the first time you're with a girl you get very nervous and that you're especially nervous because she's so beautiful but assure her that it happens and it's a first time thing and that once you get going you'll be fine... figure out your thing (rubbing your *****, putting it in her mouth, pressing against her hole, licking her as/pusy/feet/back, kissing her, whatever)... and do that to excite yourself... fantasize... get it going... and DON'T WORRY!
If she gives you time and you relax, you'll be fine.
2006-12-31 02:56:25
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answered by WattyIrma 3
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