Okay things were going good with my man, or so I thought. I was taking a few pic of our son on his phone when I went to find them cuz the automatically save I saw a folder that said BIDDIES. I got pisses cuz when I opened it it had one pic of me and two pics of some other girl posing sexy pushing her boobs all up. Well then I was curious and started to look throught his phone- I found some text messages he sent to this girl. One said send some more pics of ur sexy self and the other said do u still wann *** with me just let me know. Well when he came back I confronted him and he flipped out about me snooping through his phone. Yes I know I was wrong for doing that but he was claiming she's just a friend and that she when he said do she still wanna f*ck with that it mean like do she still wanna be his friend. Well he broke up with me today and is saying it's my fault and I ruined things. What should I do?Am I wrong in confronting him? I mean of course something is going on...right???
2006-12-30 18:24:06 · 40 answers · asked by Confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have a son....which make things soooo much more complicated....I have to see him and talk to him ALL the time.
2006-12-30 18:30:55 · update #1
Let him go, he's a cheating assh0le
2006-12-30 18:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by The Pig! 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
The Fact That He Got All Mad Because You Looked At His Phone Is Just Because He Got Busted! And He Used That To Break Up With You Because He Is Not Man enuff To Tell The Truth! He's A Cheater And A Back Stabber! Be Glad He's Gone! If He Had Nothing To Hide He Wouldn't Have Flipped Out When You Went Through His Phone! He Would Hve Left You Anyway. Sorry Hunny.
2006-12-30 18:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by † Dark Prince † 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I feel like this girl, you wans't snooping through his phone and if you was sh*t so what you got every right too he is ya man right? I go through my man's phone and not to look for **** but do stuff like you was doing and if I would've came across something like that I would have been callin ol girl to find out the realness. I would have kicked it to her like he told me what was going down or whatever ya know let her tell on her self. Then I would have told his *** to STEP! If he's cheatin ya dont need em'! You are way better than that let that other chick go through the other BIDDIES.. You had your turn, And the reason he is blaming it on you is to make you take him back and apologize to him. Sh*t we would do the same **** if it was us play the blame game it always works now he wants you to second guess your feelings and trying to make you think that what you seen and know in your heart and gut is true: is a lie.. Thats dirty ya man gots a lil game so you did the right thing.. You are better than me cuz the phone would have confronted the pavment. He is suppose to be your man takin pic's of other girls **** and girl if you hit a man on his cell and said you still wanna fu*k with me what would you mean? ( EVENTUALLY WE GONNA GET DOWN TO THE GET DOWN IF ALL GOES WELL) dig that?? You know what it is, you did the right thing.. let his sorry a** be. He aint sh*t girl..
2006-12-30 18:42:04 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Edwards 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was wrong and you happened to find the proof of it. If he had personal stuff on his cell phone and left it around for anyone to see he should have been more careful about deleting or protecting the content. Imagine - your child could have seen this -how inappropriate.
It is a cellphone for heavens sake, not a diary, and you were in a relationship. So why would you NOT look at it?
You will find in life that some people believe the best form of defense is attack, and this is what he did to you. It does not disguise the fact that he was wrong. 100% completely and utterly.
2006-12-30 18:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by suzanne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He left the phone laying around and all you did was take some pictures of HIS son.
You were not wrong. He got caught and is blamming you. He might not of done anything yet with this girl,,,,,,but sounds like he was hoping for that.
You were in the right totally. Don't take the creep back unless he is genuienly sorry and promises that his phone or computer are an open book.
2006-12-30 18:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be trying to make this your fault. Funny how his sleeping with someone else is something YOU did! Maybe you shouldn't have looked in his phone, but it wouldn't have been a problem if he didn't have something to hide. Is he not very bright to leave something like that on his phone? Nice of him to try to pin things on you. He is the creep here, not you. You may have snooped, but he is CHEATING. One is worse than the other. MUCH WORSE. It sounds like he is mad he was caught.
Maybe it is just as well you learned what his real nature is.
By the way, I don't know anywhere where "do you want to ****" is code for "let's be friends." Just sayin'...
2006-12-30 18:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole H. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had every right to confront him and be upset. No woman wants or likes to find such things about their man. This other woman could be just a friend, but even then.......that's a bit too much. I don't think any woman would want their man to have friends like that, do you??? If he broke up with you for a reason like that, then he's not worth your time. He can be angry that you snooped through his personal stuff, but he definitely has something to hide and taking the easy way out..........Forget about him for now.
2006-12-30 18:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay so obviously you know it was wrong to go snooping through his phone, but let's be realistic, most couples do it. He shouldn't have been doing that stuff in the first place, and it sounds like he was more mad about getting caught than about you looking through the phone. You are not wrong in confronting him, that's considering cheating by most people! Don't feel ashamed for standing up for yourself. It isn't you fault for "ruining things", it's his...you are better off without him!
2006-12-30 18:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by chemikalie08 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think he is cheating. If he wasn't he would have sat there and denied what you were thinking, trying to convince you he made mistakes and he was sorry. Instead he found a reason to leave you, the fact that you busted him. It will be very hard for you to trust him now. You mentioned you two have a son...think about him and make sure you do the right thing in getting his father to help support his son.
Good luck!
2006-12-30 18:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by r_a_i_n_m_a_n_5_9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts because I have been thru it. He is playing around behind your back,whether he is sleeping with her or not is not the issue here..Its a matter of respect. You had every right to confront him. Let him go. Sounds like you will be better off without him. Good Luck
2006-12-30 18:52:03 · answer #10 · answered by Shortydeb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made the right decision, yes things will be complicated because of your son, but have a little self respect... don't take this guy back, hes not worth it. Theres someone out there in this world that will treat you right.
2006-12-30 18:57:44 · answer #11 · answered by emtb9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋