Me and my husband have not been getting along at all lately, and i really feel like im being a bad wife. I get ill with him alot about our sex life because i sometimes think there is more to sex then what we have, but he wont talk to me about it. And we have only been married a little over a month, but we have been together about a 15 months. So please tell me. What can i do to help our relationship, to make him happier,and what can i do to be a better wife to him?
2006-12-30 18:00:37 · 12 answers · asked by Babyxgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
communication is key. try to meet his demands and ask for him to do the same
2006-12-30 18:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by Ketra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember sex is only one part of a marriage. Sounds like there are other issues that may need to be worked on.
But if this is the main issue then start by having a conversation with him. Tell him out and openly what you like and what you are looking for and ask him the same. ( make sure you approach this in a non threatening way so he does not feel like you are attaching him, men are very sensitive with this issue)
If you make him feel like he is not good enough or just doing something wrong he will shut down and go into defense mode and there will be no conversation.
Spend time asking yourself first what you are looking for and what you actually want, so when you go to talk you know what your asking for, and be prepared to compromise. If he asks for things that you are not willing to do are you willing to try them?
2006-12-31 09:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by just_trump_my_ace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Baby, If you want to have enjoyable sex, you need to relax your man. Try rubbing his back,that will help relax him.You need to have forplay before you have sex. This will get you both ready for sex. Ask your husband what turns him on.I really hope he has ask you the same question.There's always little things you can do, to enjoy your sex together. BOTH of you,don't be afraid to ask, if there is a problem. Having sex, can be a very big problem, if both are not enjoying it.What i would do,is set down with your husband, and ask him,what are you doing wrong. If you have a problem with him, tell him.Don't let it keep going on,until there's NO talking at all.
Clowmy
2006-12-31 02:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is in my opinion is one of the most important traits and needs in any relationship or marriage. You must begin there. Be patient, but be persistent to get him to open up to you. Maybe something happened in his childhood that he chooses to close up. Was he this way during your 15 month courtship? Also try talking to a therapist either together or by yourself. You are still newlyweds and should be enjoying each other. Good luck.
2006-12-31 02:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not uncommon for that to be happening. its definitely a change for the both of you, especially if this is both of your first marriages and if you two have never lived together before the wedding. it takes time to adjust to each other being around each other for 24/7. you both have your own personal space invaded by each other...and it takes a little while to adjust. things will get better. just keep working at it. remember...you two were happy together before the marriage and things will work out. it takes two to make a marriage work and its something that has to be worked on every day. it will get better....i promise.
2006-12-31 11:24:44 · answer #5 · answered by dana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep things simple, give him all the sex he wants, then it won't be an issue and he'll open up to you, and also listen to what you have to say sincerely.
The whole 'sex' thing can really screw a guy up if he's not getting any from his wife, that's for real.
2006-12-31 02:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage works both ways. communication is key! marriage is hard hard hard, but well worth it. the rest of your life is a long time. if he wont tell you things in your sex life then just take control and do them for him. again, it takes two... youre not being a bad wife, shame on him for leading you to that thought.
2006-12-31 02:11:35 · answer #7 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you say or do anything,you should stop and think,how would you like that or how would you like it if he done that to you?If sex is the problem,think of things to spice it up,if communication is the problem,try to talk to him in a language that men understand,which is blunt and to the point,they don't like to talk long talks,short and sweet,I always say.ALWAYS treat them as you would want to be treated and everything will be just fine.Kisses in the hallway are great and pats on the rear are signs of affection the should always be displayed,Good Luck!
2006-12-31 02:09:49 · answer #8 · answered by Jeannie P82199 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key to any marriage. If he isn't willing to talk about it with you, then maybe seek the help of a therapist. If he won't go with you, then you may want to consider going alone anyway.
2006-12-31 02:34:03 · answer #9 · answered by chasingserenity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well guys like to know that they are appreciated but the same should also be returned. Guys like to be told that they are sexy helps build up the ego. Men like good meals to be prepared but if you work then he should prepare a meal for you as well. The best thing for a mans heart is good food,good communication and good sex.
2006-12-31 02:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you want to be a good wife in everyway and ask him what does he want and in turn you tell him exactly what you want tell him your not a mine reader but you do want to make him happy and you want to be happy also but it's hard to do if he doesn't communicate with you. Congratulations and I hope everything works out for you!
2006-12-31 02:10:33 · answer #11 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋