We have been together 5 years. The sex used to be great. I need someone to explain to me what the heck is going on. Not only does he blame me for all our problems but often he avoids the subject alltogether. My husbund is only 45 and i am 44. I love sex!!! I am not ready to give it up. Someone near my age give me a little clue.
2006-12-30 17:48:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unless your husband is willing to go to counceling with you,
I see a 'bad' outcome for this relationship for several reasons.
#1. Your husband has a very controlling nature, and this is the reason why he blames you for all your problems.
It's his way of getting 'even' so to speak, for not giving in to him .
#2. His demand for oral sex 'only', is yet another form of control,
and he's made it 'very' plain that you will pay the price for not
having sex 'his way'.
And paying the price comes in the form of 'BLAME'.
Your husband has some serious emotional and sexual issues
going on here, and this is the reason he will avoid talking about
things.
For any man/woman to discuss a sexual problem with their partner, would mean they might incriminate themselves as having a problem, which they will 'never' do unless they seek professional help.
Your situation is called 'abuse', sexual and emotional.
Like I said, 'If he is not willing to get help, then you may as well
'pack your bags'..Unless you prefer being controlled.
2006-12-30 18:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is up with dude. Blow Jobs are great but they are just the appetizer. Boning is the main course. He has some type of emotional problem, is having extra marital sex OR is gay.
After five years your V must have the gripping power of a vice. He's a complete FOOL! He's missing out on some great action.
Suggestion, pull a sneak attack on him. Get him up with your mouth then jump on top of him. As soon as he feels that firm beaver, he should be hooked again.
2006-12-31 14:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have alot of questions for you to think about. hes stressed out about something. has he shown signs of abusiveness in the past? is there a chance he might be seeing someone else? is he afraid he cant get it up and keep an erection? is he secretly bisexual or leaning more toward men? when did he have his last physical exam? there could be an imbalance of hormones or chemicals in the body. if he wont discuss it with you he needs to talk to a professional..if he wont do that maybe you should see one yourself. he might not want to stay married. you need to find out so you can make your own decisions and changes. good luck
2006-12-31 02:06:56 · answer #3 · answered by katlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Debora, Sounds to me ,he has been seeing someone on the side. It could be a woman,or a man. I hope i am wrong, but something is going on with him. Have a friend follow him on his days off. That's the only way you will know for sure. Good Luck My Friend.
Clowmy
2006-12-31 02:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has drawn the line, he is tired of one way sex, open yourself up to varied sex, including oral!!
While women ultimately decide if and when to have sex, their male partner often feels like they have no say at all! Give some ground!
2006-12-31 13:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husbands body is aging and he could be having erection problems and is embarrassed and ashamed that this is happening to his body. He wants to put the blame on you because he is ashamed of this. He should go seek a doctor and see what he can do. Do not believe everyone on here saying he has to be cheating.
2006-12-31 02:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried to spice it up a bit? toys? porn?
2006-12-31 02:37:36 · answer #7 · answered by Betsy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋