I am 20 and I want to have a baby. My parents are like old school they want me to get married but I dont want to get married. And my mother still consider me to be a baby. I dont understand what the problem I have my associates degree, an LPN license and I about to move out 2 months from now. In a couple of months I am going to go through a program to get my RN. I feel that I am ready to have a baby. What do you think???
2006-12-30 17:46:47 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My bf and I worked everything out he get good money aswell he is a mechanic. Is not like he/she wont be taken care of.
2006-12-30 18:00:29 · update #1
I dont really party, just occasional movies thats all. I dont drink.
2006-12-30 18:04:47 · update #2
It sounds like your responsible enough tell your mom to grow up and if she respect you she love you and her new grand baby with all her heart
2006-12-30 17:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
20 is pretty young. Not because you can't handle it, but because you shouldn't have to. You have tons of time. Live out your 20's! Be hot while you still can! And you never know... you might find a guy who makes you want to get married. You will want him to be the father, correct?
Do what you want, not what your parents want. You are old enough for that. But you are also old enough to be responsible and have a head on your shoulders and think about what and who you are affecting.
Try this: Get your RN first. Then see how you feel. That will give you more time to think, because having a baby is a big thing. Plus, you'll have that out of the way. Once you are a RN, you can make some money, then you'll be even more prepared for a child. Obviously, your mom has experience with having a child, since she had you. She may know what she is talking about.
2006-12-30 17:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by Kate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not while you are trying to get your licenses and stuff. It will just throw a wrench into the works and you might end up resenting the baby. Just starting out as a nurse you are going to get A LOT of night shifts, and you don't want to do that when you've got a baby. How are you going to be supported while you are on maternity leave? I'm sure you don't have a well established savings account yet, unless you're a trust fund baby.
Do yourself and the baby a favor and wait for at least 3 more years. I've had times where I think I'm ready and when it doesn't happen, later I'm like "thank God I didn't have a kid 2 years ago like I wanted because life really sux right now." I'm 30 & still don't have kids, and although I'm aware that I need to get on the ball, I'm not really sweating it. I don't feel DESPERATE for a child yet. And maybe I never will.
2006-12-30 17:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by concretebrunette 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as you can finanially support yourself and a child... then you are okay. Just think about just starting a career and having to take time off for maternity leave and all of that.
I would suggest you to wait though. I had my first child at 20 and I wasn't married and had a boyfriend and had one more year of college left. I had a great job making really great money and alright insurance.
I will tell you first off that I wouldn't change having my son for the world, but I would have waited a while til after I got out of college and had a better career. My boyfriend and I didn't work out and I was left on my own with a child, school, and a job. I ended up having to cut my time in school and in my job so I could spend more time with my son and cut back on daycare cost.
I know you have heard this a million times, but babies are VERY expensive. Just becareful for that. Other than money... if you think you are responsible enough... give yourself a little bit longer to think about it... then make your choice. Its a life changing plan. Make sure you know whats going to happen in the long run first!
Good luck!
2006-12-30 17:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by Finally Preggers! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a single mom and a mid twenties mother I would say no. I had my son when I was 21. I was married then, but now divorced. My ex is not in my son's life. If you can handle someone constantly depending on you for everything twenty four hours a day, seven days a week then fine. I'm back in the dating scene. My boyfriend and I are both single parents. When we want to go out for a drink, or to see a movie that doesn't contain animation we can't. You're stuck for 18 years. I love my son with all my heart...but, there are days I just need a break and would love to just go out and have a night on the town. If you know you can handle all of that then go for it. Just know that there will be invitations that you will get to something you really want to go to...but, babysitters are not always readily available. You can't trust just anyone with your child, and people won't always be knocking on your door trying to lend a hand.
2006-12-30 18:00:06 · answer #5 · answered by Maxine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just want you to know it is alot of hard work, its not easy as it seems to be, I am 22 yrs old and have a 4 month old. There are alot of questions you need to ask yourself before taking this BIG STEP in your life, are you willing to give up your freedom? are you willing to have your life turned upside down? Are you financially & emotionally responsible to provide for a child? If I were you I will write down the pros & cons and from there make a decision, remember a Baby is a whole new Life, dont mess with that!
2006-12-30 17:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by just curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait.. Alot of people go through that stage where they think they are ready to have a baby... Go out have some fun before you rush into having a baby.. All my friends that are girls have babies and all of them have said they wish they would have waited.. Are you with someone who you really love and want to have babies with.. Be patient.. Girl it is the best to do.. I sometimes say to myself i am ready to have a baby and i want to.. but i also think that .. i am not ready financially and physically and all the other good stuff.. Be patient :) good luck girl! Also i think that since you are in nursing in all it makes you want to have one even more since you are learning about it and all.. just focus on your rn degree..
2006-12-30 17:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by tearzofaprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds important to you to do this, I know you have really thought about in that case. Lots of people your age are ready for that commitment so good luck. As long as you understand this is the next 20 years of your life you are affecting (at least) and that it's no ones responsibility except yours you should do fine. Myself, I'd want to complete my education first, secure a good job and then move on to that stage of my life but we are all different.
2006-12-30 17:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by patti duke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take advice on this from anyone under 30. Wait awhile. Have a life of your own. Get a little more stable. Find a life partner. Do it right, for the sake of the child. I am a single father. Listen to us single parents. Don't do it yet. There is much to do for yourself first.
2006-12-30 18:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by mac&cheese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish your educational goal first. Move out of your parent's house and get yourself settled and become self sufficient. Then you will be able to focus on having a child. Give the child the best you can by getting your priorities straight now.
2006-12-30 17:54:01 · answer #10 · answered by w2kaad 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
good job on your lpn and getting ur rn lol thats soo kool you have that! hummm after you get your rn have a kid man just make should you really want it and that you love that person or maybe doing adoption would be an idea!?!
2006-12-30 18:17:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋