My mother is a hardcore Christian and believes that bisexuals are "confused". She has said in the past that she would accept me no matter what my preference, but one time she freaked out because I told her about my involvement in LGBT issues and she asked if I was "one of them". I really want to be able to tell her, but her attitude scares me and I honestly do not think she would be accepting of me and my sexuality. She does not have a hatred or dislike for members of the LGBT community, but she has expressed her view that she would prefer that her children all be heterosexuals...any help or ideas?
2006-12-30 17:44:06 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First of all, I would say that there are several factors that you should consider. First being wether or not you have someone special in your life that would necessitate the coming out to your mother. If you're not seeing someone currently, what's the problem with waiting until there is someone...which leads into my second factor, which is age. Are you young and still living at home where mom controls much of your life or are you older and able to support yourself should she ask you to leave? Unfortuanately, there are several parents who have a difficult time accepting their child's sexual orientation and will kick them out of the house.
Rememeber, never come out during an arguement or use it as a weapon. Do it out of love, not haste. It's best to do it when things are good and you have time to calmly explain it to her. Having resources available would be good, as I'm certain she'll have a lot of questions.
Read through this site...I suggest this site a lot for my GLBT clients.
2006-12-30 17:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by Stephen M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just don't get into a fight about your gay neighbor and his heaven hell status and end up shouting it at her. If you are still a minor then I'd wait until you either moved out or fell in love with a girl. Don't throw away a chance at love for your mom but don't make unnesessay tension.
If you feel that she must know then just set down with her and tell her. Tell her that you respect her views and opinions but do not share them and that you are going to be yourself no matter what. I hope it all works out for you. Remember to be firm because she will probably try to make you "not confused" since people love to live under the illusion that that's what we are. Show no weakness, don't be rude but be strong and make sure she knows where you do and always stand.
2006-12-30 19:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me no , if it weren't for the lord I possibly might have ended my existence in the past I had my 2 different little ones. besides the undeniable fact that my reunion has come to an abrupt halt for no obtrusive motives different than i think of or suspect the adopters are pressuring him, so i'm at a loss asserting 'GOD WHY, yet i'm additionally attempting to hold some desire. As for my son that grow to be accompanied(my oldest) he struggles with spirituality which i could no longer understand provided that he grow to be accompanied by utilising Christians, i could no longer understand for the existence of me why he may well be so became off by utilising it till I study the e book Primal wound then all of it made experience, the primal wound has a tendency to electrify the spirituality in some adoptess.
2016-10-28 19:12:00 · answer #3 · answered by wolter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you decide to tell her, make sure you have the resources there to help, like PFLAG. Make sure you continue to talk to her and help her through this. But, if she's going to freak and have you kicked out, sent to boot camp, or have an exorcism then it would be best to wait until you're completely independent of her, then take the above advice.
2007-01-01 13:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it ain't broke, don't fix it.
Your mom loves you, and it could complicate things if you come out to her toooooo soon. You should do it, but I don't know why everyone wants to hurry and tell their parents. I love secrets, they're more fun. And yeah...keep having sleepovers ;)
2006-12-30 18:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by Candy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have a girlfriend now, I don't see why you need to involve your mother in your sexual preference.
2006-12-30 17:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by Belie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
look... i didn't exactly come out to my parents.... but i can tell you... that it wasn't easy... you gotta remember that just making her aware is better than saying you are, no changes, no nothing... you gotta let her think... you're confused and you want her support... not her ridicule, you're still her little girl... you just need her now... get it... good luck kid... i hope your mom is more understanding than mine... :)
2006-12-30 17:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by DR. Connect 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just keep it to ya self dont tell any of ya family just tel ya closest friends thats wht i do
2006-12-30 23:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by dudett 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont tell... just have sleepovers with no problems :)
2006-12-30 17:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just keep it to yourself.=]
2006-12-30 17:49:26 · answer #10 · answered by nella =) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋