My last period was nov 2 and I am about 4 weeks late. I had an abortion when I was 18 and I felt sad and I said i wont do it again. Now that I am 20 I feel I am ready for it but I dont know if my life will be? Would it be a dramtic change?
2006-12-30 17:39:21 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I dont go out much so If i have to be home all day with my baby thats not a problem.
2006-12-30 17:51:17 · update #1
Well, you certainly won't enjoy the freedom that you do now and yes, it will be a dramatic change, but look, millions of women have babies everyday and they adjust and survive and thrive. It will be different, but not necessarily worse. Just don't stop improving yourself and seeking an education because these things will only help yours and your baby's future.
Good luck!
And if you're not with the father, make sure you go after him for financial support. You will NEED it!
2006-12-30 18:06:08 · answer #1 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your life won't be over but it will change. How much it changes is on how u view motherhood. Motherhood is rewarding but it is also hard work. If u have a good support network that will also help u make the change from the life u now have to the one u want to create for u and ur baby. I say u and the baby as there is no mention of a boyfriend. I had 3 children at the age of 21 and I don't regret it at all. Now I'm out and about working and studying while my girlfriends are just starting their families. Whenever u chose to have a child it is the right time for u and go with ur heart. Congrats and take care of yourself and bub.
2006-12-31 02:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, i hope this will help you out.. im 21 and i have a 16 month old daughter... i was 17 when i first got pregnant and "i" also had an obortion.. it was horrible, but couple days later i was actually glad because i too thought my life would have been over.. the second time i got pregnant i was 19 and me and my boyfriend back then decided to keep the baby and get married.. so we did. we planed everything out before we made the final decision and i think we did the right thing.. we both couldnt go through another obortion.. it changed our lives for the better i think.. yea at first it was hard because we had to stay home all the time and we were that type who always went somewhere. we thought our life is over but it isnt. its just begining.. i think from my experience that if you are willing to change your life it would be great for you to keep the baby.. and if you do i wish you good luck! its the best thing it could happen to you. i couldnt wait till my daughter was born! shes an angel straight from heaven and i love her soo much i would do anything for her! and if you keep it your baby will be born begining of august!
hope this helps!
2006-12-31 01:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by xoandilekox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't lie to you!! Having a child is a life long change. All the sacrafices you make etc. I was only 19 when I had my first born. I wasn't ready for him but I don't really believe in abortions so I went ahead and had him and now 4 yrs on I wouldn't change it for the world. Also we have had another since.
It also depends on your situation like how did the babies dad react? Does he want you to have it? Will he hang around if you choose to?
Just one thing you need to remember is that this is your decision to make and nobody elses.
Good Luck with it all and I am sure you will make the right decision that's best for you!!
One last thing I think you should know. With every abortion you have it lessons your chance of having kids in the future. A friend of mine has had 4 abortions and now she can't get pregnant now that she is finally ready and every time she gets pregnant she miscarries.
Think about it seriously!
2006-12-31 02:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To be honest with you, a child does turn your life upside down, but its up to you to make it a positive turn in your life, I am 22 and have a 4 month old daughter, it is hard at first just because your life belongs to this new precious life, you will have to deal with a schedule of feeding which is very exhausting...feeding every 3 hrs 24/7...nonstop, and just to think that every move revolves around your daughter, even when it comes to going out, its very difficult at first but its all about getting used to it, but to me its all worth it, I love my Baby girl with my life, and I am willing to do that and more for her. Its really up to you as a woman and as a mother to make the decision. Just one advice whatever your choice might be remember it is a Life...a Life that did not ask to be brought to this world therefore don't take out your anger and frustrations on an innocent little human being. If you keep your Baby, Love your Baby, and if you ever get depressed seek help immediately! Good Luck!
2006-12-31 01:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by just curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a child is a dramatic change for anyone, previous abortion or no. There are always sacrifices being made. Some may feel like they are the end of the world, when really, you are just beginning to see the best things in the world.
Good luck :) July/August babies are great!
The decision to have a child, it's momentous. It is to decide forever to let your heart walk around outside of your body. --Anonymous
A mother's love is patient and forgiving when all others are forsaking, and it never fails or falters, even though the heart is breaking.-Helen Steiner Rice
2006-12-31 01:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by f319 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When i found out i was preg i had just turned 22. i only knew the guy for a month when i found out i was about 2 weeks pregnant I thought my life was over for sure! But it wasnt at all...it was actually just beginning! We got married and had the most beautiful baby girl ever! Shes now two, we have been married almost 3 years now, and we are all happy! The truth is that our daughter SAVED our lives. We went from being wild n crazy partyers, to stable, loving, responsible, church going parents!! All babies are blessings, and you my dear have been truely blessed!! Thank God for giving you a second chance at motherhood! You are going to be fine.
2006-12-31 02:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by Aubrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you are going through, although i never had an abortion. i got pregnant when i was 20, and i knew i was capable of taking care of a baby, but i was worried that my life would be dramatically different. turned out, it was very different. but not in the way i thought it would be. it changed me for the better, i love being a mom, now my daughter is 2, and she's my world. i couldnt be happier. do all you can now to plan for the baby, i wish you all the best, and a happy healthy baby!
2006-12-31 01:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by superyduperymommy 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i'm jealous
the way i see it, yours is an ideal age to have kids, you're not 16, you probably have the faculties to raise a family, you can utilise support without needing to fob your baby off completely on whoever you depend on.
the next couple of years will be different to how you probably planned it out but with a lot of work you could have quite a well rounded existence:
part time work works to make some ends meet,
easy high-benefit courses e.g. CeMap can be done almost completely online these days and the financial returns are worth it
if you found hours in your day to dedicate to something like that you could be home & dry almost as soon as early next year (08)
the main reason why i want kids early is retirement. imagine if you had a child at 35 or 40. you assume that they should go through education maybe even get to university, using those circumstances you'll be wanting to retire roundabout the time when your child wants to go to Uni who knows if they'll be able to afford tuition fees, get loans and pay inflated rent? with the eu opened up, with energy prices set to reach new heights, with our near saturation in the housing market & general economy how much will the competition be for jobs, careers, housing, business and education?
you've probably saved your child by giving them a head start on all that for many reasons, least of all that you'll be around to help either joining income to get into housing or looking after HER kids! or whatever!!
the point is you now have much more chance of guiding your child into an decent adult, enjoying life together, helping each other because inevitably you will rely on your baby...
plus you'll get to see your grand kids! isn't that great? you'll see your child grow and see how they turn out in a way that many 40/50 year olds won't be able to asa result of their deliberate life choices.
if i were you i'd count your blessings. if i were ME i'd count your blessings. they're quite a few by my reconning. i'm 22. what you have is pretty much all I want right now. . . (wanna swop? ¦~D ) anyway...
i hope you get as much happiness as you can stand out of it
http://www.bbc.co.uk/radio4/history/childhood/
2006-12-31 16:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your life will be changed, but if you love your baby and want to be a good mom, the change is not a bad thing. You will make decisions you would not make if you were by yourself, so now things have to be for the best interest of your baby. It will work out.
2006-12-31 02:06:50 · answer #10 · answered by SINGLEMOM4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋