ohh my god I have a boy friend who is the love of my life named jake!
1 month ago i was partying and was drunk and had sex.
I just found out I am pregnat with twins. Thank god the other guy dosent know I am pregnat.
Jake thinks It's his kids but they arent.
What should I do tell jake it's his baby or dump him and go with real dad.
To make it worse the guy I had sex with was his twin bro.
2006-12-30 17:24:11 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I thought it was jake when i slept with his bro
2006-12-30 17:34:44 · update #1
Hey i am just 16 and this is my family's side thats why it has completely different questions on my profile
2006-12-30 17:44:57 · update #2
Tell jake it's his bro's babies and hope he accepts that!
2006-12-30 17:27:02 · answer #1 · answered by Marcia D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd talk to your boyfriend about what you did and tell him that you want to stay with him. APOLOGIZE your face off!
Really, at this point, you don't know for sure which is the dad. Have paternity testing done after the birth.
But seriously, come clean with your boyfriend and apologize for it. I don't think it's fair at all to him for you to do this, and then dump him over it - as if it was his fault. And if the other guy's his twin, it probably won't be long before he also knows you're pregnant. If you love your boyfriend and he truly loves you, it won't matter if the babies aren't his. He'll still step in and take over the role - it seems like he is already interested in doing that.
He deserves to know, but don't crush him twice.
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Wait a minute. I just re-read this and it's sounding so completely bogus.
You had sex with his brother.. a month ago, approximately 4 weeks.
You just found out you're having twins.
Most people don't find out they're even pregnant at 4 weeks, let alone how many babies there are.
So how were twins determined? Did you have some ultra-sensitive ultrasound, or were HCG levels checked?
2006-12-30 17:30:53 · answer #2 · answered by f319 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Go with Jake, the love of your life. Since it was his twin brother DNA tests would probably not be able to tell which one is the father anyway and the DNA is close enough that he could be the father and the blood types will be compatible, as will any future possible medical issues. One thing though...NEVER TELL. If you are going to make this decision make it for life. Don't come up with a guilty conscience in a few years and tell someone just to make yourself feel better. That is the ultimate in selfish behavior in my opinion.
2006-12-30 18:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be completely honest and take responsibility. The "other guy" and Jake needs to know the truth. It's not right to live with such a lie. Hopefully the biological father will step up and be there for your support... if not then hopefully Jake is still there despite the fact he's not the father...
2006-12-30 17:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by tanjarine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May I suggest that you Pray and ask the Lord for strength and Tell him the truth. Infidelity is really a big No-No and can possibly destroy your relationship with your boyfriend...but it might be worse if one of you children develop some disease later down the road or needs an organ ( or something or-other) in the future and your boyfriend has to find out that the kids are not his through lab testing...that would really be worse...God bless...
2006-12-30 17:35:52 · answer #5 · answered by Skip2MyLoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the truth. If jake really loves you back he'll understand and help take responsibility. Also tell the real father that way he can help take responsibility. If you don't want to be with the babies' father and you want to be with Jake...then be with him if he wants to be with you. if not then move on...don't be with a man just because you feel that it's your responsibility to....be with a man because you BOTH love each other and want to be there for one anther. ALSO....don't cheat....it's not a good thing to be telling people you don't really know...they'll slam you for it no matter how old you are..how you look or how you feel. GL with your pregnancy and the babies...i hope you all have a healthy life :)
2006-12-30 17:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by dragonlady042 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will never regret being honest with Jake, tell the truth now and avoid a bunch of heartache later when it all comes out. Believe me, it will come out.
If Jake is the man I think he is, he will step up to do the right thing by you.
2006-12-30 17:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by Peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't u think the real father has a right to know he has kids? How would u feel if u were in his shoes? U r going to have to come clean sometime, or this will eat at u for the rest of ur life. Don't u think that the twins would deserve the right to know their real dad?
2006-12-30 17:28:35 · answer #8 · answered by poohbie_red 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're far to youthful to objective and get help for an alcoholic father, he's a grown guy except he realizes he has a topic you wont have the skill to do something. as much as now as the doorstep dad is worried why do you think of he's a newborn molester, has he accomplished something to you which you recognize is incorrect, are you able to speak on your mum or a depended on relatives member possibly even a instructor & in the journey that your incorrect approximately the doorstep dad, you do no longer could desire to compliment between them, you are able to truly love your actual father & love the doorstep dad besides.
2016-10-28 19:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by wolter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE IS NO DOUBT ABOUT IT. YOU MUST BE COMPLETELY HONEST. YOU HAVE TO TELL THE FATHER OF THAT CHILD THAT HE IS THE FATHER!
THERE IS NO OTHER WAY. YOU MUST COME CLEAN WITH THE GUY WHO ISN'T THE FATHER.
UNLESS YOU WANT THIS TO HAUNT YOU FOR LIFE TELL THE TRUTH, FACE THE MUSIC.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT, WHAT IF SOMETHING FURTHER DOWN THE ROAD HAPPENS TO THAT CHILD YOU WOULD HAVE TO BE HONEST THEN, AND IT WILL BE MUCH EASIER IF YOU DO IT NOW.
BUT EITHER OF THOSE GUYS COULD BE THE FATHER, COS THEY ARE TWINS, AND HAVE THE SAME DNA.
SO EITHER OF THEM COULD HELP IF PROBLEM AROSE.
JUST DO THE RIGHT THING AND TELL THE FATHER OF HIS CHILD THAT HE'S A DAD.
SHAME ON YOU. WHAT KIND OF BROTHER SLEEPS WITH HIS BROTHERS GIRL.
YOU CAN'T LOVE HIM THAT MUCH IF YOU SLEPT WITH HIS BROTHER!
ANYWAY I'M NOT HERE TO JUDGE.
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-30 17:39:05 · answer #10 · answered by celestialangel43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all drunk accidents happen.
Second of all TELL THE TRUTH.
I read once that you can get pregnant with twins by 2 different people. Not sure how true that is.
Good Luck. And remember being honest now is going to hurt(everyone), but it will hurt alot more later.
2006-12-30 17:29:56 · answer #11 · answered by liskiehl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋