My ex-bf borrowed $20000 dollars from me and he just disappeared. Anyone knows how do i get my money back?

Question

I wrote a check to him. I know his cell phone number but he wont answer my call. I have to pay for the rent and I really need the money. Someone has to teach him a lesson. Help me.

Answer 1

Unfortunately you probably can't prove that he borrowed the money and is supposed to pay him back... If he hasn't yet deposited the check then you can probably call your bank and have them stop payment on that chec.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

Stop the check if you have time, call the bank asap. Did you get a sign iou, if you did or even if you didn't and it is a check you can take him to court. You can hire someone to find him and have him served, they will garnish any money he makes. You can also trace him by his phone there are sites where you can give them his phone number and they will send a list of numbers he has called from that phone. You can then trace him through that. Yet this best way is stop the check or have him served. It takes time to clear a check for 20000 dollars so you might still have time. Good luck

Answer 3

Consider it a lesson for you. This would fall under a civil suit. The police will not do anything because you willfully gave him the money, no crime was committed (unless he's a scam artist and has done this to other women). If by some chance you got him to sign something this would be of help to you. However, you can't even pursue it in small claims court because the limit is usually around $4000.
I would bet that he doesn't even have a job though, so I think that you will have a hard time collecting. Call your local state police and ask their advise. If they can't help, the next step would be to ask a lawyer. Good luck to you!

Answer 4

If he doesn't pay you, you'll have to sue him. When you win, you can get a judgement against him and try to get this on his credit reports. Try to get his social security number, too. Then, he won't be able to buy or refinance a home until he 1. files for bankruptcy or 2. pays you back during the next 7 years.

If you don't collect your money within 7 years... you'll have to kiss it goodbye.

Note, don't ever do this again. If he can't get the money from a bank... there's a reason for it. Learn from this mistake!

Best wishes.

Answer 5

First - Go to the cop station and file a report
Second - Call / email / SMS him that you have files a police complaint.
Third - Speak to your lawer about sending him a legal notice.

Unless he is a thug in the business of ripping off people, he will get in touch with you within 5 days of step 3.

Best of Luck

Shivaji Sengupta

Answer 6

if u have any written proof that u gave him that money u can go to court just make sure you don't say it was a verbal agreement if u have a copy of a check u gave him or any prof of you actually giving him that money than you have a pretty good case find a layer if u really need help but all you really need is some kind or document or written statement that you gave him the money

Answer 7

well u cant really tell the police because you wrote the check, try cancelling the check with the bank. I'd hire a private investigator and get the bastard. least if you get ur money back you can pay the PI with sum of the money you get bak, but i think u'd have to be quick.

Answer 8

If you could afford to loan out $20, 000, then 1-you should own a house and 2-shouldn't have a problem paying your rent.
You should have known better than to loan out that large of a sum of money...guess you learned your lesson.

Answer 9

Did he sign an agreement ? It is probably too late, but cancel the check. Call an attorney, 20G's is a lot of money where I come from.

Answer 10

Try to stop payment on the check and go to the police and report it, then go to court and file a suit against him, besides that there is not much else you can do that's legal.