My sister in law is being abused verbally and being told what to do and when to do it. She loves her husband very much but I think she doesn't deserve to be treated so badly. She is white and he is black. He is very insecure, but he think he has other girls.
2006-12-30 16:56:49 · 10 answers · asked by Jenny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well to start off you need to talk to your bother and tell him what you have seen and how you feel about it. Tell him that you wouldn't put up with it and neither should she. Would he treat you like that? or your Mom?
You need to let her know that you are there for her and keep a close friendship. Make your house a safe place that she can go. If she wants to go out, you go out with her. Let her build her own confidence, take her shopping buy her some nice cloths that make her feel pretty. Let her be pretty for her husband and that she is the one for him.
Statically most abusive situations occur with people that have little to no self-esteem. If she doesn't have confidence in her self then she won't leave him even if he does hit her. Signs: if she stops talking to you or hanging out that's when you need to force yourself into her life.
Best of luck, I know this must be hard for you but you need to let them both know how you feel. Maybe get the rest of the family and friends involved for support.
2006-12-30 17:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by freaking_airhead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the previous going to any better half and young little ones occasion, ask (i could ask loudly) if the brother-in-regulation was once gonna be there. Make it sturdy pointed out which you basically do not seem gonna submit including his shenanigans. If he's gonna be there, do not bypass. enable his different better half and young little ones persons comprehend that if he would be there, your better half and young little ones won't be attending. Your husband would desire to have your lower back in this. it is going to intent themes including his better half and young little ones yet while they don't seem going to handle this tough concern, they have gotta be conscious that this brother's behavior is going to split the better half and young little ones aside. you have gained to be the assertive one and take the 1st step, they don't seem going to or they already would have. His better half and young little ones will specifically resent you for a on a similar time pondering the undeniable fact which you're making a bad disadvantage extra advantageous painful. yet there isn't any reason to enable this cancer into your own better half and young little ones. interior the long term, the two they are going to hold this douche around and whine approximately the kind you 2 abandoned them OR they are going to take care of the priority with him and get him to strengthen the hell up or push him out. basically make absolute to tell his persons that the rationalization you're actually not to any extent further coming is pondering the undeniable fact which you do not want to bare your better half and young little ones to his drunken, abusive, hijinks. i could desire they want you adult men over the douche even inspite of the shown fact which you by no potential comprehend. interior the ideal, you have gotten gained to look out on your better half and young little ones.
2016-10-19 06:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by graviett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know she might not even notice that she is being treated badly.
I do not think you or anyone can 'get' someone out of a an abusive realationship. Mostly you can tell her you are there for her and if she needs you you will be there for when ever she needs you.
Other then that I do not think there is much you can do.
2006-12-30 17:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's really a sticky situation but since he's your brother just maybe you could talk to him about how bad he's treating her and how it would be ashame to see her leave him for someone who knows how to treat her.
2006-12-30 17:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person who can put a stop to it is her. She needs to decide for herself that she's not going to take this anymore and if things don't change, she outta there for good.
2006-12-30 17:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation. Just keep her friendship and be someone she can talk to. Make sure and tell her if he ever hits her to call you, then you call the cops. It's bound to happen if it hasn't already. It probably has and she doesnt' want to tell.
2006-12-30 16:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by bdenton2k 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should talk to your brother and be there for her. verbal abuse and physical go hand in hand. how was he raised?
2006-12-30 17:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be supportive and listen to her when she needs you, telling her the obvious will make her stand offish, when shes ready to leave him she will
2006-12-30 17:01:03 · answer #8 · answered by DJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he thinks he has other girls? he does not know? hahaha.
i'd say something right in front of him, like hey stop being such a jerk to her.... or whatever other context you'd like to put it in. let her see that she has an ally in you.
2006-12-30 17:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by nanabooboo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yep sounds like he can do what he wants but she can't do anything. is typical of a guy screwing around especially a black one
2006-12-30 17:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by gunnyhoney1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋