if you loved someone and they were in an accident..would you still be with them?

Question

if they were messed up so bad they cant walk talk or move would you take care of them.. if you were young i mean like 23 and you still have the rest of your life ahead of you. if you wanted children and all the trimmings..would you give up your dreams of a family and take care of the loved one?

Answer 1

I dont know if you are talking about your husband, or a parent or a good friend so I cant be specific so I'll give you a general answer.This is a very tough question and I appreciate your courage for even asking such a question. You sound like a person who wants to do the right thing. I have had many years of counseling experience and this is a question you should ask a professional counselor that has had experience in dealing with people who have went thru similar situations. All you are going to get from most people is "opinions" that will probably not be based on any facts or experience and will probably make you more confused than when you started. Try to find people who have been in similar situations and get their input. They can give you some perspectives that you wont be able to come up with on your own.I will tell you this. Some people don't have what it takes to tend to someone who needs constant attention and you could do more harm than good. However, I have known people who have given up their dreams to take care of someone and they wouldn't trade the experience for the world. A good place to start is to call 1800-NEW LIFE. Hope this helps. :)

Answer 2

Love is simply a decision, has nothing really to do with feelings. We all choose to love, regardless of how we feel. Many times, we confuse lust with love. And lust is fleeting, always living in the moment. So yes, if you love someone, you'll stay with them no matter what because of the decision you made to choose to love without condition. You can be 23 years old or even 32 years old and be in the same situation, questioning that there's the rest of your life ahead of you. So it doesn't matter the age..as long as you realize the difference between lust and love and are ready to sacrifice your life for the sake of another (real love is pretty much dying to self), then you'll have your answer.

Answer 3

Well, if I was married to the person I would. When you get married then you commit for better or for worse, and sometimes you spend a number of years finding out what that 'worse' part is.

Um, my husband was in a bad accident 5 yrs ago and there are lots of things he can't do, and yeah, it's hard, but there is no way I would leave him. Mature love stays and serves. This is not the life I had planned, so I made a new plan. Life does not go the way you want it to go, but God is able to give you strength for whatever He brings your way.

Answer 4

I think I would try my best to take care of him. At 23 you are very young to be burdened with that responsibility. That would be a very hard decision to stay with the person or leave. If the person had family it would actually be their responsibility and I think they would understand how you feel too.

I have a friend whose 38 year old husband fell when he had a child on his shoulders. He is now a paraplegic and in a nursing home. They were in the process of divorce but she decided to stay by his side and she goes every day and takes care of him.

Answer 5

If they really loved you, they would want the best for you, and not to waste your life on a vegetable, no matter how much their selfish desire would be there. Assuming said person will never recover, because if they can, someone they feel deeply for might be what they need to get them through rehab. If they remain a vegetable it still wouldn't hurt to visit them or read to them or hold their hand, it would still be a comfort if they were conscious, but it doesn't mean giving up your life too. You must go on, live your life, any person who loved you would want that most of all.

Answer 6

I will still love that person no matter what, but if they are really hurt and you can do nothing with them other than take care of them and feed them than all you can do is that than be there for that person but just as friends nothing else.Explain why you cant do that.Honestly I wouldn't know the answer to that one thats a hard question.Hurtful to only you can do what you need to and how you feel.That's a good question.But everyone deserves someone no matter what.

Answer 7

it really depends because I would have to look over my life and see what has happened. I would probley get someone to take care of the person but I have to visit very often and try to start a family on my own. but no matter what I try to keep that person in my life. good luck and have a happy new year.

Answer 8

yes as this proves that im a very devoted,loyal and caring partner to them till the end no matter what obstacles may come between us in life and future as well.even if we have to made some sacrifices,its okay as long as we both have each other and can be together for the rest of our life.

Answer 9

this is your decision alone, many people do stay, many people keep in contact and have a special friendship with them, this is for the rest of your life remember that, at your age it would be very difficult to stay, if you decide to leave the relationship do it as best friends though, then you will never feel guilty.

Answer 10

I'd care for the loved one because if you left to go fulfill your dreams and etc....you would have your conscience to deal with. If you seriously love them and you want more than anything to see them happy and well, then you would stay and help them. Leaving them would cause them pain, and possibly yourself a bit of pain.