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Mine would be that my mother abandoned me when I was a child.It has affected me in a lot of ways even now as an adult.What hurts you the most?

2006-12-30 16:19:51 · 20 answers · asked by J♥R♥R 6 in Social Science Psychology

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I'm so glad you asked that question.For me,it's more than just one thing.It's a multiple number of things.First,I recently found out that my own father didn't want me.So while my mom was carrying me,he deliberately tried to make her miscarry me.He tried to kill me,before she could actually give birth to me.Second,I've never had a normal life.I've always been different.Very,very painfully shy,since I was a small child.Very,very sensitive,and too kind,too caring,too giving,and people like to take advantage of that.I've struggled with severe,chronic depression since I was 12.My father died when I was 11.I never had an easy time of making friends and being accepted.I was picked on,and teased,and rejected,even by my own brother and sister.Another thing that's really hurt me,is my sister shut me out of her life.When we were little,she was my best friend.And she seemed to really care.But when she became a teenager,all that changed.To this day,we're not close.And it doesn't seem to bother her in the slightest.
Another thing that hurts.Because I'm mentally sick,and I have to take pills,I'm isolated from my family.I can't relate to them.Because I'm sick and they're normal.
The one thing that hurts me the most,though,at this point in my life,is that I don't have anyone to love me.I don't have anyone who wants me.I don't have a boyfriend,or a husband,who will love me so much,he'll feel my pain as if it's his very own.Because it hurts,and it's lonely -as-hell,having to carry around this burden with you,this feeling of,I'm all alone.Nobody wants me.It's like nobody even notices I exist half the time.Or if they do notice that I exist,they really don't like me,anyway.
I'm sorry your mom abandoned you.If it's any consolation,I've been abandoned by more than one person.Emotionally abandoned,that is.But even emotional abandonment,can be equally as painful,as physical abandonment.
I was sitting here at the keyboard crying my heart out,before I read your question.I'm really glad you asked that question.I think it's one of the best,and most very important questions,that's ever been asked on here.

2006-12-30 18:03:26 · answer #1 · answered by Miss yavatar girl 4 · 1 0

I think the one thing that hurt me the most was the fact that I would not accept reality. one small example, I was married to a very abusive, and domineering man, and for Years I would make up excuses as to why I deserved this treatment from this man. I hoped I wished I prayed, for 27 years, and it wasn't until one day I woke up and realized he was never going to change, so I thought I have to, and I did. But it took me 27 long years to get the message. Now I look reality in the face and say yes, I get it, But that isn't all I am 63 for that life time only the past 13 have been my life my way, And now I do not have regrets, just errors along the way.

2006-12-30 16:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1 0

I'm so sorry your mother abandoned you as a child. Perhaps she was ill either physically or emotionally, and could not take care of you and wanted you to have a chance for a better life with others.

What hurt me the most? Betrayal by a family member that has had horrendous repercussions throughout the whole family. I do not think I have recovered from that altho it took place many years ago.

2006-12-30 16:47:56 · answer #3 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 1 0

Having a brother that wouldn't stand up for himself in school and then getting picked on just because of association.

Get asthma around the age of 10 and then getting fat.

Moving to an area where there were no other kids to play with for 3 years. Getting fatter.

always being hugged and held by other woman and told your cute to nothing at all after getting fat. Get very high Anxiety because of it and failing at good potential relationships that are right in front of my ******* face.

Having a mother that can only talk about negative things. Always has to be negative and ***** and complain about things.

Getting befriend by drug addict high school friends because you don't want to dope up. Funny though I finished college first. Wonder why?

2006-12-30 16:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by Frak 3 · 1 0

I'm 15 and I've been through a lot of deaths in the family. The biggest being my dog all though it sounds weird. It was only a few months ago and it took a lot out of me. I kind of wonder if it's possible to drain all the grief out of somebody because of all I've been through I don't feel like anything could make me sad again unless it was really bad. But I'm a stronger person through everything.

2006-12-30 16:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

you could no longer have been having intercourse at 13 or 14 years old in the 1st place. And to call a effective toddler a stupid factor, properly enable's in simple terms wish you undertake your toddler to good loving human beings. You already sound like a terrible individual. And confident it incredibly is going to break, yet once you like your toddler so very lots before he or she is even born, the soreness is long previous after seeing your angel from God!!!

2016-10-06 06:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Delivering a 9 1/2 pound baby that gets stuck in the birth canal was the most painful experience of my life. It was a drug-free natural delivery. I don't recommend it for anyone.

2006-12-31 10:10:45 · answer #7 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0 0

Probably the people i've known who have died. But that isn't anyone's fault, that's life.

The one thing that a person actually did that hurt me the most was to leave me for my best friend after being with him for 2 years and being told he was going to marry me. Then he married her instead.

3 years later they are getting a divorce and I've gotten many apologies and an attempt to get back together. I've moved on and I've learned alot.

I hope you can see the things you've learned and how stronger you are given your situation.

2006-12-30 16:27:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

aww that's so sad. if that happened to be, i'd definately get affected a lot. im still young so i hadnt been though a lot, but i guess the stuff that scars me the most was seeing my grandma die in front on me when i was little, although i dont remember much, the feeling i had just stayed here, haha now i think of it, i actually dont remember the seen, memory loss i guess.

2006-12-30 19:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by Meow~ 4 · 0 0

I think I've Hurt myself more than others have. I try to be very open. And people sometimes take advantage of me, but I let them. All I want to do is stay a strong witness for God and all every one else wants me to do is go back to getting in trouble, I guess that's what hurts. I know that when I need strength to get through the rough spots I turn to God.

2006-12-30 16:27:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2 1

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