okey, im 13 and i used to be fashionable and everyone looked at me weird, made me feel insecure, but then i turned into a skater, wear baggy clothes, ya know, do bad things, skate, n yeh, people still look at me weird, my family cant even accept me. what can i do to make people accept me for who i am and not what i look like or do??
2006-12-30 15:50:03 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
You need to find out who you are, and then once you do - do yourself better than anyone else can.
What are your interests? What are you good at?
2006-12-30 15:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by Buttercup - VP Bamma Fan Club 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You are a little girl & you need to tell your mum how you are feeling about not being accepted
i'm sure they love you
you say you do bad things,well don't!!
you need to make very good choices in life or you will destroy your life
skate if you like to skate but if the crowd you hang with is not good
get new mates because you have a life time ahead of you & its all up to you if it will be good or not
as for getting people to accept you be your ( nice self )
thats all you can do
people always look at pretty people you know perhaps thats the reason also
2006-12-30 16:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by ausblue 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone feels weird when they're 13. As weird as you feel I'm sure you're friends feel exactly the same.
The thing about acceptance is that if people don't accept you there isn't much you can do to make the accept you. As you get older people will see that you are able to make your own decision and your family won't complain as much. But I think they do accept you, because they are at least paying for your internet.
2006-12-30 15:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel S 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok for one, being a fellow 13 year old, are you happy the way you are either way? I mean I was exactly like you and it never felt happy. Only put your self around people you find intellectually stimulating. I have a great best friend in my tiny group who help me through everything. Just be the way you want to be. Not what everyone else thinks is cool. I know that people who feel less excepted are like oh I'm gonna be emo but really no one is emo just so unconfident of them selves they do things to hurt themselves. I guarantee you're not a bad person but the people who aren't supporting you are putting all this extra weight on you when they should be supporting you in first place. Everyone has a special light and never let it go out. Be who you want. Don't let anyone tell who you can be or who you can't be. Be your own person. Just don't change because people @ school don't like you. Change because you don't like you. If people don't like you the way you are then they should suck up their pride and just mind there own business. You can't make people except you w/out being who you're not so just find those people who will and just have fun with them. It's ok to think about your self and want to be what you want and not who everyone expects you to be. If everyone follows someone jumping off a cliff don't do it because they are be like I'm to cool for people who only like people like them! Be an individual girl!!!
2006-12-30 16:00:41 · answer #4 · answered by Team Potter(screw Twilight)<3 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First stop trying to be anything other than yourself. I know it is hard with all of the hype TV and the media do and pull with their attempts to steer the populace where they want them to go!
Lesson one about the Media; There is not a thing that gets air or ink that is not paid for to promote some body's pocketbook!
Second; they target 13 and 14 year olds-gets them the most bang for their promotional investments!
Now, as far as being noticed and standing out-I grew up with very bright red hair and was always being looked at and measured. Now, I could not have ever imagined life without having so much attention!
You have my sincerest sympathies you poor common brown haired sort of person!
But hey, at least you might be able to avoid the attention of law enforcement officials!
2006-12-30 16:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't act fake.Just be who you are. If you are a skater that so be it. If people don't like you because of it, don't hang around with them. Doing bad things is mot who you are.It is who you are hanging aroung with. Trust me..I was in the same situation when I was your age. I got through it and those kids who I wad hanging out with, I don't EVER see them. I got into a lot of trouble and ya know what...it was not worth it.So Be who you are don't think that you have to do something special to be accepted. You will be accepted for who you are. Have a fun adn safe New Year!! :)
2006-12-30 16:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by alybr 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. If people don't accept you, that's THEIR problem, not yours. Got it? Quit worrying so much about what other people think. Hang out with your skater friends and have a good time...just stay away from the drugs.
2006-12-30 15:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by hwmabire3 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself. you're at an age where trying to fit in is hard and you're always going to want ppl to accept u- all human beings are like that. but the world is cruel..... especially kids.
just try to be yourself and find a friend that you can hang with. you dont need the whole school to be your friends; a couple of good friends will be all you need in life.
maybe your family looks at you weird because they dont know what's up w/ you... one day you're this and the other you're that. just look at it this way- they could be envious, that's why they look at you. but either way, you have to find out what makes you happy first before you can go and please others. you cant please everybody- so why not please yourself first??
plus you're only 13. you still have alot of growing up to do. be a kid!!!
2006-12-30 16:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by tooxswt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure it is hard to be 13. Obviously I was once. Please try to do one girl thing a day. you can skate, but you do not have to have dual personalities. I think if you try to blend both of your talents/skills people will think you are cool. Just do not try to be somebody you are not. you must have gifts that do not need to be "seen", and everyone will accept you before you know it.
2006-12-30 16:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm im 13 too well... if you want people to accept you its hard but like you would probably have to wear abercrombie hollister and american eagle daily. thats how it is in my school... if you want to accepted. and i know skaters have a rep for smoking weed... if you do that (not saying you do!) you probably should quit. I know what you mean though about being insecure and stuff... i just had a baby and it was really hard being pregnant at school.. just thankful you dont have to go through that!
hope I helped!
2006-12-30 15:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by csi_sanders_lover8 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It does not matter how other people think of you. "Fitting in" isn't all it's cracked up to be. All that metters is what you think of yourself. You will be more accepted by the kind of people that you can truly trust and befriend if you are just yoursellf. Real friends aren't made based on your "scene" or how popular you are. They're based on real trust and connections.
2006-12-30 15:52:58 · answer #11 · answered by pookie 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋