and im the total opposite, what should i do?????
2006-12-30 15:47:39 · 8 answers · asked by SweetieBear20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
im a Junior and shes a Sophomore. i hate younger kids who have to prove that they are cool..
2006-12-30 16:00:27 · update #1
I couldn't agree more with splash. You can't make an honest opinion based on a web profile. She may have put up the wildest pictures and things she could find, just to make herself look cool and mature. For all you know, she is a very shy, quiet girl who only wanted to start a new school with a different image from what she had in high school.
Give the girl a chance, and within the first week you are there, make sure to find the time to have a long talk with her. Let her know what kind of girl you are, and find out how she feels about you. If you truly are total opposites, set some ground rules for your room, like guests, loud music, drinking, study time, sleep schedules, etc... that you can both agree on. I'm sure she won't have a problem partying elsewhere, if she really is too wild for you to live with.
At the same time, you may want to loosen up a bit to make things more comfortable on her; after all, it's going to be her room too. While I'm not suggesting that you start drinking, partying, and running around with her, you may want to find times where you can study elsewhere one or two nights a week so she can use the room for her own purposes as well. It's not completely fair to the girl if you get to set rules that she has to follow, while getting nothing in return. Like any relationship (friend, romantic, parental, family, etc....) communication and compromise is the key to making things work.
If you two can't live together in peace, then there are always ways to change rooms, even in the middle of a semester. Splash pretty much covered them all, but usually your RA is the first, and best, person to talk to. She/he knows most, if not all, of the people in the building, and many times there is another set of girls who want to switch roomates.
In the meantime, worry about more worth while things that you can control and do something about. Things to pack, what you'll need, buying books and other supplies, getting contact info for all your friends and family you want to keep in touch with, etc... This should be a wonderful, exciting time for you. Don't let the stress of worrying about this girl, which may or may not be founded, bring you down.
2006-12-30 16:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the worst thing that you can do is get offensive and begin to judge someone from facebook. this is a common thing to do for entering freshmen, but try not too. Recieve your roomate with an open mind and I am sure you would not like someone to be labeling you based on a facebook profile and pictures of you. You never know. She may be a really sweet person and ends up working really well. Or you may not end up liking eachother, but that is ok. Instead of worrying about this, worry about something else... like packing, or what color sheets will you get, something more positive, this is not getting you anywhere. so wait until you meet her and give it a few weeks. you both will meet during orientation anyway to discuss room rules and such. it will work out in the end. if you have conflicts during the semester, talk to Residentual Life or your Proctor or RA and I am sure you will be able to live elsewhere and be paired with someone else. do not worry about that and try not to look at her profile so much. i know it's tempting, but just wait until you actually meet her and see for yourself.
2006-12-30 15:56:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
just go random. the ones who find roomates on facebook are the losers in my opinion. how more can facebook rule peoples lives for instance? people don't live life through facebook.
2016-05-22 22:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would just see how it goes for a couple weeks... and if its something I dont want to deal with or handle, talk to the girl... and it seems like things arent going to change, ask to see if you can change rooms.
2006-12-30 15:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You might want to find out the procedures for getting a new room assignment.
2006-12-30 15:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by Buttercup - VP Bamma Fan Club 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think it's a bit unfair to already be judging her like you are.....just get to know her..... you never know she may turn out to become a dear friend....opposites attract they say....lighten up and Good Luck!
2006-12-30 16:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by justmedrt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure she parties at other people's dorms and you'll never really have to see her.
2006-12-30 15:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by Katie T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
AS LONG AS SHE ACTS NORMAL AROUND YOU THAN WHY WORRY.
2006-12-30 15:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by ...guess.... 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋