Which brings me to another question: Is it just me, or do other women find themselves being attracted to gay m

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For example:
Anderson Cooper (I just, like 10 seconds ago, read that he might be gay....what the hell?! I am OBSESSED with him and, oh great, I guess he won't be rescuing me publically on CNN and then falling madly in love with me in the process....but then again, stranger things have happened)
Alan Cumming
Rufus Wainwright
Wilson Cruz
Dan Savage
and many more.......
I think gay men are sexy to us women because they seem to be a lot more accepting of others without juding people on their looks alone. What do you all think?

Answer 1

People aready touched on it, but basically, most of the str8 women I know who like to hang out with me, like it because they have had bad luck with guys being pricks, and they like to go out with a guy who treats them like a person and isn't constantly focusing on getting them into bed. We can laugh and talk and carry on a real conversation, and not once, do wwe tell them they look awesome because we want to bed them. We tell you how you look without worrying about not getting any. If you look like hell, we'll tell you, and then help you find something that looks a lot better :) Just us bein us :)

The thing is, some women, when they find someone who treats them well and is a genuine friend to them, they want to hold onto that and make it theirs. Not a bad thing, but... well the obvious pops up (or rather, doesn't pop up) and then it is this unrequited love story.

Answer 2

It is hard to judge. But he is not necessarily gay. Judging by what you said, he might have been molested by his uncle. In this case, his confusion on his sexuality makes a LOT of sense. I do not remember where I found this audio clip, but I listened to an audio clip a few weeks ago and it was an interview between a woman interviewer and a gay male sexual therapist. He talked about straight male clients of his who questioned why they act the way they do sexually. One man watched gay porn frequently, and thought maybe he was gay. But the sexual therapist discovered that it was actually because the man had been molested in a bathroom when he was younger. The gay porn he watched was of men in the bathroom, and so the sexual therapist attributed the gay porn watching as him reliving the molestation. I guess it is kind of how when something traumatic happens to us, or when there is a forbidden memory we have, sometime it creeps up on us or we give in to temptation and remember that memory. I guess the man was allowing himself to relive those forbidden thoughts. Your question interests me, because your husband was molested (allegedly) as a child too, so maybe that is why he has confusion now? Another thing to remember, which the sexual therapist mentioned, is that our sexual fantasies are derived from non-sexual things. An example with your husband is how he doesn't want anything but "proper" normal sex with you and would never do anything out of the ordinary in the bedroom. This probably stems from the fact that he would also never do anything out of the ordinary in regular life -- his parents are so conservative that he has instilled these values into himself. He is probably afraid to displease those he loves. He is afraid to displease his parents, which is why he tried to say the molestation thing was a lie he made up and also why he would never admit his sexual confusion to his parents. It is also why he waited until after the uncle's death to tell his parents the news. He confides in you, because you are one of the few people in his life that he feels loves him for himself, and not based upon what rules he does not break (like his parents). I strongly suggest you have him see a sexual therapist or sexual psychologist, so they can sort out his sexual thoughts, nonsexual thoughts, and see how the two relate to each other and get to the bottom of this. Just stay strong throughout and remember that no matter what happens, this is just something that happens with life and that you are definitely NOT the only one in this situation. I truly hope everything goes well. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Or could be they don't have a belligerent and fallous jock strap mentality thinking all women will throw themselves at their feet? But some women go for that type, so they keep acting like that. It could also be that gay men tend to be a lot cleaner, better dressed and manicured.

Answer 4

How could you NOT know about Anderson Cooper? Besides his mother IS Gloria Vanderbilt! Also, that and they are "safer" meaning non-threatening in physical stances. Not putting out vibes to put people off, very receptive and emotionally accepting.

Answer 5

I myself tend to like gay men because they're (generally) more open about sexual issues and because I think there's nothing hotter than man-on-man action! Just imagining it gets me going to no avail, so whenever I hear that about a celebrity, it gets me drooling. And of course, it doesn't bother me, because, well, they're celebrities, not the boy next door. They were out of my league anyways, and now I might possibly get to see them kiss their boyfriends at some red carpet event!

Ever since I found out the Alan Cumming swung both ways, I can't get enough of him!

Answer 6

Gay men are just that gay and into men. Now bi-sexual men might be interested. Yes some gay men are nice to look at. Like my niece use to say; taking me to the mens bar is like taking me to a smorgasborg and telling me I can't eat. hahaha!!!!

But just like everything there are good and bad in every group.

Answer 7

Rufus Wainright makes me melt whenever he plays piano.

So no, you are not alone. Gay man are often well put together- much of the time they have a metro look that is quite appealing- and are sensitive and much of the time adorable.

Answer 8

I am sooo not attracted to gay men. I know some women would date a bisexual man. SOmething about my man getting booty banged and put in ***** mode by another man is so very unappealing to me.

Answer 9

Yeah... We want what we can't have. It's safe to like them b/c it can't happen (actually, um, not long term anyhow). Because they dress well. Because they are comfortable and honest with who they are. And, we just plain appreciate looking at the hot ones.

Answer 10

Yes! i freaked out about the character paul in rules of attraction. something about gay men turn me on, in fact, i had sex with my gay friend tyler one time when we were both really drunk. but it was really great. kind of awkward the next day though. but we laugh about it now