i spent 12 years with jen hub---,she 3 months ago,up and left me and our 2 kids (11 and 8 years old), i suspected an affair then and now i know she,s having an affair with wayne schur---a farmer from newann--why am i still hurting and in love with jen,how can i get over her ?should i deal with wayne and find a new woman to get over her,im not good at dating,its scary in the single world starting over.
2006-12-30 15:33:15 · 8 answers · asked by cheated on by ex girlfriend 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Lose the gut, it won't be scary anymore after you do that. And omit names next time, farmer John. For the good of everyone.
2006-12-30 15:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by guicho79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st finding another woman to get over the old one is a bad idea and not fair to the new woman. You are hurting cuz you spent so many years with this woman and probably made plans with her and shared a lot of good memories together. But she hurt you baby and I know its gonna be tough for you and take a lot of time to heal that wound. I am healing now and it takes time. You need to focus on yourself before you search for another and heal yourself and not rely on someone else to help you fill the void. Also try to have fun and go out with friends and just have fun to get that shyt off your mind. Bless you and good luck.
2006-12-30 15:40:18 · answer #2 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...that is a tough one. It sounds like you need some time to heal. It sounds like you re experiences a variety of emotions righ now, which is normal. I feel that revenge or acting ou in anger is something most people regret and usually doesn't help th situation. If you feel you still "love" this woman, then you differently shouldn't get involved with anyone else. PErhaps focusing on helping your children with this difficult time would be best for now.
2006-12-30 15:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by LadyRebeccaF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this happened to you. I went through the same thing, only no kids were involved. The only cure for this type of pain is time. In time, it will get easier for you to deal with, and you will be able to move on. Don't try to force yourself to forget her or stop loving her by confronting her or using another woman to get even with her. That will only make you feel worse, believe me. Just try to focus on positive things, like your children, and like I said, just give yourself time. It will get better. Just remember, YOU are the victim here, SHE is the one who screwed up. Never blame yourself for what she did! Good luck to you!
2006-12-30 15:39:42 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's normal. everyone thinks of their ex whenever they leave you because you miss all those stuff that you have been doing together. or the times where you expected her to be there.
but in time you will adjust and move on. just let yourself be busy and be cool.
2006-12-30 15:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by Karl G. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you still love her because she left the kids. You would feel differently if you were paying child support.
2006-12-30 15:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
here's some of my routines]
try going out with your friends(a lot!!!!)
never listen to love songs
hide all those things that symbolizes her.. you know a ring or a card
2006-12-30 15:36:29 · answer #7 · answered by phat_freakz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone else
2006-12-30 15:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋