I don't know what to do. My boyfriend was recently injured in Iraq, and is having alot of issues. He's still been really loving to me, but today he says he's having a hard time and needs some space, time to himself to sort things out. Of couse I got upset because I didn't see it coming. I assumed that maybe he just wanted to do the single thing again. He said that there's noone else, that he's not going to do anything with anyone else. He said he loves me very much and that he wants to have a future with me and get married, but he just needs to deal with what he's feeling about his injury and deal with this upcoming surgery.He said it won't be that long, like a couple of weeks, and that he still wants us to be together. He just needs a break because he feels like a part of him died over there and he needs to work on getting it back. He still tells me he loves me and calls me baby and stuff. I just know what to think , does this sound like he just needs some space , or this is a breakup
2006-12-30 15:15:10 · 9 answers · asked by Christina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like he needs a break,really. A lot of soldiers out there feel lost because when you're at war, the only thing you can count on is your fellow soldier. They depend on each other. He's feeling separation anxiety. Also, all those things he saw during the war, can also make soldiers go crazy. You see people getting killed by bombs that terrorist implanted, and our soldiers had to kill some of these terrorists too because their own lives are on the line. Some of them gets diagnosed with post traumatic syndrome. I knew a guy who went to vietnam and he had to take anti psychotic pills for the rest of his life because if he doesn't, he would go crazy. All you can do is support him and don't take anything hurtful that he says personally because he's hurting inside right now. Good luck with both of you! =)
2006-12-30 15:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by Thot77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation a few weeks ago. My bf all of a sudden said that we needed some time off not because there was someone else but because he needed a break to deal with some issues. Just like you I was really upset because I didnt see that coming. The best thing that I can tell you is to give him some time. Let him know that you are there for him but give him the space he wants. I know its hard to do but in the end it might save the relationship. It seems that he does loves you and plans on getting back together with you. So just give him a bit of time for him to think and piece things back together. WHen he is ready he will let you know... I wish you the best luck!!! And Cheer up it will be ok :D
If it makes you feel any better my bf eventually came around and we are back together.. And to be honest things are way better now!!!
2006-12-30 23:23:50 · answer #2 · answered by Becca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the space and break he needs. That doesn't mean completely disappear from his life, but give him some space and then in a few weeks send a card or a text just saying that you are thinking about him. He may be going through a lot of emotional issues right now and it might be overwhelming. If you really love him, you'll support him in this choice he has made. On the other hand, if this is code that he wants to date other people, wouldn't you rather set that free than to hang onto someone who doesn't want to be with you?
2006-12-30 23:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by noname 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, child he has explained everythign to u.. u have no right to be mad at him! he life has been hell and he needs time to just relax and understand what is goign to happen with his injury.. he dont wanna break up sounds liek he loves u and thinks the workd of u.. he just needs time to seetle down and deal with ****! all u can do is respect his wishes and just be there the best way that u can..
give him space but dont walk out of his life.. give him a call like once a day and just see how he is doing and if everything is going ok.. trust me he will let u know when he nneds u the most.. its just right now he's got to deal with alot of things .. but he loves u and wants a future with u !
2006-12-30 23:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by Shelly 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just give him space and work on yourself. I would just write him a letter and tell him how proud you are of him, talk about his accomplishments, the reasons why you love him and what he means to you, pretty much a 4 page letter, because he may just be feeling a little lost right now and wondering what he needs to or wants to do with his life.
2006-12-30 23:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Q 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a breakup, but it could be what he says too. Try to give him the space he needs, but tell him it is going to be very hard for you because you love him.
2006-12-30 23:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by Maggie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you experienced destructions and suffering around you for a period of time, it will affect you. Give him space.
2006-12-30 23:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that means you just need to be alone a lil bit or mAaybe he just might not like you or youu r together way to muchbest of luk byebye
2006-12-30 23:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Monica I 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Does he like to crossdress?
2006-12-30 23:31:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋