had her for 6 years and she went thru thr divorce with me and now\she is gone. I am very depresed i have not eaten in 6 days. How can I go on? Please help have no friends or family.
2006-12-30 14:53:52 · 19 answers · asked by Susan M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am so sorry! Losing a dog is like losing a kid! My dog was put to sleep because she had a tumor. She was my sister. We had her for 12 years. The best thing you can do is remember all the fun things you did together and how much you loved her. Death is a hard thing to get over. You must remember to move on. Sorry for your loss!
2006-12-30 14:58:05 · answer #1 · answered by dezzer85 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off, eat something. A mourning period is not only appropriate but necessary, but you have to remember to take care of yourself while you're honoring her memory. It's always painful to lose a pet, especially if you've had her through hard times. Replacing her may seem wrong right now, but you might consider getting another pet. Even if it's just a fish or a hamster, it will give you something to take care of and give you a purpose again. I'm very familiar with how it feels to be lost and hopeless, so if you want to chat feel free to contact me and maybe I can help more. I hope you feel better, and remember there are people out there who have gone through the same thing. I"m in a depression group on MySpace, and it helps to read about other people feeling the same way. Maybe you could chat with other people who are dealing with the death of a pet? The beautiful thing about the internet is that you can find *anything*, even support.
2006-12-30 23:01:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry this happened. I had a teacup chihuahua that had to be put to sleep at 9 years old as she had a brain hemorrhage and wasn't responding to treatment. That was back in 2000 and I still miss her. Then the dog that my ex and I had together (he got her in our divorce last year) died last month from a heart attack. I am still pretty sad about it, but I know that life does go on. Your dog wouldn't want you to go hungry or be alone. So, eat, find some friends (even if they are online), and take as much time as you need to grieve. Don't go out and get another dog right away. You won't be able to love it as much as it deserves to be loved since you are still grieving for this one. Wait until you are done grieving over this one to get a new one. Get out of the house for awhile every day. Remember the good times with the dog. She was like your daughter and you need to grieve over her like you would a human daughter. It will take time, but you will be able to handle the grief a little more every day.
2006-12-30 23:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Susan, I am so very sorry that you lost someone so important to you. Your baby is in heaven, and you will get to see her again. Some people likes I am crazy about how I feel towards my pets, but they are always there for you, they don't care what you look like, they don't care what you wear or where you work. If you drive a fancy car or live in a big fancy house. They love you without "what ifs".
I have been where you are, I had to put down my precious several years ago. I still miss her breathing in my ear while I slept. My baby now has seizures, and we are unsure of what's going on, but I am treasuring every minute with him. You can't replace her, but as other has suggested you could give another puppy a chance at a good life. Go to the pound and just take a look, there are some many little fellows that need a good momma to take care of them.
Your little dauchund wouldn't want you to get sick, so you need to eat and take care of yourself. Our babies want to be happy, and that's why they try to cheer us up with their playing. Or their cute little faces. Please, Susan, eat a bite or two. Don't sit down to a whole meal. Make yourself a half of sandwich, nibble here and there.
Read all these great answers and see all the concern the people here are giving you. You aren't alone, we understand and we care. So, like one said, consider us all your friends. We are just a question away. Please take care of yourself, and give yourself a trip to the pound. You might not find someone there this trip, but I bet there is a little puppy looking for someone just like you. You can't replace your baby, I am not suggesting that at all, but you could start a new relationship with a new puppy. I didn't think I could ever love another dog like I did my first, but this little fellow snuck in and stole my heart. I will always remember my first puppy, but I never ever want to go without the love and faithfullness of an animal again.
Try to get some rest tonight, know that your baby isn't hurting tonight, and she's safe playing in heaven with all the other puppies and kittys. She playing with my baby right now I bet.
God bless us all.........
2006-12-31 00:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am truly sorry for your loss. I have lost a couple of dogs myself. we get just as attached to them as we do to people.
Now, a question: Did you give your buddy a proper burial? The ritual/ceremony is important. A memorial is also appropriate. This is just part of the stages we need to go through.
A very good friend died. You are in deep grief. It will take time for you to get through it. It is important that you care for yourself in the meantime. Eat, sleep, get out to the sunshine. Let yourself cry. It's OK. I don't think your buddy would want you to just curl up and not do anything. Life is awaiting you.
At some point, not right now, but in the future, you will want to get another dog to keep you company and be your friend.
2006-12-31 09:07:25 · answer #5 · answered by Jack P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all,you are NOT doing the memory of your dog any good by starving yourself. Secondly,call a local church and talk to someone. You must have family or friends somewhere around you,contact them. You MUST go on,in memory of your dog if nothing else. She would NOT have wanted you to give up and she would not either if she had been able to go on. Use her memory to get you up into the shower and out the door for some fresh air. Maybe you can volunteer at the local Humane Society or Shelter for her memory,there are lots of other dogs out there that could use a hug and a pet on the head,who are locked up in a cage waiting for someone to come love them. A new dog could never take her place,but maybe you could find one to give the love you so apparently had for her and now can't give her,but that new dog sure could use it. Good luck,praying for you
2006-12-30 23:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by grbarnaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dog would not want you going hungry a bit more than you would have wanted it hungry.
You gave the dog a good life and the dog loved you. You have to do what is right for you. I know it hurts.
You have to get out and find some friends and even go to the humane society and see if you can find a new pet.
You can't simply stay home and grieve. You know in your heart its time to take a warm bath eat and get some rest.
2006-12-30 22:59:15 · answer #7 · answered by yeller 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am very very sorry. i had to put a couple pets to sleep before too and it was so hard. i will always love and miss them. in my case i had other animals and was not alone. coming home to an empty home would have made it so much harder im sure. if you have no friends or family you do need companionship. you will have friends and/or another pet sometime soon, i would guess, but you need to take care of yourself in the meantime and stay strong. please eat and be healthy. best to you
2006-12-30 23:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by AlwaysWondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. I'll tell you a sad story about the best dog I ever knew. His name was Jackson and he was a black lab. Everyone called me "Jackson's girlfriend". His owner, my friend, dropped a keg of Sam Adams on his foot... they lived on stilts at the beach, anyway... after work I'd take Jackson out. We would go swimming in the Atlantic and he was nuts for a tennis ball.
He died in november (he was 14)... we had him cremated and took him out on the boat and threw a tennis ball and threw the ashes after. i am sure your dog is playing there too. contact a rescue or foster organization. where i live they are always looking for volunteers to take in animals so they don't have to go to the pound.
hugs for you
happy new year
2006-12-30 23:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you lost your pet. I know how important dogs are and how they can become your family. Take some time to grieve. Try www.petloss.com or do a search for pet grief. There are lots of other people who have been through this loss.
2006-12-30 23:03:13 · answer #10 · answered by Kathy M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋