I broke things with my lover and I have mixed feelings...is this normal? He couldn't commit to me so I had to end things...please give your opinions.
2006-12-30 14:52:28 · 12 answers · asked by kay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You did a very good thing! It sounds like he wanted his cake and eat it too. Besides, who wants a guy who was known for cheating on his wife. Sooner or later you would have resented him for it. So it was best that you left him before he became "your" problem.
2006-12-30 14:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by miss tique 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sure it is normal to have mixed feelings,but you should have had them all along since he was a married man and you knew he could not commit since he was not being committed to his wedding vows. I think you did the right thing,and pray you will NOT get hooked up with another married man again. Give yourself some time to heal then go out and enjoy yourself. A new year is starting,time to start new ok? Happy Prosperous New Year to you,and maybe this time it will be Mr Right Good luck
2006-12-30 22:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by grbarnaba 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course your feelings are normal. It's good that you broke things off -- being with a married man can be very exciting but it's wrong. If he was to suddenly want to commit to you, wouldn't you worry that he was cheating on you? After all, he cheated WITH you, right? Better to leave the married ones alone. You did the right thing and you should be proud of yourself. I know...sometimes it seems like all the good men are married or gay, but there ARE decent guys out there and one of them will be good enough for you! Hang in there and don't go back to him just because you're lonely. The heartbreak is just not worth it.
Aloha! :)
2006-12-30 22:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Being with a married man, you're just strengthening his marriage bec what he doesn't get from his wife, he gets it from you. And it's a very very deceiving kind of relationship. If he can't be committed to his wife, how do you whink he can be committed to you?? You've done the RIGHT thing, don't ever go back to him again no matter how convincing he may try to win you back. You'll always be a loser, it's a lose-lose situation. Especially for you! You deserve with a single man and better man.
2006-12-30 23:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by bogey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GOOD FOR YOU... Yes this is normal, because your feelings were involved. But you did the right thing, no good would have come out of that. How could Mr. Right for you, find you, if you are involved with Mr. Married Man.
You want better for yourself, so don't except nothing less.
2006-12-30 23:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by mouse in chicago 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have absolutely NO business being with a married man in the first place. Stop being a homewrecker.
Anytime you have feelings for a person and break up with them you will have mixed feelings, so of course that's normal.
As to 'commitment' - how is it that you think he can be/would be committed to you when his being with you means he first had to be UNCOMMITTED to his wife?! Why the h**l do you think he would be anymore faithful to you?!
2006-12-30 23:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by Blue 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have done the right thing. It took me 14 years to give up my married man, he went back to his wife, friends say she is making his life hell' Istill love him and it will take me along time to get past this but either he was using me or he didnt have the balls to divorce his wife, either way I deserve better and so do you. Hang in there Honey, start thinking of yourself and what you want, men are such pricks.
2006-12-30 23:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by Cheryl K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dating married man is a dead-end relationship. You will never get everything that you deserve with someone who isn't able to commit to you.
2006-12-30 22:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by Joe Schmo from Kokomo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is probably the best New Year present you can give to yourself ! Married guys never belong to you, they still go back to their wives/families - there's NOTHING they can give you, but they may just get free sex. Why would you want to give them the BEST OF BOTH WORLDS.
2006-12-30 23:03:01 · answer #9 · answered by PikC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing..if this man was married and living with his wife what kind of a future would you have knowing he is cheating on his wife...why would he not cheat on you too someday..
2006-12-30 23:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by whtmt501 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋