guy#1 was a compulsive gambler that would spend 5-10k a weekend at a casino.our 1st weekend away consisted of me sitting in a hotel room alone.the only time i saw him was when he ran out of money and wanted my c.c.guy#2 was a 40yr old alcoholic drug user that spent his whole pay check partying with his friends.my weekends with him was spent with his loser friends watching him get drunk.now guy #3 was the worst yet.he was a divorced dad in debt 30k with a controlling exwife who lived to make my life hell.to top it off he was a chronic lier/cheater who was always sneaking around on the internet and contacting old gfs. after i told him i would not pay off his debt things got sower fast.he told me i could not handle him being a divorced dad.what i could not handle was him after my money and him allowing his ex to treat me poorly and not even care.i feel now "i missed the boat" in my wanting to wait to get married(i'm 35 yrs),now all the good ones are married and will stay married.
2006-12-30 14:51:51 · 21 answers · asked by heatheranne7668 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get a dog & take good care of it.
2006-12-30 14:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me guess.
#1 You have a dad that was so so or not really there for you
#2 Each guy starts out different but ends up the same
That is a generalisation but statistically probable. Here is your fix. Don't panic at 35 - you are not that old. You are attracting the wrong kind of guy because of your attitude. Deep down you think you don't deserve better so your aim is a little low. This is not your fault but you need to fix it. Do me a favour - Remember this: Once upon a time there was a race with 5 million sperm in it and you won! You are a champion! You deserve first prize in life! Your dad might not have told you...but you are a princess and you deserve a prince. A financially responsible, good looking, no baggage, nice guy. It's that or nothing! Decide that today and your life will change tomorrow. You don't have to find him he will find you.
2006-12-30 23:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by Pilgrim 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to watch where you meet these men. Chances are if you meet the men you date at a bar or a casino, you are going to catch the ones who drink all the time or gamble themselves into outrageous debt. Meeting people on the internet can be tricky as well because they can portray themselves as whatever they think you want them to be and put on a good front until you have taken the bait. Find hobbies that you enjoy, get out and do things where you can meet other people with similar interests, and don't worry about finding the right one. You will meet a lot of interesting people and might even find the one you are looking for in the process. Show respect for yourself and don't go on a second date with a guy who doesn't. Take care!
2006-12-30 23:24:29 · answer #3 · answered by Gr8Av8or 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guy #3 sounds like someone I just met online that was such a waste of time I feel I need to be slapped for ever considering him for anything. Maybe my story will make you feel better. This guy was a single dad, suppossed anyway. Played me hard for about 4 months, begging me to meet him and hang out. Gee he recently became unemployed. I knew he was a jerk, and knew he was lying to me anyway because he had kids and said he couldn't allow anyone around them. Yeah right. A regular Mr. Mom. He turned out to be a big jerk after he got what he wanted. He actually got rude with me when I tried to contact him. Immature. See what I mean about changing the type of people you see? Every guy I was ever around, same type, same thing occurred. Such a waste. Stay unmarried, you'd be better off single than with the people you mentioned.
2006-12-30 23:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by Steph C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though it seems as if a dog would be more loyal there are some good men out there your just looking in all the wrong places just try to stop looking so hard and the right man will find you. Good Luck!
2006-12-30 22:56:22 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're never too old to have missed the boat but getting a dog could actually help with that and keep you company as well. Most guys I know like dogs.
2006-12-30 22:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by You asked! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard right now... but the reason you're having all these bad relationships is because the guy you're supposed to be with is going to come along real soon! Be single for a while, and watch who comes along! Don't doubt your chances because your in your mid-thirties... anything is possible. You're at a mature age, and are stable... so don't worry about these men. PUT GOD FIRST!
2006-12-30 23:01:19 · answer #7 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl, don't be so hard on yourself. You cannot change any of these men....they are what they are. "you know this"
I must ask you, why do you keep choosing these types?
Your heart wants a lifemate but your decissions are based on those that "really don't have a life or care" that is why they are alone, even with you. It is not you, it is them. Again, why??
Go out, have fun, BUT...do not have these men as boyfriends!
Be strong girl! have them as "friends only" and then you will meet your special man.
2006-12-30 23:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by Northernlady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know u can get a dog and a guy on the side. So if the guy leaves u, u'll still have the dog.So u can say at least someone loves u, right? They do say a dog is a man's best friend.
2006-12-30 22:59:05 · answer #9 · answered by mall_shopper_06 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you attract this men... Men ARE NOT the problem.. the problem is you.. buy a good book and look inside your inner self and find out why you "believe" that you deserve to be with those men.. you attract what you believe is the best for you... is like those women that they keep getting involve with men that beat them up.. dont you wanna ask her why??? everybody seems to notice but her... same thing with you... there is something in your subconcious that tells you that you deserve those type of men. The only way to get out of the same vicious cycle is finding out what insides you triggers you to be with them... go to therapy, and buy a book that will help you to get to know "you".. A lot of people think that nobody loves them but the truth is that you got to start loving yourself and appreciate yourself before somebody can. Good Luck.
2006-12-30 22:59:15 · answer #10 · answered by honeymoon81 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't be surprised. I've already given up and now live happily with two cats.
You haven't missed any boat. Men in general never grow up.
When you stop stressing, you'll stumble upon someone.
2006-12-30 22:57:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋