guy#1 was a compulsive gambler that would spend 5-10k a weekend at a casino.our 1st weekend away consisted of me sitting in a hotel room alone.the only time i saw him was when he ran out of money and wanted my c.c.guy#2 was a 40yr old alcoholic drug user that spent his whole pay check partying with his friends.my weekends with him was spent with his loser friends watching him get drunk.now guy #3 was the worst yet.he was a divorced dad in debt 30k with a controlling exwife who lived to make my life hell.to top it off he was a chronic lier/cheater who was always sneaking around on the internet and contacting old gfs. after i told him i would not pay off his debt things got sower fast.he told me i could not handle him being a divorced dad.what i could not handle was him after my money and him allowing his ex to treat me poorly and not even care.i feel now "i missed the boat" in my wanting to wait to get married(i'm 35 yrs),now all the good ones are married and will stay married.
2006-12-30 14:47:02 · 19 answers · asked by heatheranne7668 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm 28, never been married. I've had many relationships, most were a waste of my time. Change the type of people you try to be with, I've realized that the reason I never get anywhere is because of the type of people I feel comfortable around. They're losers. Everyone is not married, and there is someone out there for you. Be careful who you let into your life. A dog is a faithful friend but you need human companionship.
2006-12-30 14:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by Steph C 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1st, you are not the only one in search of "The Great One". I am 37 years old, had a great guy who later confided in me that he had sexual relations with a man before he met me. Honestly, I still think he was the sweetest, handsome, loviest man I could have ever met. I now understand the poem...A Reason, A Season and A Lifetime (read it sometime). 2nd, Put your checkbook away and keep it put away. You are not a bank for these loosers. Stop rushing to get in a relationship and rush to start a friendship. After that friendship happens everything else will fall into place. You will then know if this is meant to be a relationship. Everybody has problems and some more serrious than the other, but guy one needs help with gambler's annonymous and he has to realize that, prefferably sooner than later. Guy 2 needs serious help and seems as though he wanted a companion in that area, glad you were smart and left fast hopefully you gave him the number to a good source. Guy 3 needs to realize he has kids and he is their number one role model. So as for you, you can only fix and better yourself. Slow down and let it happen naturally. Also, change your surroundings of where you are meeting these people. Breathe and fresh air will come to you!
2016-05-22 22:39:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go to counseling and try to find a new place to meet men. Not all men are losers,and you just haven't found yours yet. Have you seen the movie Must Love Dogs,that is a good one to watch. Also A Family Stone was another good one. My point is this,you just haven't met MR Right due to hanging around with all the MR Wrongs,remember 3 strikes,well they struck out,and you are gonna come out the winner,and by the way,STOP LETTING THEM USE YOUR MONEY,make them use theirs,that way you are heading in the right direction,getting a man who can take cared of himself instead of you taking care of him and playing Banker. I will be praying for you Good Luck and Happy Prosperous New Year
2006-12-30 14:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by grbarnaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the dog! sound like you find the wrong men!! I am here but where are you?? mabe having a dog willget you out to the parks.....ect where you may just find the right person. If not you will feel good spending some time with a freind that will most likely be there and give you kisses when u need them. as long as you look you will jump too quick. Be yourself and chat to people as you walk your dog. someone will come along sometime. ( I hope still waitting) we all seem to look in the wong places.................lol
2006-12-30 15:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by Blaze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I'm not married and I consider myself a "good one". But then, I am too old for you. Still, there are plenty of men (and women) at every age. There is a man getting divorced every day because his partner is terrible - and yet he may be perfect for you. Don't give up, just get out there!
Of course, don't give up on the dog idea either.
2006-12-30 14:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
#1 stopped using birth control in order to trap me. #2 was a psycho religious fanatic. #3 used me for my money. Will I ever find a decent woman? I just want to be happy. It works both ways. Unfortunately, I'm 20 years older than you. I wish the you the best!
2006-12-30 22:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by bystander1212 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you are attracted to losers is because you have little or no confidence in yourself and very low self esteem. You need a good therapist to help you solve your own feelings of inadequacy. When you feel better about who you are you will finally attract better men.
2006-12-30 14:51:55 · answer #7 · answered by Larry H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
#1 & #2 thats why they are not married......#3 thats why he is divorced...No all the good ones are not taken,just change your locations and look in different place...Im very glad you don,t settle like a lot of women do....You would be better off alone than end up with a loser..
2006-12-30 15:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lifes a ***** and then you die ! Change your game plan. Wherever ur meeting these losers is outa bounds for you. Get up ,dust yourself off and get hunting, online, join a club, get out there, singles bars etc are out ,join a charity, go to church, theatre and drama groups,meet people, make new friends. You are worth it! Go girl ! Where are you ? My next door neighbour is single 37 and told me yesterday that he is 'clucky' and wants to meet a lady and get married .......
2006-12-30 15:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by Cheryl K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dogs will be much worse believe me. Cool down and think with cool mind.
There are not only four men in the world and you need only one out of billions. So try again and good luck.
2006-12-30 14:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by JT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋