I hooked up with my best friend's girl. We were both drunk and she doesn't want to tell him. Do I tell him and take the hit??
Or wait til she tells or he finds out??
I don't want to lose a friend. It does go bros b4 ho's right?? Then he should be on my side, right??
*I don't mean that I think she is a whore(although many think she is)
Is it better for me to tell him soon here and deal with the fact that our friendship will be a little weaker(not destroyed tho)
OR
Not say anything until she has been with all our friends??
Would you rather hear it from your friend or g/f??
What would she be able to blame on me??
Should I makea deal with her so we take it to the grave?? She has slept with some of our other friends too.
2006-12-30 14:46:32 · 6 answers · asked by Aric 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
As a man who had that happen to me. You need to tell him asap. Most likely you arent the only one and shes playing you like a fool.
2006-12-30 14:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is your best friend 'as you claim he is', then as a 'best
friend' the 'only' thing to do is TELL HIM the truth, NOW!
Sure, he may get upset with both of you, but if he is the friend
you say he is, then he will eventually cool down.
But situations like this are a 'prime' way of finding out who your 'true' friends are.
Your 'best' friend may feel so betrayed by you that it causes the friendship to end!!, especially because it involves his 'so-called'
girlfriend.
You say you were both drunk, but it's hardly an excuse that holds any weight these days, considering unfaithfulness has become
the 'norm'.
You 'MUST' tell your friend, and not wait until he finds out from someone else, as that would be adding insult to injury!!
2006-12-30 23:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice is this even if you tell your friend he may end his friendship with you anyway....but what kind of friend would you be anyway and how do you feel even though you've betrayed him with his girlfriend.If i was you I'd take the hit mate after all you do deserve it dont you.your mate may not forgive once you told him but hopefully this experience will teach you something DONT SLEEP WITH YOUR BEST MATES GIRLFRIENDS whether your drunk or sober its never a good idea...
Or you could say nothing at all and hope she (the girlfriend) doesnt say anything too him the thing is then she would have something over you and be able too use that anytime she wants against you...
Besides wouldnt it be better too come clean sooner rather than later the longer you leave the harder the punch you've got comeing too him is going too be
TELL HIM NOW BEFORE YOU LOSE YOUR NERVE AND HOPE FOR THE BEST!!!
(OUCH!!!!)
GOOD LUCK
2006-12-31 00:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by mitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stop blaming this girl for everything. You know that old saying, "it takes two..." She sounds like she has some definite self esteem problems that you and so-called friends are eager to take advantage of, justifying it by being drunk and blaming this girl. Be true to yourself and to this friend if he really means something to you. Tell the truth and don't wait for someone else to clue him in on what a good buddy you are!
2006-12-30 22:54:49 · answer #4 · answered by somerset 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have proof to take to the guy? i mean come on. you might be tight but i bet she's closer. so if you say that to him he will probably just think you are jealous or something. just let it go. she'll slip up sometime and actually get caught then you can be there to support your friend.
2006-12-30 22:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, look at it this way, if she talks to him first then she'll be the "good guy" and it'll look like you were hiding it from him. I would be upfront and apologetic to your friend.
2006-12-30 22:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by Lesli B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋