I don't want to work and haven't in over two years, and like methadone, and various drugs. I find myself eating donuts and drinking Pepsi at home each day as time slips by. I go out only to skateboard at a local parks or get drugs. I live off my GF and have her pay my child support sodon't go to jail. Now she will lose her house, job, and family because of me. What shall I do. I've been using and making her do stupid stuff. What do I do now? My free ride is nearing an end.
2006-12-30 14:45:44 · 12 answers · asked by tragicsadness432 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ya but see I don't wanna work, I just move from state to state living off of people. Military ain't for me. I just wanna know how to keep my life going I guess.
2006-12-30 14:51:21 · update #1
I made her not be able to go home for christmas and then blame her mom. Oh well we spent the day together.
2006-12-30 14:55:02 · update #2
She knows all about me, and lies to people and tells them I am better than I am. Shes a school teacher and thinks she can help me. I also smoked dope in her car and burn the seats and wrecked the front and back of it. She told me to fix it but I won't.
2006-12-30 14:56:53 · update #3
I've been in rehab before they got me going on methadone.... I love that crap it gets me crazy. I do mad tricks skatin on that.
2006-12-30 15:00:14 · update #4
Let me add I steal copper wire, so I do have some income. Also I try and talk her into gambling away her paycheck. Which works cuz she belives me!
2006-12-30 15:06:17 · update #5
My kid any anywhere near me, or even in the same contry. I don't care much. But it is east to just move outta state and avoid paying for the damed little kid for awhile. I actually got her to belive stripping rolls of copper wire is legal cuz some friend gave it to me. HAHAHA.
2006-12-30 15:55:52 · update #6
Ask her to get a second job so your lifestyle can be better maintained or get another one that has more money. You really should not have to put up with the hardships you describe and frankly a little more child support wouldn't hurt either.
I can't believe people think this is real...lol
2006-12-30 14:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by Pilgrim 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Waarning!! Now it seems that your are not only responsible for your own mess, but it would seem you are also feeling responsible for another human being and the mess they're in; likely caused by their enabling and your manipulative addict behavior. Now you are responsible. Will you be accountable?
Quit expecting others to feel sorry for you, and stop being someone people can't help but feel sorry for. I am a former addict and am from a family of them. The strongest personalities I've ever known have also been the weakest. But your time is now. You are worth it. You don't have to live like this. Step up and be a man. Stop making excuses. Start making small reachable goals for yourself (call/research 3-5 treatment or legal aide resources a day). And accept the free help that is out there. You owe it to yourself. You don't have to live like this. You are worth it. Let your light shine. You are going to be so proud of yourself when this is all over. Believe.
the alternative: detox adult detintion center style
2006-12-30 15:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by SHT 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave her and the kids and go get some help. Stop bringing
her down, you are so wrong. If you really love your family then
clean yourself up, go get a JOB like a real man. You owe them big time. you know what to do, after the New Years start cleaning
yourself, be strong, you can do it. once your clean then get a trade, like going to school and don't tell me you can't do it. my
sister was a junkie as well she got all her 8 children taken away
from her. Until one day she did time in prison for 2 years and
when she came out, my daughter and I picked her up from
prison and took her to our place for a couple of days, then she
went home to L.A., CA. and stayed clean she started working
at Savons, then moved from there to Longs and now she is
a Manager there. She also went to College to study for Dental
Assistant which she graduated and now she working as a
Dental Assistant in L.A.,CA.. Anybody can do it if they put their
mind to it and stick to it and stay strong and forget about the past
and leave the past alone.
2006-12-30 15:08:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say this was a joke...but I know it's not because I know soooo many people in the same noat. My mother is a heroine addict and goes t o a methadone clinic and I myself volunteer as a patient's rights advocate for them. I have a feeling that the burning seat **** was from falling asleep. Go down 10 milligrams. Second...depending on what state you are in you can get medical to pay for your clinic. Third if you file for disability you can definitely get it being a drug addict and you have medical verification from the clinic. Possibly make her the holdre of the monthly check to help contribute. Sounds to me like possibly you want to be with her and want to help...but are still kind of chasing that high...which will be endless because you have a tolerance and will never ever get that high you first had the very first few times you used. All you can do is maintain now. The methadone will give you a eurphiric feeling though, even though most clinics say it won't...it does. The sugar cravings you have are from the methadone, most people on it gain weight because they crave high sugar foods and nod off and on. Get yourself on disbality, you won't have to do anything (since you don't really want to) and you can give her the money, basically you'd still be getting a free ride. Just curious what kind of drugs are you still doing? Because the methadone is suppose to block out the opiates and most people on methadone switch to benzos because of that. If you are mixing benzos such as xanax or somas, please be careful you can reduce your breathing and seriously you will die! Sounds to me like this question is more or less what can you do to get some income to kind of keep money coming in and to keep her off of your back and making you feel guilty. All I can say to you is get on medical assistance by t elling them you are a drug addict and then your next step is to apply for SSI based on the fact you are a drug addict. We have tons of people who are on methadone at the clinic I work in who are doing just that, either because they don't have ambition to work while on methadone maintainence or because the methadone keeps them nodding making it impossible to hold a job. Those who haven't worked iwth others who are held by this grip or had someone near to them that they love go through this really just don't get it. Unfortunately I see a ton of uneducated people on here answering this. Good luck. If you ever want to talk to someone about this...email me...that's my job and what I do :o)
2006-12-30 15:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by slinkster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very sad. Your g/f is a co-dependent and is addicted to you as you are addicted to drugs and laziness.
You need a rehab program, along with NA. More so your g/f needs to attend counseling and Al-anon meetings.
I was in your g/f's position, thought I could fix him, help him, help him see his own good. But he didn't see it just like you don't. It was so hard to let him go, but my life is my own now, I think healthier and happier and realize I was as a big part of the problem as he was.
If you love your g/f let her go, suggest that she fix herself by going to Al-anon and getting away from yours and her addictive behavior.
As for you, you need help! Get some, you might be surprised at how much better you will feel being clean and sober and a contributing member of life, instead of a person sucking the life out of another.
2006-12-30 15:32:09 · answer #5 · answered by Cat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to seek professional help because someone that is on here bragging like you can't be a person with any kind of heart so i have to assume that your tore up from the floor up while your making these kind of comments and you need to do her a favor and just leave because it's obvious that she really loves you and all you care about is where your next high is coming from get help and get a life and let her go to find someone who cares about living a productive life that means something to them.
2006-12-30 15:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude, You are loosing it. You need to stop otherwise your life will be lost and I feel really bad about your GF. You need to check into rehab STAT!!! We all have purpose in life and if you don't get strait with your life you'll never find out what kind of purpose was yours.
P.S. : I realy hope you'll do the right thing.
2006-12-30 14:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by katie 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Woa.... First I'm sure you are a good person and just have slipped through the cracks... There's help out there for you! You have to want help and want to get a job and stop depending on your GF. Does she know you are on drugs and if so she has to be a special person because she deals with that and I'm sure it's diffcult! Stop depending on her and get help... She doesn't need to loose everything because shes trying to help you...
Help her stay successful don't break her down..... Get help!
2006-12-30 14:55:00 · answer #8 · answered by danxtsupamodel 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Look up AA in the phone book and ask for the when and wheres of the NA meetings, go there talk to them and they will help you find your way.....experience.
2006-12-30 14:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
join the military and get cleaned up and gain some responsibility and job skills..all at the same time
2006-12-30 14:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by Luc P 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋