Ok, here is the deal.
I think I may be too obsessed with my looks.
Ever since I was about 10, I started noticing that girls liked me. Everywhere I went with my friends, the girls would always want to talk to me first. It has been like that ever since I was 10 all throughout Middle School and also High School and beyond.
But now I'm starting to think it may have been a curse rather than a blessing, because now I'm 28 and my looks are fading and I am beginning to notice that I'm suffering from severe depression.
Sometimes I drive in the car and I turn the rear-view mirror on myself and I just look at myself. I have almost gotten into accidents because of it.
Also, this is ruining my life in other ways.
For example, if I feel like I don't look perfect, I will not go out.
I have been avoiding friends and parties simply because I feel like I don't look good anymore.
I know this sounds so shallow, and I'm actually not that shallow in my heart, but this is what I've been used to.
2006-12-30 14:39:52 · 15 answers · asked by The Don 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
I used to just go to the mall and I could hear young girls tap each other or whisper to each other about how "fine" I was. That was the ultimate high for me throughout my life, and now I'm starting to notice that it is gone. It happens only rarely now.
I have been somewhat of a womanizer, I admit, because I've had over 80 women from the time I was 15 until I was 25, but in the past year I've had a hard time making a connection with any women because I just feel like I don't have "it" anymore.
What can I do to live a normal life like everyone else?
It seems like all of these compliments and the women chasing me was like a drug and now I'm going through withdrawals.
2006-12-30 14:42:56 · update #1
At this point in your life it may be time to turn your focus off yourself. Ok? You sewed your wild oats for 10 yrs. You used your looks to bait and catch and use women for your own selfish needs.
You will end up a lonely old man before you know it and you wont even have your good looks to turn yourself on anymore.
At age 28 its ok to stop thinking only about yourself and what you want and what you can get.
Find someone who likes you for yourself and not what you look like, you just might find out that that is very satisfying.
Just a thought.
2006-12-30 15:09:49 · answer #1 · answered by Cymbaline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've received all those compliments from girls because at that age they are immature and only like boys for looks. Now that you're in your late 20s, females aren't interested in looks but rather a great personality, a good heart, and possibly someone to share the rest of their life with. You need to concentrate more on who you are as a person rather than the way you look, because as people get older, we all want more than just a pretty face in a partner. And since you're possibly suffering from depression, I suggest you speak to a psychologist immediately.
2006-12-30 23:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by чσυ нα∂ мє αт gσσ∂вчє ❤ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are WAY too much into yourself. If you care about your looks so much that it could cost you your life you need to go to a doctor and get there professional opinion on it before you end up getting yourself killed.
2006-12-30 22:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would say is that only some people care about how you look, but most people look at what's inside of your heart. I'm not saying that looks don't matter at all, it's just that what's inside in your heart is more important.
2006-12-30 22:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by Meet B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should see a shink, or a councellor or something... or go to your regular doctor and get some kind of anti-depressant. It could help change your outlook.
2006-12-30 22:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by normlgirl@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u do hav a problem.aging is mandatory.c a shrink for crying out loud!looks rn't everything.find just one good friend and keep him (or her).it should help u.friends help me i kno.if all else fails...plastic surgery (do not do a micheal jackson!)there is always someone for someone.maybe u just ain't found her yet.
2006-12-30 22:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally speaking, I love modest men. I hate conceit. The best thing you can do for yourself is get out of yourself.
2006-12-30 22:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by Zoey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get some help, dude
aging is a part of life and you need to take some steps and get some help with accepting this...
Good luck...
2006-12-30 22:43:12 · answer #8 · answered by nackawicbean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up-at 28 I shouldn't really have to tell you that.You are DEPRESSED because your looks 'are fading'?This is pathetic.I have a friend who is dying of cancer-she is depressed,and has reason to be.Sorry to be harsh,but your words really pissed me off.
2006-12-30 22:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur looks prob arent fading... as a girl i tend to like guys who seem confident in themselves.. maybe ur lack of confidence has made girls notice u less
2006-12-30 23:32:21 · answer #10 · answered by be 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋