is there a way to get rid of it?

Question

i might be pregnant but im underage and dont want to get an abortion and dont wanna let my parents know. is there a way to get rid of being pregnant without hurting the baby or myself? or should i just keep it if im pregnant?

im only 16, my boyfriend is 18. and they know im not a virgin but i still dont want to have my parents find out, so can i get anything done without my parents finding out?

Answer 1

YOU CAN'T ABORT A BABY WITH OUT A PARENTS CONCENT AT THE AGE OF 16.your not mature enough to make that decsion.what you should have done in the first place is either A:kept your legs closed or B:have protection.and to say 'get rid of it'.......sorry but that is just sick to say.and why not tell your parents that there gonna have a grandchild,they may end up becoming very happy then mad cause who can get mad at their own child for doin this and to be scared of telling your parents,then by the sounds of it your bond with your parents is not very good.what about the father of the baby,have you talked to him?is he willing to tell his parents?and if you choose to abort the baby it will haunt you for the rest of your life,i had a misscarriage and it still hurts but to kill life........i don't wanna know whta that is like.you have options,check them out.if your parents don't help,ask the boyfriend,if he don't help,look around for parenting groups that will help you.but i can tell you one thing for sure if one of my daughters came home at the age of 16 and told me she was pregnant i wouln't turn her away,i'd help in what ever why i can cause no matter what,they will always be my baby.

Answer 2

My opinion on abortion is, if you can live with it for the rest of your life, then go ahead. I was forced into having one when I was 19 by my then-boyfriend, my mom and my sister. It was the most horrendous thing I have ever experienced as far as emotions are concerned, because I LOVE babies! I still cry every year on the anniversary of my due date (January 1, 2000). But having a child at 16 isn't easy, either. Talk to your mom. She is probably more aware about your sexual activity than you may think. I work with teens now and my advice is ALWAYS the same. TELL YOUR MOM. Dads may not be as understanding, because they feel that their little girl was defiled.
If you are insistent that you don't want to tell your parents just yet, go to a local Planned Parenthood. Just remember, only you will have to live with the consequences of your actions if you choose to have an abortion, no matter how many people tell you to do it. By telling your folks, you will have a support system in place. I promise you that the boyfriend you have now won't be around in 5 or 10 years as a boyfriend or husband, so his opinion really doesn't matter.

Answer 3

Oh you poor thing. A bad night of judgement I guess. Listen, this is the best advice. Don't try to do anything to hurt yourself or the baby. The first thing you should do is talk to your parents. Scary, I know. If you are nervous about telling your parents, talk to your school counselor, or go to your doctor and ask if there is someone you can talk to about your dilemma. Sometimes there are clinics that help you through the process. Maybe then you can have someone by your side when you tell your parents. I'm sure your school guidance councellor would be happy to meet with your parents with you to break the news and figure out together what the next step is. Also, the father of the baby should have some responsabilities too. Tell him to sit with you when you tell your parents and if he refuses...go to his parents and tell them that their son made you pregnant. This is a very intimidating situation and probably the scariest thing you have to do. But everything will be all right. Take good care of yourself. I'll be thinking about you.

Answer 4

I've heard of some homeopathic "remedies" for being pregnant. Certain herbs and such will increase the liklihood of a miscarrage, which would get rid of it for you. I don't know of any offhand, maybe try a search on Yahoo? As for keeping it or not, that's really a decision you need to make yourself. Everyone has different opinions on abortion, but I believe that it's far more humane to end the life before it's really began, than to force a child into a bad situation. If you're young and aren't likely to get help from your parents, think about how difficult that child could make your life, and how many things he/she would probably have to go without. Teenage mothers almost always have a very hard time raising a child, but it's your decision in the end. I terminated a pregnancy when I was 19 because I knew I wouldn't be able to take care of the child, and there's already thousands of children caught up in foster care because their mothers believed abortion is wrong.

Answer 5

First things first... Take a pregnancy test to see if you need to worry about the BIG dilemma...

If you are, an abortion is the only way to "get rid of it", which will definitely harm the unborn baby and could even possibly harm you. I don't recommend it.

The only way I'd recommend you keeping it is if you and your boyfriend are mature enough to marry, and responsible enough to raise and support your child together. (It's happened before...)

Your other option is to let a couple that would love and care for your child as if it were their own through adoption. There are many couples that can not have a child and pay a lot of money to fertility clinics, adoption, and court fees.

These are tough decisions. You've acted like a grown up in physical ways, it may be time that you must grow up in other ways. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it.

Good luck!

Answer 6

I most definately don't recommend an abortion I think that will mark you more emotionally than any other choice you may make. The best thing to do is to talk to your parents first you don't know how they may react. When you are this young you may think that you're parents will react terribly to everthing, Just give yourself and the baby a chance by talking to you mom and dad. Good luck.

Answer 7

To be totally blunt here, a person who would ask if there is a way to stop being pregnant without hurting the baby is absolutely NOT mature enough to be a mother. You can't just close your eyes and wish a pregnancy away.

The first thing you need to do is find out for sure if you are or aren't pregnant, and if you are, please turn your mistake into something positive by taking care of yourself so that you can deliver a healthy baby who can be adopted by parents who are ready for a child but unable to have one of their own.

You made a grave error in judgment, but please don't make your baby pay for your mistake by doing anything to try to induce a miscarriage.

Answer 8

People used to use pennyroyal to induce a miscarriage, but that method runs the risk of killing you if you use too much. Also, there is no set dosage and no way to know how 'strong' the herb is. I know it will be hard, but the best way is to tell your parents and get the abortion (use an actual doctor-no clothers hangers!). It may not be what you want to do, but it's really your only viable option.

Answer 9

Go to the doctor. I believe most doctors have to make it confidential. Only thing is that your parents will find out eventually because you will start to grow. If you do not want an abortion then the best thing is to tell your parents. It is a delimma and going to be very hard. As a parent to be it would be very hard for me. I would be somewhat angry but would love both my child and hers. They may be angry but if they are loving parents they will try to help you through it. It is not just hard for us as parents. Sometimes as a mother it is hard for us to ever think it could happen to our child. I can't tell you that there is an easy way to hide it.

Answer 10

actually(unfortunately i think but thats besides the point) most states will allow you to seek medical care including an abortion at the age of 16(and many even younger). go to planned parenthood and get a test done before you freak out though. if its negative i would strongly encourage you to go on the pill if you decide to continue to have sex.
they can point you in all different directions.
you may be suprised how your parents react, since they know you are sexually active already.
knowing that they know that pregnancy is a possibility, even if they don't want to accept it.