2006-12-30 14:34:19 · 36 answers · asked by hetty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
restraining order
2006-12-30 14:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by The Prince 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you won't need to once you just stop caring. the "ex" can only effect you as much as you let them. They're an ex for a reason, so i hope it's not a jealousy thing or insecurity thing. And I am hoping for your sakes it is just a pain in the butt thing. If this is the case: Stop reacting. Pains in the butt will usually subside quickly after you stop scratching them or moaning and groaning about them. Forget them and do you.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change (another adult's behavior or misbehavior?)
The courage to change the things I can (are you enabling in anyway this unhealthy relationship?)
And the wisdom to know the difference (making the ex's issues your issues will only validate those issues and steal your energy. energy that could be channeled into positive things: cultivating your relationship with your husband or volunteering in the community)
If all else fails: forcing your husband to "chose you" in some way over her in a semi-public setting usually sends the message that "this isn't a game - it is over" loud and clear. And is embarrassing enough to prevent future advances.
good luck and try to remember a time when you got shafted hard. then think: no matter what the facts are, this is how she feels (logical or not). Pain is easily masked in anything - bitterness, resentment, vengenance, etc. Shouldn't it be more recognizeable to those of us who have experienced it?
2006-12-30 14:56:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
None of the most effective and long-term methods are legal or morally sound. If your husband and his ex have kids together, you will never be rid of her, just hope and pray for her to find a new love and that she will move on. Good luck!
2006-12-30 14:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are there kids involved? You cannot get rid of your husband's ex. As much as you don't like her she has had an impact on his life and made a small part of his what he is today. Be glad she is an ex -- it gives you the chance to not be.
2006-12-30 14:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband should make arrangements to have the children dropped oof at your house and the both of you can put her on a no trespassing notice. You can get a copy of the legal letter from your local sheriff's dept. It states that she can't be around you, your property, or any place you are already at. Just be sure to document anytime she tries to attempt to come around and if possible, video tape and record everything.
2006-12-30 15:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex and I have a close relationship,she has a key to my house,
but we both know our limits and the kids are much more comfortable.What is thier relationship?If she calls just to chat,or to set up a secretive liason or to bad mouth you then HE needs to put a stop to it not you.My ex was my best friend for 10 years and that still continues today,her boyfriend does not mind although my last GF did.I have a new baby boy and she was one of the first to get to see him.I had dinner with my ex wife,my babies mom and my new love interest each one beautiful in thier own right,boy did I feel awkward being at the same dinner table with 3 women I have had sex with.You decide if it is appropiate or not and discuss it with BF,then he needs to help you.Good Luck.
2006-12-30 14:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by harleyman 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You get rid of your husband.
2006-12-30 14:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is your husband's ex. Why is he not getting rid of her?
2006-12-30 14:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by Blue-rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prayer pray about your situation and leave it with him and he will direct you rpaths just treat her with kindness and don"t buy into it. Pay close attention to your husband and let him hang his self if he is the cause of them being close after a break up that's if there are no children involved. PRAY PRAY PRAY AND LEAVE IT WITH HIM
2006-12-30 14:53:32 · answer #9 · answered by miss out spoken 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there are children involved, u will never be rid of her, or her children. if no children are involved than he is probably still in love with her and maybe u need to confront him, tell him how u feel, and if it doesn't get better, maybe it is time to get some therapy or leave the marriage.
2006-12-30 14:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Competition isn't the answer, so don't try. While it may make you feel good to try to remove the "X" from his life, remember that even though you can remove the physical traces, memories remain. Be happy and confident in the knowledge that she is an "X" and that he is with you. Jealousy is not the answer. If you're not confident in that answer, then I suggest you prepare yourself to become an "X" yourself...
2006-12-30 14:38:30 · answer #11 · answered by Chris R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋