Ok. I really can't take any rude "answers" saying that i'm too young. because i know that. thats the problem. thanks.
Well. theres *dun dun dun* a guy. he's nineteen and i'll be 15 in 28 days. so... i'm almost convinced that we'd be... *ahem* together if it weren't for the age thing. i love him. he's like my brother. i talk to him about everything. and he tells me everything to. but... mostly over msn. and recently my parents have banned msn from my house. he goes to my youthgroup and church and stuff but i cant ever see him outside of youth because .. duh im a minor and hes 19. anyways we had this huge fight about me thinking our relationship wasnt "real" because it was over msn.. and hes really upset that i wont be talking to him really as much. and the last thing said was
Me: Can I call you? I really need to talk with you.
Him: yeah, i'm on the phone right now. (being a bas tard.)
Me:...*spazzes*
i ended up crying for a while. what should i do? thanks for listening to me rant
2006-12-30 14:28:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
.. we both are strong christians and are saved. and dont believe in pre-marital sex.
2006-12-30 14:52:17 · update #1
I think you need to let it go and find someone your own age.
5 yrs doesn't seem that big a gap to you, but it is....he's over the age of consent and if he gets caught with you, it's jail time for him. He should be looking for someone his own age. (does he know you're 14 ???) Your parents are looking out for you and him. Just let it go...( I know it's hard...) but in the long run you'll be better off..(and a computer relationship isn't a 'real' relationship anyway...words don't mean much without actions behind them...and you don't need the actions, yet...wait a few more yrs...)
2006-12-30 14:35:20 · answer #1 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously your parents are idiots, MSN can create real love with typing back and forth, 19 yr olds in youth groups are very mature, and the age difference - despite what every human on the planet thinks - is of no consequence. Furthermore, you will be happy forever together and he'll only have sex with you because he really really loves you and wants to support the baby you'll have together as a symbol of your love. Is that what you wanted to hear? - or did you want the truth?
2006-12-30 14:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by bdenton2k 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My hart gos out to you if it were me I'm not sure I'd know what to do myself but its not me , and that's for the best , You on the other hand have a choice do you move on or defy your parents ? I would guess you are in love with this boy and what ever you choice to do please be smart about it it only takes a hart beat to fall in love but it takes a life time to heal from the loss. Our parents want whats best for us and sometimes we think we know better . But more often than not our parents have been threw what we have and its best to listen closely , thank them for looking out for us. and try taking there advice even if its not what you want to hear . Our harts break very easy and only our family will protect us. boyfriends and even friends will come and go thought our lives but your family is forever. Good luck friend
2006-12-30 14:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by danngazz67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry dear this is not meant to be rude but time will take care of all the problems, and if it is real love it will last even the most difficult times, so use the time to become a knowledgeable adult that know what she wants and has all plans in place to attain your goal, a worthy cause and a good end result awaits you
2006-12-30 14:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him then tell him. At youth group tell him to get something besides msn like a yahoo screen name. If he made you cry then maybe he's not all that great.
2006-12-30 14:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to try to be together in ACTUALITY not over msn. Have him meet your parents or if he's already met your parents have a talk with them to see if they approve of him or not.
2006-12-30 14:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by black witch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cry it out then. But keep in mind that a 19 year old guy is likely more interested in girls that have the freedom of being a little older.
2006-12-30 14:33:49 · answer #7 · answered by Tab 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to your parents and have him come over and talk to your parents. He can really get in a LOT of trouble if you have sex with him, at your age. Think this through.
2006-12-30 14:32:04 · answer #8 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are really not that much too young for a 19 yr.old. As long as you have a lot in common. try talking more in person, maybe at church or whatever. see where it goes.
2006-12-30 14:35:28 · answer #9 · answered by angel1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey gurl, you are young, and my advice to you would be to know you are young and know the relationships you have know are not serious, give your self time to grow up more, and know what you want in life, what you are feeling know will be different to what you are feeling in 3 or 4 years time, same goes with type of guys you date, you are both in very different stages of your lives right now
2006-12-30 14:41:26 · answer #10 · answered by starred 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋