I really need advice!! Is this right??

Question

Ok I don't want to go to the mall with my mom so I don't go out that much unelss with my friends. So my mom said she's sending me to counseling. I don't go out in public though cause I am very embarrassed to be seen with my mom. I would if she let me go with my friends. What should I do?

Answer 1

You should consider yourself lucky - some kids would love their mom to go to the mall with them but they don't have the time. You don't have to go with her all the time, but once in a while would make her feel good.

Answer 2

Be nice to your mom:) I remember when I was a teenager and I thought the same things. And I remember how much I hurt my mom's feelings back then and it really upsets me now to think of how I might have hurt her. Your mom loves you and probably just wants to spend time with you, even if she acts angry, she just wants you to love her like you did when you were young. it's probably hard for her now that you're getting older. Try to give her a break and let her know that you love her very much but just wish you could have time with your friends.
Give your mom a hug. Remember that you are probably going to be a mom some day and you will be in her shoes wishing that your child would spend more time with you!:)
By the way, I just had my first baby...a girl and already I'm dreading the day that she doesn't want to be seen in public with me! And I'm an attractive woman;) I guess it won't matter though---I'm sure she'll find me hideous at some point:)
BE KIND to your MOM!
You DON'T need counseling and NEITHER does your mom. I think some of the responses were a bit irresponsible. You are a normal teenager but you DO need to show your mom more respect.
DO NOT TELL your mom that you are embarrased by her! that would only hurt her feelings and you don't want to do that, do you?
the GOLDEN RULE that's taught in Kindergarten advises against that ladies--come on.
good luck and remember to love and respect your mom. not enough people do that. and DON'T ditch your mom in the mall! that's horrible and ridiculous advice. (if you want to call it advice!)

Answer 3

I feel sorry for you because someday you're going to need your mom more than anyone else and she'll no longer be around.

It might not hurt to get a little counseling to try to figure out why you think you're too cool to be seen somewhere with her. I hope your mom gets some as well to help her deal with the hurt you're causing her.

I'm the mom of a 17 year old myself and she loves spending time with me. It's even better when the two of us get together with my mom since I'm lucky enough to still have her.

I always knew I had a pretty special kid, but I don't think I ever realized just how special she is - or how lucky I am - until reading your self-centered question. I'm going to go give her a hug right now....I'd suggest you do the same for your mother. You'll make her day.

Answer 4

Ha, wow I feel the same. Like she's controlling, right? Well, you should spend time with her, because for one your hurting her feelings. Also, she probably thinks she doesn't know you anymore. But I see a therapist and they're great. But if there is nothing wrong with you explain that to her. You don't have to go to the mall, or any other place close to you. Maybe a nice drive or a day at the spa! If you get to know her you might even think she's cool. Be lucky your mom cares for you and if you feel she's overprotected, tell her! [In a respectful way of some sort, you dont want to fight]

Answer 5

Well, my first question would have to be why? Why are you embarassed to be seen in public with your mom? Is she unattractive, has no fashion sense,boring, or just cramps your style & your friends disapprove of you spending time with her? It does help to know the reason. But I'll just improvise. If its just the way she looks or dresses then go to the mall with her & see maybe if she would like to get a makeover ( not that she needs one,) but it could be a gift or treat for her & you, You could both get a makeover together & spend quality time! Maybe the same solution if she simply "cramps your style". Or is it simply the teenage years where your friends look down on you and think it is SOOO uncool to actually be seen in public with a parent?! Oooh the shame, agony,it could just completely wreck your reputation!! If that is your reason then confront your friends, maybe they aren't your real friends after all if they are going to be so quick to judge & disown you. Friends should acccept you for you!! They should not try to change you, or judge you, and certainly not criticize you or your decisions. But what it all boils down to is.... Do you love your Mom? Will it hurt her feelings if you say no? If the answer is yes to either of those questions then set a date for shopping!! If it doesnt turn out to go as planned then well it was only one day!! & if that day turns out great then you'll both have a memory to cherish & look back years from now & it will bring a smile to your face. But if you just can not bring yourself to go, maybe confront her, ask if you can bring along a friend or two, & on another occassion if just you & your friends can have a day out. But if i were you I would confront her after the trip to the mall, because maybe your mom will be better company & you may enjoy it!!:) Also be happy that your mother wants to spend time with you!! Its a blessing!! My mom is not like yours. I'd love to go shopping with her or even talk to her but she barely ever calls & simply does not care. Your mom does so be happy!! Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

I used to be like that when I was a teenager. My mom was a LOT older than everyone else's mom and had no sense of fashion or style. I was embarassed to be seen with her and avoided it at all costs. Something I learned with time though, is that no matter how goofy or dorky your mom might be, the day will come when you wish you had all those chances to go to the mall with her back again.

Sit back and imagine what it will be like when your mom dies and you never get to go anywhere with her ever again. I mean really imagine it. Picture her funeral, picture wanting to talk to her and she's gone, imagine wanting to call her and she'll never answer the phone again.

I did that and it destroyed me. I called her up and apologized for how I'd treated her when I was a teenager. Thank goodness she was still alive for me to do that.

Answer 7

I had this same problem when I was a teenager. It doesn't make you a bad person. And, believe it or not, it will fade. I know that you probably just want to be seen as more grown up. But, when you are grown up with a car and your own place, you won't even think anything of it. It's okay to feel those things. I think most teens do. When I was teen I was ashamed of going out for dinner with my grandma. I was ashamed of my house. You probably just need some more freedom. Just remember, there is nothing to be ashamed of. All kids your age go out shopping with their parents. Tell your mom that it just makes you feel embarrassed. Tell her you need more freedom, and hopefully she'll understand. Good luck!

Answer 8

well how old are you cuz in everyones life at some point they dont like going out to the mall with their parents. but dont be rude about it with your mom. just say you would rather go with your friends dont tell her your embarrassed of her that will hurt her. when going to counselling just say this let them know how u feel im sure your not anti social or anything

Answer 9

You sound like a brat. Your Mom is the one person in your life who has been there with you from the very beginning. She would do everything she can to help you.

And you are embarrassed to be seen with her, just like so many other kids in the country.

Now I don't know what goes on between you and your Mom, but that is no excuse.

I have a friend who is embarrassed by his kid, the hair, the way he dresses, the piercings, but he will do anything he can for that kid. He loves his kid.

Go withyour Mom to the mall.

Answer 10

Why are you ashamed to be seen with your mom? Just because you are too cool to be seen with her or is she deformed in someway? Either way, she's your mom!! Let her take you to the mall or whatever. What's the big deal? Maybe counseling would do you some good in dealing with these mother issues.

Answer 11

Your age is the determining factor in what your mom allows you to do. You need to talk with her as there is no embarrassment involved in going with your mom other than your own ego. Your mom can either be your best friend in this area or your worst. If you want to go with friends you have to show yourself fully responsible for your actions and agree to be held accountable (including punishment) if you fail to follow the rules.