They used to spend a lot of time together before we got married, and recently they've been hanging out on an infrequent basis.
But am I the only one who thinks it is weird for a married man to hang out with another woman, other than his wife, even if the woman has known him since birth. She talks to him about personal problems that she's having and I guess he tries to give her advice.
I'd never be allowed to hang out alone with another man, other than my father, even if he was older, and I'd known him my whole life.
2006-12-30 14:01:43 · 20 answers · asked by journiefille 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask him if you could join their gathering if he said no, then you know something is fishy.
2006-12-30 14:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by LIZA 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am in agreement with several of the other answerers. The litmus test in this situation is if he allows you to hang around with them some of the time,not all it isn't necessary but at least about a third of the time. If he seems to have a problem with this or things seem strained when you are with them then beware and follow your intuition. It may well be an innocent friend ship.
2006-12-30 22:32:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friendship like this with a woman I've known since childhood. My wife is well aware of it.
What makes it hard to believe for my wife if I am faithful to her or not is that my friend is VERY attractive. Regardless of her looks, the VERY LAST thing (and really...it is an absolute NO) I would want to do is have a sexual relationship with my friend. She is a virtual "sister" to me and...well, it just can't happen.
Now, if he can see his friend, there is NO reason why you shouldn't hang out with another man that you knew for most of your life. That is being rather hypocritical. If he doesn't allow you to see your friend, then he cannot see his friend. Simple as that.
2006-12-30 22:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie- I am not the best person to talk to about this issue because my sister's husband was cheating on her with a co-worker shortly after their first child was born.
So I am just going to tell you to use your female intuition. If you feel as though there is something NOT right in this situation then there probably is something going on.
For him to say its okay for him to do it but not you is messed up. Tell him to "practice" what he "preaches".. if you aren't allowed to do it- neither can he.
2006-12-30 22:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This should go both ways. If he's allowed to do it then you should be too. If he won't let you go out w/ male friends then it's not ok for him to do it himself. I'd ask to be included. If he won't let you come along once in a while then I'd worry that more than just talking was going on.
2006-12-30 22:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by blhenne 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if you can hang out with them,if you are told no,then I would ask him if it is because of the sex they have going on or that three would be a fantasy he would not want to indulge in. I would sit her down and tell her that your man is yours and she is to find her own man,her problems are exactly that HERS,she is playing on your husband due to her having "problems" and he is falling for it,hook.line,and sinker.......and probably her bed too.
2006-12-30 22:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by grbarnaba 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It all depends, is she much older? If so, he's probably just trying to be supportive. Although, I would ask to go over there suddenly, not make a big deal about it. If he lets you go with him, that's great, he's probably doing what he said. If he doesn't bribe him. If he is acting funny after and going into the shower, you should probably worry. Try to seduce him after and if he goes for it, he's probably fine.
2006-12-30 22:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by delacroix192 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes dear, it is normal. I really don't think they have had sex. It would be like having sex with your sister....ewww!
They are like a brother and sister. Do not worry. maybe you can try and get closer to her...but...don't make it obvious. To put your mind at ease....I have known Jim for 23 years. Now he has a family and when I first met her she was worried that there was more to our relationship...not so....and now after she know's me she is very comfortable with me and her husband just sitting around and sometimes alone chatting. He is in fact, "just another brother"
Keep smiling and know that your husband loves you.
2006-12-30 22:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by Northernlady 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no its not normal and if want to save ur marriage u better put a stop to it but be care-full because he sounds protective of her if u come out fighting so will he so use a lot of control and find out whats going on and put a stop to it if not he is going to keep seeing her until something new comes along or he realizes he may love her.
2006-12-30 22:31:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Set the record straight. Its time for the other her to move on. If she needs to talk to him it must be only in your presence.Given the right moment from what you have said they would be in bed together if it has not already happened. two opposites just don`t hang out
2006-12-30 22:07:31 · answer #10 · answered by xlhdrider 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not normal. I am a firm believer that once married, you should be each other's first priority -- barring nothing but God.
2006-12-30 22:55:14 · answer #11 · answered by Holly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋