we've had unprotected sex twice, he hasnt *** yet. he says he knows he will this time, and he'll pull out. im just wondering how effective this is, because were both new at sex.
2006-12-30 13:43:49 · 22 answers · asked by dejavu_or_reality 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
you should be safe from pregnancy if you are on the pill it's about 98% efective but you arn't safe from STD's. remember if you have a stomach bug the pill may not be efective. This said a lot of women trust the pill as an efective method of contraception which it is so it's highly unlikly you will get pregnant.
Pulling out is not an efective method of birth controll in it's self as the man will relese precum which also contains sperm several times before he ejaculates.
Condoms are also verry efective untill one breaks or falls off.
no method is 100% safe it's always beter to be with a man you can trust to protect you from the possible consequences or at least to stand by you if things do go wrong.
2006-12-30 13:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by Jay The Jester 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pill is relatively protective, whether or not he pulls out.
Of each 100 women taking the pill each year 2-8 will get pregnant.
Using the withdrawal method 10-20 will get pregnant. IF you follow the rules: http://www.peelregion.ca/health/hsexual/htmfiles/bcwdrawl.htm You must follow the rules, otherwise it is not as effective.
Both methods combined are more effective than either on their own. However neither protects against STIs and it is really easy to forget pills or to not pull out in time.
There are lots of other methods besides condoms. Non-prescription methods include:
The sponge
Lea's shield (like a diaphram)
Spermicidal jellies or foam (there is also a film but it is very hard to use)
Prescription methods include:
IUDs
Cervical Cap
Diaphrams
There is more information on these methods at the link above. Or you can speak to a nurse at Planned Parenthood who will discuss the benefits and risks of each method.
Personally, I would use a condom. You sound really young and no matter how much you trust a guy it is better to be safe than sorry when in comes to STIs. When you are in a long term relationship (more than 2 years) and you have both passed a screening for STIs then I would consider not using a condom. But until then the risking your life is too high an amount of trust.
2006-12-30 13:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are on birth control pills, which are extremely effective at preventing pregnancy (though not 100%), AND you haven't forgotten or missed days w/your pills, then you should be okay. If he pulls out, then that helps to increase your protection by quite a bit.
If he uses a condom in addition to your being on the pill, then your safety numbers will have skyrocketed even if you've missed pills. In fact, if you do miss? Absolutely he must wear a condom and give it a month of being regular on your pills again before the condom use is stopped. And, as other people have already mentioned, there are other things you can do to supplement your protection on a regular basis in addition to being on the pill(foam, gel, etc.) You two can always buy some over the counter and see what you think about using them.
Now, if pulling out were your ONLY means of contraception and/or he's pulling out, but you're not faithful about taking your pills, then that's called "parenthood" for a very good reason.
The person above who told you that there is just semen that comes out in advance and that it contains no sperm--well I hope they're ready to pony up and buy you a really, really nice baby shower gift (if not a wedding gift before the bridal shower.)
Be absolutely sure that your partner is only having sex with you. If you have any reason to doubt this, any at all, require that he wear condoms. Condoms will not help prevent ALL STD's, but most all and most of the serious ones,including HIV and hepatitis.
If you have any questions or any doubts about what people here are telling you, including me (or even what your friends are telling you about sex) please do not hesitate to contact Planned Parenthood. They have lots of good info., offer very inexpensive services, and can definitely be trusted.
2006-12-30 13:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The pill is about 98% effective when taken properly. If you've been on it over a month and you don't take other medications which can reduce its effectiveness, you should be pretty well protected. The "pull out" method alone isn't safe since there's semen in the pre-ejaculate, but the two methods together should be enough to prevent pregnancy. Keep in mind that only a latex condom can offer any protection against STDs.
2006-12-30 13:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Birth control pill is 99% effective. Pulling out is 60% effective. So it really doesn't matter if he pulls out or not, if you are taking the pills properly, and have for a month.
(Effective - a 1% failure means for every 100 couples who use the pill properly for a year, 1 will get pregnant.)
Face it - that's what pills are for - so he doesn't have to pull out. All you're doing by being paranoid about the possibility, is stressing yourself out, and making him unhappy about the (unnecessary) interruption.
If you're that seriously worried, make him use a condom too. It's probably more enjoyable. Definitely more effective. If you really really really want to be sure, but want him to be happy, also get a diaphragm and jelly instead of condoms.
2006-12-30 13:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being on birth controll is 99.9 % effective. However, pulling out is a myth, it's just as dangerous as going all the way. The reason it's just as dangerous is because when a guy gets excited there's what's called pre-come, which contains sperm. Pre-comeusually happens anytime while excited and it's not something you can avoid. So, pulling out is not effective in the least, however birth controll if you're taking as perscribed by your dr, should give you that 99.9%.
2006-12-30 13:49:36 · answer #6 · answered by mercymarie3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if you are on birth control + pulling out...its pretty effective...BUT NOT 100%!!!!...If you don't want a baby, use condoms as well. Not only will they protect more against pregnancy, but also STDs. Be careful since you are both new at sex!
Good Luck and Best Wishes!
2006-12-30 13:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by xxx_bleeding_x_stars_xxx 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The pill is very effective but some still get pregnant using it. Pulling out in time is not effective at all. Before a man "finishes" he will still have "lube" the gets out which does contain sperm. It's highly unlikely that you will get pregnant if you're on the pill and he is pulling out before he "finishes". Just don't miss not even one pill.
2006-12-30 13:49:12 · answer #8 · answered by Average Joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not very effective even if you're on the pill. The pill is NOT 100% effective and prior to him cuming there is the pre-ejaculate which is usually more potent than the actual ejaculate that he will sprew forth. Guys do not always know when they pre-ejaculate so he wouldn't pull out until he is about to ejaculate. I know a family who relied on the "pull out" method...they have 12 children.
2006-12-30 17:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would depend. Have you been on the birth control for over one month? If so then it should be ok for him to just finish inside of you. Ive been on the pill for 4 years and my boyfriend always finishes inside me. If you dont know this guy to well then use a condom because you never know about std's. Sex should be fun and natural so just relax and try to have fun!
2006-12-30 13:46:34 · answer #10 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋