Ok, Im sure this sounds out of control and i know this. Im 20 yrs old and my boyfriend of 3 years will be leaving for the navy in april. I still have about 3-4 years of school left ahead of me. All i can really think about it wanting to settle down and have a baby with him.... NOW!! Everytime i get my period i get a little depressed, i know right now just wouldnt be a good time at all, but i keep feeling the urge to have a baby with him. Is this just my biological clock or am i insane?
2006-12-30 13:39:34 · 21 answers · asked by Chrissy 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I do not plan on having one untill he gets hom from the military. And im not going to try and trick him into getting me pregnant, i just wanna know if these feelings are normal
2006-12-30 13:44:01 · update #1
I know what its like to have a child, i raised my neice for 2 years, i did the 3 am feedings and such when i was in high school. I know what its like, and i like doing it.
2006-12-30 13:58:10 · update #2
Your boyfriend is going off to the navy. I'm sure there is a small part of you that is wondering if he will come back to you. By getting pregnant you would always have a part of him with you if God forbid something were to happen to your bf. Its just a protective instinct. Talk it over with your bf. Be honest to him and yourself. Do your best to finish school first. You will find it a lot harder to go back to school later. Best wishes and good luck.
2006-12-30 13:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by GPHS 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Biological clock means that time is slowly running out to have a baby so at 20, you are hardly running out of time.
Ask yourself these questions:
1. Can you support yourself and a baby without him? You will be a single parent and the child will pretty much be fatherless for a few years. Is that what you want for a child?
2. Would you be able to finish school with a baby?
3. Your boyfriend is committing himself to the service instead of you. Is that the relationship you want or do you think that having a baby with him will bind you forever no matter what?
PS: Taking care of a child for just 2 years is not raising a child.
2006-12-31 02:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course it's normal! It's a God given desire and bless you for having these feelings. Besides that, it's a very romantic thing, having a baby. It's a lot of work, and you'll be glad you put it off till your situation is a little less hectic. There is nothing in the world that can match the stress of having a newborn. I understand the depression every time a period comes. You've dreamt about being a mommy since you were three, probably. Hang in there and get married first, by the way. Less messy and confusing that way, not to mention that's the way God intended it.
2006-12-30 14:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by Kim A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no youre not insane. youre female. you have hormones. your boyfriends leaving for a period of time and you're not sure when (or if , if hes active duty) youll see him again. If you're wanting to settle down with h im, remember being *military* wife isn't easy. Also before you go doing all that, see if there's a way to keep continuing your education if you do settle down with him to havea baby. An education is the most important thing right now. You don't have an education, you wont get anywhere in life. i know the feeling of wanting a baby. it's a powerful pull on your life. everywhere you look you see smiling people with babies.
You need an education to pay for that kid and your lifestyle o that you wont have to live in the poor house .... think hard before you take any action
2006-12-30 13:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by psychoticangel_kitty 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You WILL be crazy when it's 3 a.m. and you're by yourself with a crying infant. Seriously, parenting is a two person job. There's really no rush. You should finish school, get married, and THEN start your family. If you still have that urge, ask a friend if you can babysit their child for the weekend. I'm pretty sure you'll change your mind.
2006-12-30 13:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by kyletexas_123 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it is crazy to want a baby. Or a family! But from personal experience I would wait till you are done or very close to being done with school. So you do not have to worry about having enough time with your child b/c you are in school or have to study. It is so much easier to get it done than enjoy children afterward. It is all up to you and don't let anyone make you feel bad for you decision you make.
2006-12-30 13:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by cliffhanger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your not insane but with you having school and him leaving to the navy right now will not be the greatest time to be trying as you prolly know a baby is really hard to take care of and with him gone and you working and going to scool will be even harder, i think you need to slow down maybe babysit some kids over night a few nights and give there parents a rest and then you will change your mind for awhile and if you dont change your mind after that then maybe then i would start to try good luck and i hope u make a good decision, neither one of them are bad decisions, its just what ever you choose will be a good decision i hope you get what iam saying
2006-12-30 13:45:12 · answer #7 · answered by <3 mykiddos,mylife <3 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First complete school before anything else. Education is very importation.
The question is do you boyfriend want a baby? (marriage before sex)
Set down and talk with your boyfriend and see what he want and see how he feel about what you want.
Before bringing a child into this world make sure both of you love each. Love is Trust, Communication and Respect for each other.
If both of you agree, then get marriage and then child.
Good Luck!!!
2006-12-30 13:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by GOD IS LOVE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This feeling you have is what keeps the world full of people. Its maternal but not always the best choice for someone your age who is still in school. You have many years ahead to have a baby, wait until school is out.
2006-12-30 13:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
hon, i know exactly what you are going through... i'm an 18 yr old newlywed who is in her first year of college and i want nothing more than to have a child now... and i want to finish school i know it will be hard but i want both... i was pregnant a couple months ago and miscarried but i think he may let us try again soon... or just not really do anything to stop it from happening
2006-12-30 13:44:43 · answer #10 · answered by ♥princessai♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋