2006-12-30 13:33:37 · 12 answers · asked by Proctor P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh man, I'm living this one right now.. 4 year relationship.. has fallen apart. Luckily we live about 2500 miles apart because of job promotion he took; but this guy was willing to hop a plane at a minute's notice, and pay for me to do so as well.. anyway, the deal is we're having some disagreements about what is okay when apart. He cruises the dating sites, goes out, but has been totally monogamous in our relationship as far as sex is concerned. I don't have a problem with female friends for him, but he has crossed the line with the dating sites and I won't compromise my values on this issue.. the sad part is he's doing it because he's lonely.. I can't relo for another 18 mos. at earliest, due to kids needs. Anyway, the sad part is we're truly connected on so many levels, but this one issue has broken us up. Now to your question... I have found that the best way to do the right thing in this situation is to wish the other person the best, thank them for being a part of your life, and then leave. I don't believe in exes being friends.. doesn't work as far as I can see, but I never bad mouth the ex.. ever.. good luck to you.. this isn't easy, but it is doable..and give yourself time to get over it before you jump back into the dating pool.
2006-12-30 13:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by dedeshry1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend once and then we got engaged. I was so happy with him even though he constantly would bite me all the time. I remember having bruises in the shape of his teeth on my cheek. I loved him soo much, but finally I had to make the decision of knowing if I was more happy or more sad in the relationship. I thought my life was gonna end without him, but now, 3 years later, I'm engaged again to my true love. It's hard to let go, but once you do, you'll find someone better.
Good Luck!
2006-12-30 13:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by xxx_bleeding_x_stars_xxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find something to fill there place. Im young so people think teenagers dont understand but I lost my grandpa and my boyfriend moved away.
I hurt so much every day i thought i couldnt stand it, it was like an empty void in the middle of my stomache, like i'd lost a arm or a leg.
I had to find something else that i loved, I took up dance and soccer wich didnt work..
This winter i started snowboarding and got very good at it very quickly, it takes my mind off of everything the speed, the crisp air help me relax and clear my mind.
I will always miss them but after a while you do heal and you can move on with your life..
God bless,
sarah
2006-12-30 13:38:44 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way. If you truly love someone & they want to go; you let them go. Loving someone means that you want them to be happy, if they feel that they would be happier with someone else, what other choice do you have? I found that letting go means that you don't ever bother them again, you don't try to see them, you don't call just to hear their voice; in fact I left the town! Sure it's hard but in the end it is best for both of you.
2006-12-30 13:46:39 · answer #4 · answered by geegee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one its hard, dont let anyone tell you otherwise. second, you will just need time, time heals everything. it has happened to me, but its too long of a story. lets just say it took me three years to get over this person. mostly crying every night, waiting for him to smarten up, and one day i finally realized he didnt want to be with me, friends or not. why would i want to be or waiting for someone who totally cut me loose long before that, thats how you need to look at it. you deserve better, friend or more then a friend, whatever the situation is . people will always come and go, thats what i learned and every time i meet someone, whether through a job, or friends or whatever, no one stays... that is just life. good luck!
2006-12-30 13:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there really no is no easyway 2 let someone go.TRust me i know.I am 16 and i liked this 21 year old guy and i got locked up because my mom tryed 2 keep me away from him.I did not want him 2 get locked up because of me so i just stopped talking 2 him and going over there.I felt really horrible for awhile and i still do.It may hurt u b ut it is the best thing today.He told me last time that i seen him that he has a girlfriend but he loves me more then he ever will love her or anyone else.He told me he will wait for me i just don't know
2006-12-30 13:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by edh1414 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no easy way and there isn't just one answer either. everyone is different and you have to find what works for you. but if you are to have any chance, you have to rid them from your life. you can't see them at all. and keep yourself busy with other things (work,dating,hanging out with friends). sorry to say that sometimes nothing works. in that case you just have to accept it and live with the fact that you cannot have that person. once you can accept it you can move on. you probably won't be able to let your feelings go, but they won't stop you from living your life anymore. good luck and i hope it does get easier for you.
2006-12-30 13:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Painful to even think about... he had a substance abuse problem that wore me out. I left when he was asleep with a bag of clothes and my dog, ignored his pleading phone calls. ...
Sorry I went there... there is no "easy" way. The best for all concerned is to break clean and get it over with. Let the healing begin... honesty is the best policy.
Good luck, Happy New Year?
2006-12-30 13:36:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to let them go?? If they want to break up with you ask them why they would, or if they don't feel the same if they don't then they aren't the one for you. You can't just let someone go I hope you try to put up a fight for them. If they want to move or have to move you could try and move closer to them if you can. Keep in touch don't give up on love.
2006-12-30 13:38:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-19 06:17:14 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋