do you think because it so accepted now to be gay more children will become gay in the future?

Question

And i don't mean if they will be more eager to get out of the closet? or feel more comfortable about being naturally gay?
Or will they become it by experiencing it?

Will being gay become a norm, instead of an exception?
And also are people born gay or do the become gay?

Pardon my ignorance about this last question but i have little clue.

I don't think i need to add i don't believe there is anything wrong in being gay. And i also thing that being really homosexual is not only a matter of experimenting/expressing sexually. I think homosexuals are attracted to people of the same sex.
And i also think there is another type of person who are bisexual because they want to experiment sexually. So they choose to be gay.

I am curious on how/why somoeone becomes or is born gay?
I remember in high school in a biology class debate i came up with the crazy idea that homosexuality was nature looking for a way for people of the same sex to reproduce ( just kidding and me causing a debate as usual).

I do also think that the fact a gay people can't have children makes it different than an heterosexual couple as, when you have a children with someone you love it's truly amazing as two really become one. and you can see the fruit of the love.

Answer 1

Hello and thank you for your question. I am not speaking as an expert, but as a gay man. Perhaps my experience and perspective would be useful to you.

What I can tell you from my experience is that people do not "become gay" any more than they become heterosexual. There is not choice involved. Whether or not sexual orientation is determined at conception, birth, or childhood is not known by anyone, not even psychologists, doctors or sociologists. However, what I can tell you is that no one becomes gay. People can not be converted to being gay or recruted to being gay.

Why then does the myth that people become gay or that gay people recruit people to be gay persist?

Well, it is not as complicated as it seems.

People do not become gay, but they do come out as gay. What I mean by this is that in a society where being gay carries such a negative stigma, many people are under a lot of pressure to deny their gayness. Many gays do not share their sexual orientation with others. In a culture where you can be legally discriminated against, be fired from a job, be excluded from major religion, or even be beaten and killed for being gay, there is immense pressure to deny it. Sadly, this means that many (maybe most) gay people initially deny it even to themselves.

The reason that people mistakenly believe that people become gay is because in adolescence and early adulthood many gay people go to great lengths to deny their sexual orientation. They pretend to be heterosexual, often even to themselves. They will date members of the opposite sex, many will even marry and have children trying to convince others and even themselves that they are "normal".

As some of these people mature, they learn about themselves, they gain insights into their own character, and many ultimately realize their sexual orientation. Once they realize who they are and that they are gay....once they admit that they are gay to themselves, they often want to share this part of themselves with other people. To those people it sometimes appears that the person has "become gay" when in fact they were always gay but denied it because they live in a culture that does not accept it.

The reason that some people mistakenly believe that gay people "recruit" other gay people to be gay is simple really. When people are going through an inner turmoil they often seek support or find comfort in others who have been through or who share the same inner turmoil. So naturally when gay people are struggling with the innter turmoil of coming out to themselves and others, they find comfort in others who have been through the process....other gays. Then once a person has admitted to themselves they are gay and they have decided to stop creating the image that they are gay they will tend to start associating with other gay people. Ultimately, the person will share their sexual orientation with others.

Thing about the perspective of the heterosexual person watching this process happen to a friend from the outside. What the heterosexual person sees is that this person that they have known (sometimes for years) starts associating with gay people. Gays start calling. Gays start coming around. Gays start taking this previously straight person out to gay events. Then, after some time, the person that has appeared to be heterosexual their whole life comes out and starts dating people of the same sex. Well, of course to the heterosexual observer who has been sheltered from issues of sexual orientation, this looks like those gay people recruited or converted their friend or loved one to be gay. In reality the gay people were simply providing a support system to help the person that has deceived themselves for years come to terms with their sexual orientation.

So, you see, the idea that people become gay, or that gay people convert or recruit other people to be gay is a completely understandable misinterpretation of the facts by a person who does not understand the process of coming out. As the American culture becomes more educated and more comfortable with homosexuality, these myths will go away.

As society becomes more accepting and understanding of homosexuality, it will be easier for people to come out. The process will start to occur in adolescence rather than adulthood. More gay people will come out earlier. On the surface this will appear that homosexuality is becoming more frequent or that more children are growing up to be gay. In reality this will again be a misinterpretation of the facts. It will appear that more children are growing up to be gay when the reality is that the number of gay people is constant but more people are coming to terms with it earlier.

I personally believe that the percentage of gay citizens is fixed around 5-8%. However, there is really not much hard scientific research to support this and the number might be higher or lower. The reason that it seems much less common to the heterosexual observer is, again, many people do not share their homosexuality with others.

I hope that these insights from the gay perspective are helpful.

Answer 2

I appreciate the fact that you are being polite about your question and not asking it in a descriminatory manor. As a gay man, I can say for a fact that I was born gay and I don't believe anyone becomes gay. To most people, the idea of choosing an orientation sounds absurd, so the situation shouldn't be any different for gay and lesbian people. I do see what you mean about it being more accepted today and I think it is wonderful. People are finally starting to realize that being gay is not something that can be controlled and is completely normal. I don't think there will be more children that become gay, because I don't believe anyone can become gay. Just because children see that homosexuality is becoming acceptable, that will not make them want to become gay. You can't control how you feel about another person. Straight children will look at it as just another kind of love and gay children will feel better about being gay and coming out of the closet because they will see that it is nothing to be ashamed of.

Answer 3

There's already research showing that gay parents don't raise any more gay children than straight parents do. I'm pretty sure that the only increases you'll see are in those people who would have been too afraid to live their lives openly, but who maybe won't be anymore. Research indicates that at very least, there are biological factors. Whether or not that's the whole story, I don't know, and frankly I don't really care. What I do know is I'm gay, other people are gay, and there's nothing I can do about it and we're not hurting anyone. As for straight love somehow being different...you fail to consider heterosexual couples who don't have children. Or who adopt (which gay couples can also do). So...in other words: nonsense.

Answer 4

let's look at it this way, the norm is straight. I was raised by straight people and am gay, their orientation had nothing to do with mine. Why do you think that gay people would be able to influence children's orientation if straight people didn't influence mine? It makes no sense and just shows that you are afraid of gay people. if you really were confident with your own sexuality then the sexuality of others would have no effect on yours. No, there won't be more gay children if there are more out gay adults. It is a natural occurance in about 10% of the population. That won't change.

Answer 5

You're born gay, and homosexuality may be more accepted than it is now, but there are still so many people that are so close minded about it. Maybe in a couple more generations. Till then...long live the closet.

Answer 6

yes it is a scientific fact people are born homosexuals.

as for u'r title question what does it matter it's the same now, only some people choose to stay in the closet, it's really they're problem i don't care.
if society in the future will be totally accepting it will be great, but it won't mean more will become gay because u don't become it, it's how u are born.

Answer 7

people are gay because that's just they way they are.. they don't chose it. heck, how silly can people be to think that gays actually chose it? would you chose to be in a minority group that gets discriminated against by 90% of society? heck, no.

will there be more gay people? well, i think sexual orientation is partly biology and partly the nurturing we get from ages 0-5.

with this in mind, the numbers may increase slightly, but not by much.

i hate the phonies out there why pretend they are gay when they aren't. they think they can try to be trendy or something. it's not like that..

Answer 8

No, more people will not be gay. People do not "become gay." We are or we are not.

They may however find it more acceptable to "like" who they are and come out of the closet.

Answer 9

My toddler is my toddler. of direction i might like him. might i p.c. a existence as an outcast? lacking out on plenty my family participants enjoys? toddlers, marriage and taking section in a loving faith community? on no account. we are lively in our church, assisting the damaging, elderly and unwell. interior the previous we volunteered on the AIDS care facility in our community. i might on no account want that on everybody! we've now toddlers and are constrained in our time. construction an id is a technique. i might desire my relationship with him might enable him the liberty to alter into who he's meant to be. i might additionally desire to help shape that growth if it takes a unfavorable turn. drugs, gangs, eating, promiscuity, etc. Sexuality is located out habit for many. (no longer all) no count if it relatively is in his layout, i visit love and cherish him. supply any help mandatory. i like him plenty. he's 3 years previous. i'm no longer able to think of ever no longer loving him. A father's love is a few thing extra effective than something i will think of.

Answer 10

Catalista, are you confused about your own orientation? Are you afraid of being truthful to yourself and your feelings? If you are gay, than I don't think there is anything to "cure" you. You should feel comfortable with yourself if this is indeed the problem.