Will the hurt and pain of being cheated on ever go away?

Question

Why is it that the person who has hurt me,is the one I need a hug off?

Answer 1

yes, after a while the pain will fade away, and you'll start seeing things more clearly. Then...it's time for the anger to start kicking in...but don't worry..that will go away as well...Good Luck!

Answer 2

Oh my dear I know how this feels. It's natural to turn to your partner for comfort even when they are the one hurting you, especially if you feel embarrassed by what's happened. Don't be. It's not your fault. Good, kind, clever people sometimes do bad, cruel and stupid things.

You need a friend, mother, sister someone to confide in and give you that hug. Someone who is non-judgemental and caring.

Infidelity is like a bereavement with added rejection thrown in, so it is really tough. But by talking about it you will help the healing. I have been through it and so have many others and you will get over it. The hurt does come back sometimes when I'm feeling low but it can make you work harder at future relationships which is a good thing. I've now been married happily for years to my second husband and we have a much better relationship than I ever had with my first, unfaithful, husband.

Good luck. And have a virtual hug from me!

Answer 3

I read this poem in a book and now i think u should here it.
" I keep looking in all the places where u r suppose to be,But i never seem 2 find u and u are all i long 2 see. I just can't seem 2 understand what it was that changed ur mind,All this time i thought i knew you when really i was blind. But know that i donot hate u and u know i never will because i cared about u then and i care about u still. Even though u hurt me i cant seem 2 let u go but i will go on without u and i want 2 make sure u know. It will take some time 2 mend the damage that youve done,But broken hearts do heal thats where strength comes from. For now the tears may be falling and my thoughts keep circling to you, but things will get better IF YOU HAVE HOPE,THEN THEY ALWAYS DO."

I hope u listen 2 what that poems saying because you don't need a man in ur life 2 be happy thats what friends are for

Answer 4

Yes the hurt & pain will go away in time. You hurt now because you love(d) that person, & you had strong feelings for them. Hence why you need a hug from them, because that person was also your best friend.

That type of hurt just doesn't go away overnight.

You may hurt for days, weeks, even months, but it is necessary so that you can move forward with your life.

You'll know in your heart when you are ready to love again. I hope you find it in 2007.

Answer 5

the hurt will never go away if u still have thoughts of being with this person, or expecting him to return and be sorry. the worst thing u could do is be around someone who hurt u, as the potential for it happening again is good. u want to get away and distance yourself from someone who has hurt u. why prolong the hurt and pain, by expecting anything more from the person who has hurt u. the hurt and pain does get easier but not if u are always thinking about them, or wanting them back.

Answer 6

hi
i cheated on my wife and i beleive it is one of the worst 'crimes ' any person can commit against another.make no mistake cheating is about sex and nothing else.i was never found out but outed myself as my guilt was overwhelming and i believed that my marriage was over.my wife showed me a side of herself that i had never seen before or more likely did not want to see.
the hurt i caused her was visible in her eyes and yet she allowes me back into her life.
it is 14 years since this happened and we have had another child since there is not a day goes by without me thinking of the hurt i caused and i know i would never cheat again.my wife has forgiven me as much as any one in that position can and i will go to the end of my days earning that forgiveness.i can honestly say i love my wife with all my heart and would gladly give my life for her and i know that she loves me,she has shown it in her actions.
i think the reason you still want a hug off the person who hurt you is because you love him and if you can forgive him and he wants to be forgiven well maybe you should talk.i think the pain will ease but will always be there . i try to make sure that we have a lot of happy times in order that they can be patched together to cover the big sad time but i recognise that it is only being covered and occosionaly it is on show.i am thankful that i have had a second chance with my wife as i realise how close i came to losing this happiness and kind loving person.
hope this helps you

Answer 7

No. The mind has it way and the reminders of this act are always hidden deep in the mind and never go away. This is so true when you are still with this person. I am now divorced and find that although it doesn't hurt me anymore, it is still a part of me. Thank god...not a controlling part but more like an after thought...only when speaking of this subject.
So, always remember:
"the person that hurts you the most is the one that usually dries your tears"
Chin high and respect yourself.

Answer 8

if the wound is fresh the pain is still there.as time goes by the wound will finally healed and you can only see a scar.be strong and take the courage to move on.Behind the clouds the sun is still shining.memory may always keep coming back but let those bygone days be bygone.the only thing you could do is to treasure those moments when you were together.time will passed.who knows you will find someone who is woth loving than him.a person you could trust.give yourself the second chance to love and be loved.there's no harm in trying...you better take care of yourself it's not the end of the world.you're not the only person whose been cheated by their loved ones.there's someone out there who still cares for you...your family..your friends whom you can still lean on...

Answer 9

Its going to take allot of time.Your trust was broken and your emotional connection to this person was stepped on and squashed in the dirt.This alone is enough to make anyone miserable for along time.It will help to talk to friends and family and to be around people during this time.Keep active and try not to think about the past.Remove any old photos that remind you of the person and stay away from mutual friends or places the 2 of you used to visit.All this helps but its still hard sometimes.

Answer 10

Personally, I don't think it ever does. It truly is a violation of trust, and from my past experience, which has been years ago now, it STILL affects me with all of my relationships. If you loved and trusted someone with all of your heart, and they totally disrespected you and broke it, it is REALLY difficult to want to be vulnerable like that again. I have known no greater pain than when I was totallly manipulated and cheated on. It's hard to trust anyone, much less him! I don't see/talk or have contact with him in my life, and it's probably just better than way. In many ways, I still hate him for it, but I have moved on and am probably far better off without him. I definitely have trust issues, even though that was YEARS ago!! If he was in my life, I don't think I could trust him. I might want to, but I'm smarter now.

Answer 11

The pain will go away in time, but the hurt will last forever. Your partner violated your trust and the reality is that you will never be able to get over that, regardless of how that person tries to win it back. It will be a thought that lingers in the back of your mind forever. Not only with your current partner but even with your future partners.